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Serious problem...
Huff... i have this problem... and its kinda weird, and i dont know what to do... Its about my dad... he has this thing with porn... i keep finding it in his van(he has a mobile office because he works for state farm insurance). and i think hes "messing around" behind my moms back. i really dont know what to do or even if i shoud post this... mods, if you deem this unacceptable i apolagize and will hold no grudge if you take it down. i just want to know what i should do..
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carneman - Posts: 85
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carneman wrote:Huff... i have this problem... and its kinda weird, and i dont know what to do... Its about my dad... he has this thing with porn... i keep finding it in his van(he has a mobile office because he works for state farm insurance). and i think hes "messing around" behind my moms back. i really dont know what to do or even if i shoud post this... mods, if you deem this unacceptable i apolagize and will hold no grudge if you take it down. i just want to know what i should do..
:/ sorry you're having to deal with this.
My personal opinion on this situation is first...pray about it. 'Cause in the end you wont be able to change your dad, only God can.
Secondly, I recommend confronting him about it if he doesn't already realize you know. or even if he does realize actually. We're called to confront people with their sin. One on one or with someone if necessary. Obviously there's a right and a wrong way to do that.....the right way needing much prayer and love and God's guidance for the right words. but yea.it's very important.
i dunno as my comments are worth much.b ut maybe somebody can take what I said and add to it with the Bible and such. i'm so worn out I can't. but yea....good luck with this!
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FadedOne - Posts: 881
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Don't worry, carneman, there isn't a problem with bringing up this issue for prayer and advice. But, I do think that you will get better advice and responses about this in the prayer forum, not to mention it will fit in better there. So, I'm going to go ahead and move it. Hope you get some good answers, and I'll pray for you!
Be Thou my Vision, O Lord of my heart;
Naught be all else to me, save that Thou art
Thou my best Thought, by day or by night,
Waking or sleeping, Thy presence my light.
Be Thou my Wisdom, and Thou my true Word;
I ever with Thee and Thou with me, Lord;
Thou my great Father, I Thy true son;
Thou in me dwelling, and I with Thee one.
Be Thou my battle Shield, Sword for the fight;
Be Thou my Dignity, Thou my Delight;
Thou my soul’s Shelter, Thou my high Tower:
Raise Thou me heavenward, O Power of my power.
Riches I heed not, nor man’s empty praise,
Thou mine Inheritance, now and always:
Thou and Thou only, first in my heart,
High King of Heaven, my Treasure Thou art.
High King of Heaven, my victory won,
May I reach Heaven’s joys, O bright Heaven’s Sun!
Heart of my own heart, whatever befall,
Still be my Vision, O Ruler of all.
Naught be all else to me, save that Thou art
Thou my best Thought, by day or by night,
Waking or sleeping, Thy presence my light.
Be Thou my Wisdom, and Thou my true Word;
I ever with Thee and Thou with me, Lord;
Thou my great Father, I Thy true son;
Thou in me dwelling, and I with Thee one.
Be Thou my battle Shield, Sword for the fight;
Be Thou my Dignity, Thou my Delight;
Thou my soul’s Shelter, Thou my high Tower:
Raise Thou me heavenward, O Power of my power.
Riches I heed not, nor man’s empty praise,
Thou mine Inheritance, now and always:
Thou and Thou only, first in my heart,
High King of Heaven, my Treasure Thou art.
High King of Heaven, my victory won,
May I reach Heaven’s joys, O bright Heaven’s Sun!
Heart of my own heart, whatever befall,
Still be my Vision, O Ruler of all.
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Yumie - Posts: 1939
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thank you for responding but i have something else to add. i'm pretty sure my mom knows about the porn and we both only have suspicuns about the affair...
But thank you for helping me out. i sure need it.
But thank you for helping me out. i sure need it.
Jesus gives you wiiings!
I find your lack of faith disturbing... -Darth Vader, Star Wars A New Hope
^_^x Who loves Rurouni Kenshin?
(O-O) <-----glasses pride
I find your lack of faith disturbing... -Darth Vader, Star Wars A New Hope
^_^x Who loves Rurouni Kenshin?
(O-O) <-----glasses pride
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carneman - Posts: 85
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I'm sorry I don't really have any good advice, but I will be praying that God will give you and your mom wisdom.
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meboeck - Posts: 1311
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Oh my goodness.
This is not good. I would be so disturbed if it turned out that my father would be doing that. Ouch. I probably would sit in a corner or so to try and deal with it.
Yes, prayer is important. And I suppose he's not saved?
REALLY? OoO
I did not know that, WHERE DOES IT SAY THAT??? O_O
*does Bible search*
thanks for posting that. O.O;
This is not good. I would be so disturbed if it turned out that my father would be doing that. Ouch. I probably would sit in a corner or so to try and deal with it.
Yes, prayer is important. And I suppose he's not saved?
FadedOne wrote:Secondly, I recommend confronting him about it if he doesn't already realize you know. or even if he does realize actually. We're called to confront people with their sin.
REALLY? OoO
I did not know that, WHERE DOES IT SAY THAT??? O_O
*does Bible search*
thanks for posting that. O.O;
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Ryupower - Posts: 1056
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i don't know. he says he is a christian but he hasn't been to church in a long time. i put a note in his wallet telling him i know, so well see what happents.
