Jingo Jaden (post: 1496863) wrote:Wrong question and wrong reasons to ask said question.
You should not be in a rush to get married, why? Because the romance and honeymoon is likely to die out sooner rather than later, and if you don't have love after that, you frankly have nothing that will keep the relationship from imploding. Besides, God's probably not going to give you any girl in the sense that it will magically descend too your doorstep, regardless of her weight. The best guarantee for a good looking girl is firstly being good-looking oneself, having a good paycheck and overall being a good person. Sure, there are exceptions to this, but the *Will God give me* mentality is wrong 9/10 times.
Most likely you're going to have to do what other people do to get a wife. Which is search for it yourself. The positive with this is that you won't have to choose a wife you've got no idea how she looks, or what she likes. Meaning that, you won't have to get a wife you find unattractive, most people don't. And also, it kind of depends on what kind of stuff you are into as you did not specify. If it is anime, you still got a pretty broad horizon. If it is something that completely alienates the female population, sure, you're likely to narrow the options down.
Every word QFT.Radical Dreamer (post: 1496843) wrote:I don't think that God forces us to marry (or even be attracted to) anyone. If you're not attracted to someone, then you're not attracted to them, and having a mindset that makes you think you should be attracted to them just because you think God has brought them into your life for a romantic purpose (especially when He clearly hasn't) isn't wise. In fact, if you act out that line of thought, it's only going to lead to hurting that person, and probably yourself, too.
PS: I wouldn't repeat what you said up there to your friend. Even if I wasn't interested in a person, I would feel pretty offended if he told me all of the reasons why he found me unattractive.
ChristianKitsune (post: 1496913) wrote:You know, I'm really glad people in this thread are being so nice...it's given me a reason to hold back my tongue a bit.
Because to be honest, this sort of thing really bothers me.
As an "overweight and probably unattractive" person, I have to tell you that no matter what a person looks like, they are still LOVED and VALUED by God. So I guess to me, you're kind of saying "Sorry, Lord, but these girls that are bigger aren't worth it to me."
That may or may not be what you're saying, but that's certainly the implications of your statement. Its the whole, "Gotta be a super model to be considered worthwhile." mindset that our country is infatuated with.
Unfortunately beauty doesn't last, it fades over time, I hope you find someone who you can both love and cherish despite how they look...because honestly. That is what matters the most. And like others have pointed out it's a bit shallow to think that it will last.
I suppose weight is something I have struggled with all my life, and it is threads like this, that really hurt a great deal.
I hope you find what you are looking for.
dothackzero (post: 1496937) wrote: But the looks gotta be their too, I'm not saying that I'm looking for a super model, just a girl that looks good to me.
Kaligraphic (post: 1496949) wrote:Okay, I think we've got some misunderstandings going on here.
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