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Postby BigZam » Sun Sep 25, 2005 6:19 pm

no not the System Of A Down song *mumbles* but seriously. so theres this girl. and i kinda like her and shes a good Christian girl. the only problem is shes 13 and in 8th grade and i'm 15 in 10th grade. and it would be kinda weird if i went out with her cuz my brother's the same age. advice please...?
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Postby Slater » Sun Sep 25, 2005 6:20 pm

uhm... wait a year and a half and it'll be perfect ^^
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Postby Eriana » Sun Sep 25, 2005 7:49 pm

Wait. See what God says and then go from there.
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Postby Locke » Sun Sep 25, 2005 7:57 pm

Move to Utah.






jk. >->


I'll echo what the previus people have said and add that it is'nt wrong per-se but waiting is a way better solution.
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Postby Mr. SmartyPants » Sun Sep 25, 2005 7:58 pm

wait like 7-10 years then itll work... okay thats a very broad statement
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Postby BigZam » Sun Sep 25, 2005 7:59 pm

Mr. SmartyPants wrote:wait like 7-10 years then itll work... okay thats a very broad statement


7-10 years?! dang dude...
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Postby Locke » Sun Sep 25, 2005 8:01 pm

Hey people have waited longer...I think >_>
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Postby BigZam » Sun Sep 25, 2005 8:03 pm

Locke wrote:Move to Utah.






jk. >->


I'll echo what the previus people have said and add that it is'nt wrong per-se but waiting is a way better solution.
Just be friends, see how it works out.


whoa i live in Utah....
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Postby Eriana » Sun Sep 25, 2005 8:03 pm

BigZam wrote:7-10 years?! dang dude...


I don't think you have to wait that long unless God tells you too. ^^;;;
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Postby Scribs » Sun Sep 25, 2005 9:01 pm

whoa i live in Utah....
Perfect! :thumb:

Just kidding. Ok, in high school, it is sometimes a bit wierd for a guy to date a girl 2 years younger than him. It happens but it is usually weird when it happens. (had to endure a bus ride through europe with a couple of pairs like this.) Plus, she in in junior high. Thats too young to be dating and you arn't Mr. Old-and-mature yourself either. Wait it out, just like I told the other guy who was asking a similar quesiton a day or two ago. You are 15 wait at least 2 or three years, and then try to pick somone that is your age. If your relationship gets at all serious, which is sort of the goal of a relationship, you are going to have to deal with a highschool girlfriend when you are in college. Wait it out. The phase will pass, and you will (mostlikely) say "wow, that would have been a bit odd. I am glad I listend to that guy with the ugly dude in his avatar."

You are 15. This is probably just a crush. It will pass (mostlikely). I had them at 15 and they passed. I am very, very glad that I never acted upon them. You will be to, though you probably wont think so now. Anyway, thats my 2 cents.
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Postby Kiba-kun » Sun Sep 25, 2005 9:27 pm

truthfully i say if you like her, ask her out.

I dated a girl that was two years younger than me and that went on for about a year but then she moved so the realation ship ended, then i dated a girl a year younger but that didnt last more than a month, and right now i'm dating a girl two years older than me, and frankly i dont care who knows. Of course there's always the after effect of dating which i think most ppl fear. well anyway that's what i think about it. sorry for going into my life just trying to show examples.
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Postby ~Natsumi Lam~ » Sun Sep 25, 2005 9:41 pm

i would said ... wait to date when you can afford her.

i didnt start dating till i was 18-19. And that is still to young... dating really hurts your sexual purity, and your schooling!!! You have divided interests and school always seems to become second place and so does your relationship with God with you become "active". So, i say wait because you have so much time to decide... and dont ruin your early years.



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Postby dragonshimmer » Mon Sep 26, 2005 7:31 am

The older you get, the less age matters. There's nothing really wrong with dating someone younger than yourself, but the younger you are, the more the difference in age matters. 8th grade IS a bit young to be dating, in my opinion. People mature at different levels, though. My own personal advice would be to just wait and be really good friends with her for a while. : ) You've got plenty of time to date in the future.
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Postby BigZam » Mon Sep 26, 2005 2:51 pm

hmm....well cuz my parents are two years apart and that worked out....
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Postby Scribs » Mon Sep 26, 2005 3:27 pm

hmm....well cuz my parents are two years apart and that worked out....
well, were they 15 and 13 when they first started going out? Hm?

There is a song in a gilbert and sullivan allong these lines. In it the protagonisht sings that when he a babe of 2 was betrothed to princess Ida who was one, there was a big fuss becuase he was twice his age, but now that he was in his twentys she had caught up with him, and was now only 1 twentieth younger than him.

That is an abstract example but, the moral is the same. When you are in your twentys 2 years difference is not a big deal, but when you are 15 it is more so. Wait a few years. The age difference will become smaller.
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Postby dragonshimmer » Mon Sep 26, 2005 3:39 pm

Scribs wrote:well, were they 15 and 13 when they first started going out? Hm?

There is a song in a gilbert and sullivan allong these lines. In it the protagonisht sings that when he a babe of 2 was betrothed to princess Ida who was one, there was a big fuss becuase he was twice his age, but now that he was in his twentys she had caught up with him, and was now only 1 twentieth younger than him.

That is an abstract example but, the moral is the same. When you are in your twentys 2 years difference is not a big deal, but when you are 15 it is more so. Wait a few years. The age difference will become smaller.



You put what I was TRYING to say in the form of a very good example, lol. Curse not being eloquent sometimes!
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Postby BigZam » Mon Sep 26, 2005 4:19 pm

sigh. i don't know what to do......but i do appreciate all of your opinions...
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Postby Eriana » Mon Sep 26, 2005 5:25 pm

Why don't you ask God? When it comes down to it all only God's divine plan will work. don't worry about it, and don't rush into things.
I would see what she thinks too, and maybe talk to your parents about it.
My main opinion would be for you to ask for God's guidance. I had a problem like this one time but I really realized the only good advice I was given came from the Lord Himself. Please, if you haven't prayed already start doing it.
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Postby steelbeliever » Mon Sep 26, 2005 5:28 pm

...i would personally wait...thirteen is too young to date...15 is kinda pushing the envelope in my book...but that's me...
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Postby animegirl1 » Mon Sep 26, 2005 5:31 pm

um well when u get older it doesnt matter that much cause my moms 8 years younger than my dad and their in love
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Postby BigZam » Tue Sep 27, 2005 2:20 pm

Eriana wrote:Why don't you ask God? When it comes down to it all only God's divine plan will work. don't worry about it, and don't rush into things.
I would see what she thinks too, and maybe talk to your parents about it.
My main opinion would be for you to ask for God's guidance. I had a problem like this one time but I really realized the only good advice I was given came from the Lord Himself. Please, if you haven't prayed already start doing it.


heh. i shoulda just done that in the first place. thanks. i'm a lil slow sometimes.
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