Jesus gives you wiiings!
I find your lack of faith disturbing... -Darth Vader, Star Wars A New Hope
^_^x Who loves Rurouni Kenshin?
(O-O) <-----glasses pride
I find your lack of faith disturbing... -Darth Vader, Star Wars A New Hope
^_^x Who loves Rurouni Kenshin?
(O-O) <-----glasses pride
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carneman - Posts: 85
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[quote="Ryupower"]REALLY? OoO
I did not know that, WHERE DOES IT SAY THAT??? O_O
*does Bible search*
thanks for posting that. O.O]
Matthew 18:15-17-- "If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother. 16But if he does not listen, take one or two others along with you, that every charge may be established by the evidence of two or three witnesses. If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church. And if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector."
This could be the passage that FadedOne was referring to. However, I'm pretty sure there are a few other that address confronting others about their sin that are more appropriate to the situation, I just can't think of them right now. . . If I come up with them, I'll let you all know.
I did not know that, WHERE DOES IT SAY THAT??? O_O
*does Bible search*
thanks for posting that. O.O]
Matthew 18:15-17-- "If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother. 16But if he does not listen, take one or two others along with you, that every charge may be established by the evidence of two or three witnesses. If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church. And if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector."
This could be the passage that FadedOne was referring to. However, I'm pretty sure there are a few other that address confronting others about their sin that are more appropriate to the situation, I just can't think of them right now. . . If I come up with them, I'll let you all know.
Be Thou my Vision, O Lord of my heart;
Naught be all else to me, save that Thou art
Thou my best Thought, by day or by night,
Waking or sleeping, Thy presence my light.
Be Thou my Wisdom, and Thou my true Word;
I ever with Thee and Thou with me, Lord;
Thou my great Father, I Thy true son;
Thou in me dwelling, and I with Thee one.
Be Thou my battle Shield, Sword for the fight;
Be Thou my Dignity, Thou my Delight;
Thou my soul’s Shelter, Thou my high Tower:
Raise Thou me heavenward, O Power of my power.
Riches I heed not, nor man’s empty praise,
Thou mine Inheritance, now and always:
Thou and Thou only, first in my heart,
High King of Heaven, my Treasure Thou art.
High King of Heaven, my victory won,
May I reach Heaven’s joys, O bright Heaven’s Sun!
Heart of my own heart, whatever befall,
Still be my Vision, O Ruler of all.
Naught be all else to me, save that Thou art
Thou my best Thought, by day or by night,
Waking or sleeping, Thy presence my light.
Be Thou my Wisdom, and Thou my true Word;
I ever with Thee and Thou with me, Lord;
Thou my great Father, I Thy true son;
Thou in me dwelling, and I with Thee one.
Be Thou my battle Shield, Sword for the fight;
Be Thou my Dignity, Thou my Delight;
Thou my soul’s Shelter, Thou my high Tower:
Raise Thou me heavenward, O Power of my power.
Riches I heed not, nor man’s empty praise,
Thou mine Inheritance, now and always:
Thou and Thou only, first in my heart,
High King of Heaven, my Treasure Thou art.
High King of Heaven, my victory won,
May I reach Heaven’s joys, O bright Heaven’s Sun!
Heart of my own heart, whatever befall,
Still be my Vision, O Ruler of all.
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Wow, I will definatly pray for you in this. Having to deal with that type of secret has to be hard, so I hope this situation works out well for you and your Dad.
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My heart breaks for you bro, I'll pray for you. Rest on God and work things out as God leads you - let God worry about changing the heart. -SH-
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How painful, I'll pray for you and your family.
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For one, Prometheus, there was no need to gravedig this thread. Second, we here at CAA do not require our members to be Christians, but we do require that you respect our beliefs without being antagonistic toward us and our beliefs.
Yes, it is his choice, and yes he has sinned if he is viewing pornography, and yes he will have to face God if he never repents. That is the purpose of this thread: to request prayer for his father, that he may understand that what he does is a sin and that he needs to repent.
Finally, Prometheus, your "libertarian" stance implies a political viewpoint. Here at CAA, we ask that you leave politics at the door.
Now, returning to the topic, I am, as others are, praying for your father, Carneman.
Prometheus wrote:It is his choice and if he has sinned by your god, he will have to accept whatver consequences your religion has.
Yes, it is his choice, and yes he has sinned if he is viewing pornography, and yes he will have to face God if he never repents. That is the purpose of this thread: to request prayer for his father, that he may understand that what he does is a sin and that he needs to repent.
Finally, Prometheus, your "libertarian" stance implies a political viewpoint. Here at CAA, we ask that you leave politics at the door.
Now, returning to the topic, I am, as others are, praying for your father, Carneman.
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Yumie wrote:Matthew 18:15-17-- "If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother. 16But if he does not listen, take one or two others along with you, that every charge may be established by the evidence of two or three witnesses. If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church. And if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector."
This could be the passage that FadedOne was referring to. However, I'm pretty sure there are a few other that address confronting others about their sin that are more appropriate to the situation, I just can't think of them right now. . . If I come up with them, I'll let you all know.
thanks you very much!
And continuing to pray! ^^
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i know what ya' mean. i'll be praying! and yeah, you should definitely confront him about it. keeping it hush-hush will only prolong the situation.
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