dothackzero wrote:I need some girl friends that are huggers...
Atria35 wrote:^ The problem with ALL of that is that you're looking for girls to touch you, specifically.
If you really needed all that, you'd get uplift from guys and girls equally. You never have posted anything that has that in it. You're just looking for girls to want to touch/hug/whatever willingly. So it's not that you're touch-starved, it's that you want it from girls and are looking for ways to justify this desire.
dothackzero wrote:Let's just say that I'm more or less trying this out a science experiment.
dothackzero wrote:Like I said, I'm just trying it out... It's not like anything will change if I'm wrong.
btw, I'm not hugging random people I don't know. There are a few girls and some guys that I can hug.
Xeno wrote:dothackzero wrote:Let's just say that I'm more or less trying this out a science experiment.dothackzero wrote:Like I said, I'm just trying it out... It's not like anything will change if I'm wrong.
btw, I'm not hugging random people I don't know. There are a few girls and some guys that I can hug.
People aren't a science fair project. And what's worse, is that you're USING people that you know. And I mean that word in the sense of violating their trust in order to make yourself feel better. That's incredibly selfish.
It sounds like what you're looking for is a cat.
dothackzero wrote:Okay, so that was a bad way to explain it. I'm doing it in hopes that'll help me make friends and become closer with the ones I have, I'm just thinking that becoming less lonely and depressed will be the end result.
goldenspines wrote:Dot, your troubles may be with the fact that you've become a bit too obsessive with getting hugs specifically. Concerning your psych/social experiment, while I wouldn't say abandon the idea behind it, because it may help you understand yourself better and thus be able to relate to people better, try to take the technicality of neurons and hormones out of it. The best way to get to know a person is to spend time with them and learn more about them, to open your heart to them in order to listen to their own thoughts and feelings on things. Gather information that way and you'll probably have a lot easier time.
goldenspines wrote:In regards to your obsession with hugs, it may help you out a bit to take the focus off of fulfilling your own needs and instead trying to discover the needs of others. The beauty of humans is that everyone feels love in a different way (I do NOT mean romantic love, just to make that clear, but rather the feeling that someone cares about you), and not always in one way, either.
Keep an open mind, at least. Not everyone will feel love the same way you do, and not everyone will show love the same way you do either.
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