1. Self-sufficiency does not happen by overnight. It takes years to fully get down, and many people, from their teens to their fifties, struggle with it. You said you can buy things, which is good, but might I suggest saving and balancing your money. Small steps to take to get this started are: keeping a list of what you buy for one month giving yourself a set amount of money to spend (this will help give you an idea of a budget), learn how to write checks, and start a savings account of your own.
I do try to save some of the allowance I have for washing dishes. Thanks for explaning this even more. I needed it.
2. It is very common to have feelings of annoyance when thrown into a mess of people, whether they are family or not. Some people are more seclusive than others, and find more happiness in being alone than being with children. Do not feel guilty because of this...it is a perfectly natural feeling. One thing you could try is letting them participate in an activity that you are doing. Young children like to interact with older people. They begin to idolize them and sometimes pick up a trait or hobby of theirs. If you are not fighting over something, things will be more peaceful.
Thanks. I will try to do more activities with my siblings, nieces and nephew.
3. It can be very difficult to reach out to people. It takes courage. Part of the process starts with learning to talk to yourself....by feeling comfortable in your own skin. When you think about calling this boy, instead of worrying over it, throw caution to the wind, dial him up, and say " Hey. What's going on?". Sometimes you have to do something that makes you uncomfortable. If it helps, practice what you will say to him before you call.
You can never grow unless you do something that scares you.
This will help. Thanks.
4. If you want to be more helpful around the house, start with little things. When you walk into a room, pick it up. Dust every now and then. Start doing your own laundry. ( If you don't know how, ask your grandmother.) You said you wanted to cook more, but struggled with laziness. One big way of showing consideration could be making dinner for your family every now and then. Start with what you know, and work your way up. Ask for your family's help, buy yourself a beginner's cookbook, or if you don't have any cash send me a PM about how to cook something. ( I used to be a caterer, and I am always wandering the site.) These are some things to think about anyway.
I do my own laundry. Just small loads. I will do the rest of what you said.
5. Sense of direction comes from go places. Some people go by street names, and some go by landmarks. It seems that most of your problems come from self-confidence issues. Before going out, make yourself up, walk over to the mirror, and say " Girl! You look good!" It sounds silly, but it is a exercise to enhance self-confidence. Try it for a week or so.
I do put on make up, but I do need to build up more of my self-confidence. I'll try to go with one of my siblings or someone to get around and/or I might go to an online map to get around. Thanks.
6. The job market is a tough place right now. If you have transportation available to you, go out and fill out some applications. Try a few temp services. Job searching is rough...that is all I can say.
I hope this helps you in some way. Feel free to PM me anytime. I'll be praying.
My grandfather or someone would have to take me. I would have to go to the Department of Rehabilitation first before I can fill out a form to get a job like Barnes and Noble or something. Thanks for all your help.