uc pseudonym wrote:excepting movie stars, who divorce people every lunch break or so.
uc pseudonym wrote:A word about everyone who listed looks (and I paint with a broad brush). Such a transient trait. Look at pictures of your parents years ago... most of the time they look incredibly different. Some couples I know have four or five different phases, during each of which their appearances totally change. Think about it honestly... your body starts going downhill (in an overall sense) at about age 40. Assuming you intend to live a while, you could spend two thirds of your life with your spouse deteriorating, every day becoming less than you once were, leading up toward inevitable death. Most people lose their looks quickly, even faster if the other person has youthful standards (as most youth today do). The merest fraction of anyone's marraige will be with a person who looks the same as they did on the day of marraige...
uc pseudonym wrote:Um... sorry? The only actual intention was to point out how little such things matter, which is why other qualities matter so much more.
uc pseudonym wrote:You take me too literally, anonymous.
A word about everyone who listed looks (and I paint with a broad brush). Such a transient trait. Look at pictures of your parents years ago... most of the time they look incredibly different. Some couples I know have four or five different phases, during each of which their appearances totally change. Think about it honestly... your body starts going downhill (in an overall sense) at about age 40. Assuming you intend to live a while, you could spend two thirds of your life with your spouse deteriorating, every day becoming less than you once were, leading up toward inevitable death. Most people lose their looks quickly, even faster if the other person has youthful standards (as most youth today do). The merest fraction of anyone's marraige will be with a person who looks the same as they did on the day of marraige... excepting movie stars, who divorce people every lunch break or so.
uc pseudonym wrote:And now, a post in a completely different direction, which is why I'm giving it a post by itself. Certain individuals have been bugging me about my lack of participation in the original intent of this thread. Very well:
1. Possesses a message in large flames from God ordering me to marry them.
If I feel led, I will except medium sized flames.
Anyway, as someone said, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Meaning, someone that's cute to me might not be cute to you. If you truly love them, you'll be physically attracted to them no matter what they look like.
But are you saying you wouldn't want to have a cute wife?
uc pseudonym wrote:Apparently I start talking and people get depressed. I've been dealing with that my whole life. I doubt I can ever make anyone feel better, which is why I generally keep my trap shut. Glad you understand what's really important, Rev. Doc.
I have often thought about this, and in a way, you are right. If we take the culturally defined definition of cuteness and apply it to everyone, then some people are going to appear better than others. There is a certain kind of person who is attracted to that ideal, but there are also plenty of people who have different ideas of beauty. If someone is unattractive to me as a result of something that they cannot change, then a relationship is probably not meant to be. It is my belief that a relationship should start out with as many things in its favor as possible, so dating/marrying someone to whom you are not physically attracted is asking for trouble. And, it doesn't take a great deal of observation to realize that different people are attracted to different things, so there is no need to worry about those that we consider to be ugly.uc pseudonym wrote:However, let me also put it this way: what about everyone who doesn't fall into the "cute" category? If I state that such things are desirable, I'm essentially telling them that they're worse for something they have no power whatsoever to change.
WhiteBlaze wrote:Yeah that's the trouble stating the facts of life isn't it you know a major portion of people believe that the world is just one big happy place but its not and things are only going to get worse so yeah that's kinda depressing but what makes the difference is Jesus he is the real happiness of a Christian and as long as you look to him everyday he will keep you happy now I'm not saying you wont ever be depressed because you probably will but all you got to do in those situation is turn you thoughts over to God! and I like your post UC that was well thought out and it gives the right perspective on "looks"
Destroyer2000 wrote:Let's take this topic back to what it was meant to be: an upbeat, fun topic. Not one that discusses philosiphies.
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