I will pray for you
I am on "day 0" too, so I am at struggle myself... but my view on the M without lusting is: God commands us to not be slaves to our flesh... and M promotes gratification at an instant, a fleshly act that is giving us release "for now" with God having nothing to do with it, when He is who we are to look to for comfort. M is a counterfeit substitute for Love as I have heard someone say before.
But I discipline my body and make it my slave, so that, after I have preached to others, I myself will not be disqualified.
I Corinthians 9:27
Here is a quote I have copied to a wordpad file. I saved it so I could read it again, though I don't remember where it come from.
"No matter how successfully one reduces "M" to a clinical and mechanical act, it significantly impacts our sexuality.
Irrespective of what extremes one goes to in modifying one's technique and one's thought life to drain the act of sexual overtones, "m" is still the stimulation of sexually responsive parts of the body. It is not like waste elimination or satisfying hunger, because it meets no bodily need. Moreover, it results in sensual feelings and bodily reactions virtually indistinguishable from those resulting from heterosexual relations.
Is "m" a neutral activity rendered sexual or non-sexual according to what our thoughts focus on? Only if sexual intercourse is rendered non-sexual with no moral implications by thinking of mathematics while having intercourse."
Well... that is what I think anyway. I don't want to come off like a know it all, because I am struggling hard. I wouldn't want to appear as "righteous woodchuck" even if I wasn't struggling with this sin. I just believe in my heart that you can overcome it, you don't need M and you don't need M "without lust" either. The biggest problem is guilt... and I look to another quote that writes it out better than I could, but shows what I mean.
"That guilt has the potential to do considerable psychological and spiritual damage. Boys and girls who labor under divine condemnation can gradually become convinced that even God couldn’t love them. They promise a thousand times with great sincerity never again to commit this “despicable” act. Then a week or two passes, or perhaps several months.
Eventually, the hormonal pressure accumulates until nearly every waking moment reverberates with sexual desire. Finally, in a moment (and I do mean a moment) of weakness, it happens again. What then, dear friend? Tell me what a young person says to God after he or she has just broken the one thousandth solemn promise to Him? I am convinced that some teenagers have thrown over their faith because of their inability to please God on this point."
"As for you, you were dead in your transgressions and sins, in which you used to live when you followed the ways of this world and of the ruler of the kingdom of the air, the spirit who is now at work in those who are disobedient. All of us also lived among them at one time, gratifying the cravings of our sinful nature and following its desires and thoughts. Like the rest, we were by nature objects of wrath. But because of his great love for us, God, who is rich in mercy, made us alive with Christ even when we were dead in transgressions-it is by grace you have been saved."
-Ephesians 2:1-5
I'm praying, and I know your confusion can be cleared up. I get confused so much, but God always sets me right. I can't begin to say how much He has taught me over the last few years, but I can see changes in how I feel and I have been able to overcome many struggles through Christ... now I am here, along with all of you, at struggle with "M". I know there is a way to break the addiction, I just know it can be done.