how is every body doing? I am doing ok. except I am really starting to get really **** OFF WITH MY MOTHER! don't get me wrong I love my mother, but for the past month or so, all she does is send negative comments toward me. after a while, it starts to take affect in many different ways. for one, I fined my self getting mad over nothing. Second, It has sent me into a slump, were I really don't care about anything. third, it is really taking away from my motivation. I am starting to snap at my mother just about every day. she will not get off my back! she is blaming me for everything!
don't even tell me to get over it! when you are constantly bombarded with negative comments, and people telling you are not "good" enough. it really brings you down. its even worse when when not one person gives you an positive feedback. I only know one person who really tells me good job, and keep up the good work. and its from a really unlikely sours. a young 14 year old girl, from CAA. its funny that a I get more respect form 14 year old girl, more so then my own mother. I just want to thank you Christian Girl.
every time I try to talk to my mother about it, she always starts putting me down again. and I will ether snap at her, or I walk away. I always end up walking away. I am afraid that if this continues, I will forget to walk away and just lay down all the stops and snap at my own mother.
so what I am asking is not only for Prayer, but for advice as well.
thanks for taking the time to read this, thank you and God bless
I am about to snap
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SilverFang - Posts: 277
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I know how that is-- sometimes I get bugged to death when my mom constantly is getting on to me and my siblings for little things (I don't think it's as bad for me though as it sounds like it is for you though.) I will pray for you that you and your mom will work on understanding eachother better. Especially that she will start listening to your concerns about the affect this situation is having on your behavior. Just try to hang in there and have patience no matter how crazy the situation is, and know you have my prayers! 
If you have any more problems and need someone to talk to, just send a pm my way any time.
If you have any more problems and need someone to talk to, just send a pm my way any time.Be Thou my Vision, O Lord of my heart;
Naught be all else to me, save that Thou art
Thou my best Thought, by day or by night,
Waking or sleeping, Thy presence my light.
Be Thou my Wisdom, and Thou my true Word;
I ever with Thee and Thou with me, Lord;
Thou my great Father, I Thy true son;
Thou in me dwelling, and I with Thee one.
Be Thou my battle Shield, Sword for the fight;
Be Thou my Dignity, Thou my Delight;
Thou my soul’s Shelter, Thou my high Tower:
Raise Thou me heavenward, O Power of my power.
Riches I heed not, nor man’s empty praise,
Thou mine Inheritance, now and always:
Thou and Thou only, first in my heart,
High King of Heaven, my Treasure Thou art.
High King of Heaven, my victory won,
May I reach Heaven’s joys, O bright Heaven’s Sun!
Heart of my own heart, whatever befall,
Still be my Vision, O Ruler of all.
Naught be all else to me, save that Thou art
Thou my best Thought, by day or by night,
Waking or sleeping, Thy presence my light.
Be Thou my Wisdom, and Thou my true Word;
I ever with Thee and Thou with me, Lord;
Thou my great Father, I Thy true son;
Thou in me dwelling, and I with Thee one.
Be Thou my battle Shield, Sword for the fight;
Be Thou my Dignity, Thou my Delight;
Thou my soul’s Shelter, Thou my high Tower:
Raise Thou me heavenward, O Power of my power.
Riches I heed not, nor man’s empty praise,
Thou mine Inheritance, now and always:
Thou and Thou only, first in my heart,
High King of Heaven, my Treasure Thou art.
High King of Heaven, my victory won,
May I reach Heaven’s joys, O bright Heaven’s Sun!
Heart of my own heart, whatever befall,
Still be my Vision, O Ruler of all.
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Yumie - Posts: 1939
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I'll pray for you, because I know how it feels, as much as I love my mommy too. ^^
As for advice...it seems you walk away too much. I think you should stay and keep your stand and if she really seems to be pushing you on edge, take deep breaths and try to calm down. Maybe if she sees you trying to work it out, she will too.
As for advice...it seems you walk away too much. I think you should stay and keep your stand and if she really seems to be pushing you on edge, take deep breaths and try to calm down. Maybe if she sees you trying to work it out, she will too.
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Puguni - Posts: 1323
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Sounds like we need to pray for both of you.
Things like this can be really hard. Hang in there, man. You do have worth, even if that doesn't come over from your family.
Most parents really do love their children, even if they don't know how to show it.
We'll definitely pray for you.
Things like this can be really hard. Hang in there, man. You do have worth, even if that doesn't come over from your family.
Most parents really do love their children, even if they don't know how to show it.
We'll definitely pray for you.
