It Can't Be...

Postby **Myoti** » Thu Sep 15, 2005 3:52 pm

Well, it seems one of my worst fears may have come true.

There is a friend of mine at school who is an AMAZING artist, an incredibly funny guy, and an anime/manga lover. However, since a couple of years ago, several of friends and others have been spreading rumours about this person being... well, gay.

This is something that disturbs me greatly, especially since he was the one who sort of got me into anime and Furry art. However, there have been some signs. His Furry art is incredible, but many times he would draw pics of nude characters or males dressed in female-like clothing (strangely bishie-looking characters, alot of the time).

Being how I am, I don't want to judge him on this unless I hear him saying it for myself, as I don't want to end up embarrasing him whether he is or isn't (though, hopefully, he's the kind of person who can laugh it off).

Today, however, I overheard him talking with some others and they were all talking directly to him about being gay, and he was just smiling, laughing, and hanging out, and all the others seem to treat him normally.

Whether he is or isn't, it probably won't change my opinion towards him much, but it's the fact that I believe he's a Christian (or at least professess to be one), and even if I don't hear him say he's gay himself, there's too much "evidence" to make me wonder.

I just don't know what to do. If he is, I want to bring him out of that lifestyle, but if he isn't, I'm going to end up defending him when others talk about it (which I already do). I know all about homosexuality and all the problems about it, but I just don't know how to approach someone on this subject.

Website · Postby **Alice** » Thu Sep 15, 2005 4:43 pm

Maybe right now, you should just pray for him.

Postby **agasfas** » Thu Sep 15, 2005 5:11 pm

It seems that at the moment it would be a difficult issue to address. I would just continue to pray for him and be there as a friend.

Postby **Myoti** » Thu Sep 15, 2005 5:12 pm

That's what I've been doing, but it's hard for me to think about it if he really is that way...

Postby **agasfas** » Thu Sep 15, 2005 5:21 pm

I mean, if you really want to know, you could always ask him yourself. Though it may come off a bit rude.

I knew a few people in the past that a lot of people thought were gay, and they weren't. Perhaps he just likes to draw... or perhaps his personality is just a bit different.

Whatever the case, I'll be praying

Postby **Hephzibah** » Thu Sep 15, 2005 5:45 pm

This seems like a difficult situation. I'll be praying for you matie. Unfortunately, I don't really have any advice to give except that giving him the benefit of the doubt would be good until he confesses one way or the other. And even if he does say he is gay, keep on praying for him

However, there have been some signs. His Furry art is incredible, but many times he would draw pics of nude characters or males dressed in female-like clothing (strangely bishie-looking characters, alot of the time).

but it's the fact that I believe he's a Christian (or at least professess to be one)

Perhaps next time he shows you his art, you should challenge him as to why he draws in such a way.

Postby **Fsiphskilm** » Thu Sep 15, 2005 9:49 pm

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Postby **termyt** » Fri Sep 16, 2005 6:40 am

Myoti wrote: ...I want to bring him out of that lifestyle...

But, alas, you can not. Whether he is or is not, it should not change the way you treat him. If he is gay, then he needs you as a friend more than anything. If you find out for sure (because he tells you or you ask him) and he asks your opinion, tell him how you feel.

If you harp on it, you will more likely push him away then help him out. You can not help him if he doesn't want help. If he does, then be there for him.

God bless you, Myoti for caring about your friend and may He guide you in the decisions you both will have to make in the near future.

Postby **Myoti** » Fri Sep 16, 2005 4:53 pm

Volt, that might actually work...

And thanks, Termyt. I feel I'm just to shy sometimes to try anything.
I'm the kinda person that would be wierded out if I learn he is, but I know enough positive aspects about him that would hopefully keep my opinion of him from changing.

With all the talk and the way he acts, I think he already knows what they say, and he probably is. If all else fails, I'll still continue to pray for him and be their as a friend.