armeck (post: 1597097) wrote:you play magic? nice! what do you think of return to ravnica? allow me to say though, all of your threads seem to revolve around your girl issues. I'm not sure that this is healthy for you.
dothackzero (post: 1597111) wrote:Like I said, or atleast I think I said. My other friends(including the girl I'm talking about) does it too. I just tend to have bad timing, making jokes about dEck protection in a public place.
dothackzero (post: 1597111) wrote:Like I said, or atleast I think I said. My other friends(including the girl I'm talking about) does it too. I just tend to have bad timing, making jokes about dEck protection in a public place.
If physical touch is a condition for just a friendship, you're setting yourself up for a lot of disappointment. It also makes me question the intent here, you say this girl is not someone you desire as a partner, but you won't feel accepted by her unless she touches you?
If someone doesn't want to get close to you, just move on. Forcing the issue eventually comes off as desperation and being needy, which aren't attractive qualities.
Your original post stated that you struggle with feeling accepted..it sucks to go through loneliness, but you can't find happiness in other people..they don't owe you anything. I'm not trying to nag or pick on you. Don't underestimate your own value and resort to overtly sexual behavior to get attention, a lot of women can see right through that.People will want to draw closer if you give them a chance to see what you actually bring to the table.
Think of it like a salesperson, you have to tap into your CLIENT'S needs and motivations in order for them to listen to your sales pitch. You can't sell anything to anyone by telling them what YOU need out of a transaction, your client will distrust you immediately.
Likewise, you can't expect people, ladies or guys, to just want to meet your emotional/physical needs...you need to sell yourself better so that they want to be around you.
If you want to be a friend to these girls - to love them as friends - you grow up and don't demand things that make you happy. You strive to make them feel comfortable and accepted.Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Atria35 (post: 1597133) wrote:Forcing it or thinking it's owed to you is completely and utterly wrong.
Atria35 (post: 1597133) wrote:I'm just going to repeat this:
No matter what kind of physical touch you prefer or why, it's CREEPY and UNACCEPTABLE to think that a girl owes you it. To say "So how's wanting a simple hug from a girl when saying see ya(Without a girl just doing it to get it over with)at the very least so freaking unreasonable." just shows how completely immature and selfish you are when it comes to other people's comfort levels. If a girl isn't comfortable giving hugs or touching, then they have the perogative of never doing it. Forcing it or thinking it's owed to you is completely and utterly wrong.
dothackzero (post: 1597144) wrote:Actually, a better way to put it is that I'm just trying to make up for lost time.
dothackzero (post: 1597142) wrote:Actually, I wouldn't force a girl hug me if she didn't want to. But yeah it is selfish... I'm sorry.
dothackzero wrote:Actually, I wouldn't force a girl hug me if she didn't want to. But yeah it is selfish... I'm sorry.
dothackzero (post: 1596948) wrote:I'm still basically acting like I was when I was little kid, only instead of making weird noises all the time, I'm just making perverted jokes(Though my friends are doing it too, but I just tend to not know when to stop),
but I really don't know how to express myself to other people that well when talk gets more serious(Though in my own head, I'm probably as good or better than others in expressing my self.)
I don't know maybe it's a fear of being wrong or something, or being rejected. So basically do the pervered type jokes to get noticed, or I'll just be the random creepy silent person that laughs at everything.
Anyways, basically I feeling like I'm being more of pain to my friends than anything else(Well the guys know me well enough that isn't much of a problem).
(This mostly where I'm depressed, and I'm not even looking at her as a potentional girlfriend/wife.)
Even tonight when we were hanging and started to go, she gave me a hug, but it was one the extreme side hugs where it's just doing it to get me to leave her alone or something.
I mean it like we're fine when were playing Magic and having fun, but I'm still really feeling accepted with her.
As for the girl I was talking about before, I do feel accepted around her and I do have her number. But we haven't had a chance to hang out yet since she's busy with work and stuff, and really just hanging out with ever. So I just haven't been able to hang out with for a while
goldenspines (post: 1597150) wrote:It may help you quite a bit to start accepting yourself, Dot, and not trying to fit into a certain "This is how I'm suppose to be" mold (aka: Stop beating yourself up all the time. It's not noble and really won't help you move forward, man). Not everyone is going to have the same experiences in life, in relationships, etc. Start from square one and take it one step at a time at your own pace. You're not "behind" in anything, so don't feel the need to somehow rush ahead to "Point X" in your life.
Yuki-Anne (post: 1597179) wrote:1. It's okay to be introverted. Some girls like that. Speaking from personal experience, if a girl likes a shy guy she will find ways to be around him and get him to talk.
Yuki-Anne (post: 1597179) wrote:3. Stop focusing on what you're NOT good at. I have never once heard you talk about what you ARE good at. What are your strengths? What your qualities? Who are you? All I've been able to gather from your threads are that you are lonely, shy, and uncomfortably obsessed with getting girls to like you. But there's more to you than that, and I want to encourage you to see it. What are you good at? Find out, and get better at it. What are you interested in, aside from girls and marrying one of them? Become an expert in that. Heck, if all you can think about is girls, study psychology and find out everything you can about how women think and what they want and what they like. Read books about women. You'll be surprised at the insight you can find.
Yuki-Anne (post: 1597179) wrote:4. What is your mission, soldier?
Yuki-Anne (post: 1597179) wrote:5. Stop worrying about side-hugs, bro. A side-hug is better than, "Ugh, don't touch me," but it's also not a secret, "LOVE ME PLEASE." A side-hug is a form of hug and nothing more or less than that.
Users browsing this forum: No registered users and 229 guests