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Alice - Posts: 1707
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It's very difficult to give you specific advice without knowing your situation at home. However, has your mother been like this long? Perhaps there is some external stress on her (finances, abusive co-workers, other problems at work) and she is just lashing out at the first person she sees.
It's difficult communication time: You may need to very calmly ask her why she is being so critical. This might seem rediculous, but short of counseling, it's about the only way to go. This might go better if she is in a good mood first. Say "Hey, Mom, yesterday you got mad at me for <fill in episode here>. You seemed really upset about it, but this kind of thing used to not make you mad. Is there something we need to talk about? You've been really stressed out lately." Listen closely to everything she says, because she may drop hints here, even if she snaps at you. Do not enter an argument. If she says "get your room cleaned up" or "cut your hair", you might say "I understand you want me to clean up my room, but is that really all you want me to do?"
OK, I'm not a counselor so I'll get off the soap box now and just pray for you both. PM me at will.
It's difficult communication time: You may need to very calmly ask her why she is being so critical. This might seem rediculous, but short of counseling, it's about the only way to go. This might go better if she is in a good mood first. Say "Hey, Mom, yesterday you got mad at me for <fill in episode here>. You seemed really upset about it, but this kind of thing used to not make you mad. Is there something we need to talk about? You've been really stressed out lately." Listen closely to everything she says, because she may drop hints here, even if she snaps at you. Do not enter an argument. If she says "get your room cleaned up" or "cut your hair", you might say "I understand you want me to clean up my room, but is that really all you want me to do?"
OK, I'm not a counselor so I'll get off the soap box now and just pray for you both. PM me at will.
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aaw..im sorry(hugs) ill pray but im afraid i cant give you any advice
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SilverFang - Posts: 277
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I'll be prayign for you, I was having problems with my mother as well not too long ago. 
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I really like you and I hate to see you unhappy.Heart of Sword's Rhapsody
Money, get away
Get a good job with good pay and you're okay
And all and all you're just another brick in the wall
Shoutin’ in the street gonna take on the world some day
But Bismallah will not let me go
Because I'll see you on the dark side of the moon
Tommy used to work on the docks
Union's been on strike
Bright eyes burning like fire
And exposing every weakness
However carefully hidden by the kids
Who will love a little Sparrow
Who's traveled far and cries for rest
Spare him his life from this monstrosity
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And if the band youre in starts playing different tunes
We will we will rock you
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Money, get away
Get a good job with good pay and you're okay
And all and all you're just another brick in the wall
Shoutin’ in the street gonna take on the world some day
But Bismallah will not let me go
Because I'll see you on the dark side of the moon
Tommy used to work on the docks
Union's been on strike
Bright eyes burning like fire
And exposing every weakness
However carefully hidden by the kids
Who will love a little Sparrow
Who's traveled far and cries for rest
Spare him his life from this monstrosity
I've seen a million faces and I've rocked them all
And if the band youre in starts playing different tunes
We will we will rock you
We will we will rock you!
[Pink Floyd fan listening to Queen and hugging trees which is also known as taking care of God's creation with a pair of headphones on listening to Nightwish as loud as possible while writing a novel on a computer in the middle of a field filled with Wolves.]
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Heart of Sword - Posts: 2201
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Welcome to the official "I have a really critical mother who means well but now I'm buggin'" club.
Okay, all joking aside, I know how you feel. My mom can be critical at times. Oi. The best advice I can give you is just pray. Before you're about to explode you just have to ask God for strength that you won't say something you'll later regret. (which in my case means being grounded
) As others have said, she's probably going through a stressful time.
I feel for ya. It's not fun being criticised. And I'll pray as well.
Welcome to the official "I have a really critical mother who means well but now I'm buggin'" club.
Okay, all joking aside, I know how you feel. My mom can be critical at times. Oi. The best advice I can give you is just pray. Before you're about to explode you just have to ask God for strength that you won't say something you'll later regret. (which in my case means being grounded
) As others have said, she's probably going through a stressful time.
I feel for ya. It's not fun being criticised. And I'll pray as well.
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I pray for you Sparten, I hope things go well between you and your mother.
Have a nice talk with each other and explain how you about her doing this. Maybe that will help.
Have a nice talk with each other and explain how you about her doing this. Maybe that will help.
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We have been here long enough to know
That we are all brothers and sisters in Christ,
So if you are in need of help,
We shall give you His advice.
May God add his blessings upon you,
That you will live this day and forever,
And when He comes to the earth again,
We will all go together...
Into Heaven for Eternity...
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