Im gunna CRY!!!

[~Natsumi Lam~]

Well a continuation on my last prayer request ...just a little different.

I dated my husband for 4 years.... when we were dating he read his bible, pray and went to church. Now, that he is married, he does none of that.

I married a christian but now...he doesnt act like one.

I am praying all the time about it, i am even thinking about fasting. I cant tell him my worry about it, cuz he will think i am nagging.

I know God has it handle, cuz he is saved and His. But how can a man lead a household successfully without God's guidence? I feel as if he[husband] wants me to maintain the christian quality of the home, but i am not the head of the house... blessings only last so far when the head of the house isnt doing what he knows to be right.

So, all i feel i can do is pray...

Any suggestions or words of wisdom?

~Natsumi Lam~

[dragonshimmer]

Hopefully, some of the married members will catch this thread and give you some advice I will pray for you, lovely.

[Gypsy]

Right. I hope some married members can offer advice or insight, however, the rest of us can pray about it in the meantime.

[Mr. SmartyPants]

You and your husband are in my prayers natsumi ^^

[kaji]

Natsumi Lam,

I’m sure it must be a very trying time for you, wishing only for the God perusing husband that Christ would want him to be. I know for me, when we first got married, I was intimidated by my wife’s knowledge and spiritual maturity. I found it hard to lead when I always felt I had even more to learn then she.

But it was partially through her encouragement that I was able to mature and grow to be able to lead a family.

When we got married, being the spiritual leader of a family was not on the forefront of my mind. In a way, I think I just expected that God would give me the ability once we were married. And while this has been true, it has not been with out much work.

… I guess the best advice I can give you is to gently encourage him to peruse his relationship with God. Through reading scripture, prayer, and perhaps discipleship. Don’t be afraid to seek the counsel of your pastor or elders and see if they wont remind him of the important responsibility that only he can fill for his family. And don’t become discouraged, or impatient. Lead by example where ever possible (spending you time with God right in the living room) and lovingly express your concerns.

Once the deep pain and concern that you have registers in his brain, a loving husband will want to mend those wounds. And if, at first, he only spends time to appease his wife, continue to pray that God will still use that time to instill an honest desire of his own to pursue a closer relationship with God.

Oh! Praying together is always good. ^_~

I hope that I have been some what of a help, but at least know that I will also be praying for you.

-kaji

[Fsiphskilm]

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[agasfas]

I hope things work out. Though if you really see something is wrong, then I would try talking to him about your concerns. I don't think it's really nagging, just showing him you care...

Whatever the case, I'm sure it'll work out.
I'll be praying.

[Artist4Jesus89]

ill pray

[~Natsumi Lam~]

Natsumi Lam,

I’m sure it must be a very trying time for you, wishing only for the God perusing husband that Christ would want him to be. I know for me, when we first got married, I was intimidated by my wife’s knowledge and spiritual maturity. I found it hard to lead when I always felt I had even more to learn then she.

But it was partially through her encouragement that I was able to mature and grow to be able to lead a family.

When we got married, being the spiritual leader of a family was not on the forefront of my mind. In a way, I think I just expected that God would give me the ability once we were married. And while this has been true, it has not been with out much work.

… I guess the best advice I can give you is to gently encourage him to peruse his relationship with God. Through reading scripture, prayer, and perhaps discipleship. Don’t be afraid to seek the counsel of your pastor or elders and see if they wont remind him of the important responsibility that only he can fill for his family. And don’t become discouraged, or impatient. Lead by example where ever possible (spending you time with God right in the living room) and lovingly express your concerns.

Once the deep pain and concern that you have registers in his brain, a loving husband will want to mend those wounds. And if, at first, he only spends time to appease his wife, continue to pray that God will still use that time to instill an honest desire of his own to pursue a closer relationship with God.

Oh! Praying together is always good. ^_~

I hope that I have been some what of a help, but at least know that I will also be praying for you.

-kaji

Man those words hit right at home!!! Thanks with all my heart for your wisdom from a husbands point of view!!! I needed that! I pray God truely blesses your marriage too!!!

~Natsumi Lam~

[Ratrace]

I'll pray for your succes. In most households however,the wife ends up in charge, so be careful if you ask God to make your husband the head of the family.
Famous preachers opinions:
I might be the head of my family but my wifes the neck!-John Hagie
Woman have been in charge since the dawn of time. Eve, 'Eat this'. Adam 'O.K.'-Jesse Duplantis
Don't be afraid to nag a little. If woman didn't nag men would do nothing.

[kaji]

I'll pray for your succes. In most households however,the wife ends up in charge, so be careful if you ask God to make your husband the head of the family.
Famous preachers opinions:
I might be the head of my family but my wifes the neck!-John Hagie
Woman have been in charge since the dawn of time. Eve, 'Eat this'. Adam 'O.K.'-Jesse Duplantis
Don't be afraid to nag a little. If woman didn't nag men would do nothing.

Thats just the problem, if Adam has stepped up and been the leader of his family like he should have, the fall of man Might have been avoided... But no, the submission was reversed, and Adam just went along with it. <_< (NOTE: Adam and Eve arenet really that great of role models)

The media doesnt exactly provide a Godly example of men either. Case examples are found in Everybody Loves Raymond, and The King of Queens. Dont get me wrong, I like these shows, but they both portray men as blithering idiots who can barely open their own jelly jars let alone run a family.

But we arent just talking about physical resposibilities here. My wife manages our budget and check book. God gave her stong gifts of organization and planning, and they are a great support. But we are talking about being the Spiritual leader of a family. The one who guides their family in those spiritual decisions and harships, being a rock of morals and teaching to help their family grow.

22Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

25Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church— 30for we are members of his body. 31"For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh." 32This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

[K. Ayato]

That's great that you and your wife have a solid relationship, kaji.

[~Natsumi Lam~]

That's great that you and your wife have a solid relationship, kaji.

i agree!!

~NL~

[K. Ayato]

Have you read I Corinthians chapter 7? I know as a wife you're not the official head of the house, but you could find some helpful advice in those verses.

[Gala]

hey i found some verses that you may be intersted in lookin at look at this link and read on.

http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=1%20Corinthians%207:14;&version=31;

ill pray for ur husband and you. i will pray that God leads you both in the right direction.