Wiggins... good questions... shows you're seeking God out (form the looks of things).
As far as listening ot God I would suggest two books, but I can't think of the titles (interestingly enough, they come from very different viewpoints, but I think they complement each other nicely). The one I can remember, Hippo in the Garden by ummm... darn. cant' think of the name. He's the pastor over the guy who started Promise Keepers (or was). The other book I don't know the tile or author of, I'm hoping I can think of it sometime in the next day or two. He was a former Charasmatic and the book was never returned when it was loaned to an ex-pastor of mine (mostly due to some shots the author took at a south-african evangelist that was popular at the time)... what I liked about it was that the advice was sound.
I didn't take his personal issues as a personal attack on me, but some people do (and I've been there, so I can understand how they feel, even if they should know better
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But I'm getting off track.
As for the 3 - in - 1 thing... it can be a bit confusing, and frankly in the end a complete understanding of it isn't necessary... it's a bit weird really, I think ultimately we get to the point where we just have to take the whole thing on faith... they are 3 people, but they are 1 person.
You will get all sorts of inturpretations of the situation... as from what I understand (over the years) is that God does all the foot-work (he answers the prayers, or delegates the work for the answering, or whatever)... Yeshua/Jesus is the authority by which we ask for things, thus the "ask in my name" scripture(s). The Holy Spirit is our guide... our teacher.
Over the years I've heard everything from "you should pray to each of them," to " you can pray to each of them," to "you should only pray to God." My personal opinion is that if it's one of those specifically God will call you out on it personally and correct you (unless you're doing something so far off base that you're no longer listening to him, but that's something different).
I'm sure non of my above ramblings are of any help, but.... there it is
Just as an aside (and to go with the first part of this thread)... I've had God speak to me in several ways... once audible (or semi-audible)... but I won't go into the details as it wasn't a good situation and if that's what it takes to get Him to speak to me like that, well, He can just keep quiet.
I've also had him speak to me in other ways, more sublte.
I think part of the "trick" to knowing if it's God is to "test" it (and I'm not talking about fleaceing). I don't consider God a high pressure salesman, you should have time to get counsel from other on issues as well as waiting for comfirmation on things (hearing the same thing 2 or 3 times from very different places).
There is also the issue of sorting out our feelings on things. I was very moved by a guest speakers call to reach out to the youth, the importance of it. I felt a strong pull on me, so I put my big toe in to test he waters.... for me... let me tell you, the waters where cold! I did a few things with the youth, including helping with being one of the adults to do the Aquire the Fire thing (including the sleep-over in the church between the nights).
It's just not my thing, it's not what I was called to. God may have been tugging on my heart for the youth, but it wasn't for youth ministry
Whoever said the Christian life is boring doen't know what they're talking about
Ok... enough rambling for now.. I'll go back to things I'm better qualified to not talk about
PHIL