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Anxieties: How do you deal with them?

Postby Mave » Mon Apr 18, 2005 3:48 pm

Dear all,

I'm just wondering whether anyone here has problems with anxieties to the point that it affects them physically or disrupts their daily accomplishments.

I've been under pressure for the last few weeks but today, I had a pretty heavy feeling in my chest to the point of somewhat hurting and had trouble breathing (kinda like mild gasping). When there was a meeting, all I felt like doing was running away from it. I seem to be worrying excessively when I know it isn't worth the worry or isn't really that bad. I easily get irritated and had to work hard today, to avoid saying something mean. When ppl ask me how I'm doing, I can't help but just being nasty and say, "[sarcasm]Yeah I'm SOO OK.[/sarcasm]"

I'm now getting REALLY worried because I cannot work. I just can't. I'm just staring at my computer & pile of work and my brain won't concentrate on them. Instead, I keep thinking about my problems over and over again "What if" "Why this" "I can't handle this" "What am I going to do?" "What if" "Why this"......I feel very tensed and cannot relax at all. It's 6.40 p.m. I got NOTHING accomplished today and I hate it. I hate it so much that I feel that I MUST work really late tonight and forget about sleep. If I had to work until I drop dead, so be it.

It's ironic that things suddenly intensified today when I decided to get back to my prayer life last night. I was debating whether I should tell someone about my problems but I keep feeling guilty, since everyone has their own problems and I don't want to trouble them. Do you think it's PMS? Or I just happen to have a super bad day? Either ways, how do you deal with this? This super tensed-up feeling is quite awful and I don't think it's good for me.

Am I the only one having such problems or does most ppl experience it too? Please share your experience so I don't feel that I'm the only one who's hating my life at the moment.
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Postby Debitt » Mon Apr 18, 2005 3:54 pm

Mave...I have trouble with anxiety a lot (in fact, I was so anxiety stricken and depressed last Friday that I had to take a day off of school), and I really wish there was a one-size fits all solution to easing your troubles.

I personally like to listen to a certain song or songs over and over again - something that soothes me and has nice lyrics, or some rock and roll depending on my mood. Other times I talk to a close friend or vent in a journal, play a video game to relieve the stress (Marvel vs. Capcom 2 happens to be particularly soothing for me), or take a nap. Prayer is also something I tend to turn to when things get rough. Over all, just take a few minutes to breathe and relax. Let yourself calm down, say a couple prayers and ask the Lord to help put your situation into perspective. And don't be afraid to cry. I know people say it a lot, and I know it can be embarassing sometimes, but often I feel a bit better after a good cry. ^^;

*hugs* I'll be praying for you, okay? ^^
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Postby Yumie » Mon Apr 18, 2005 4:03 pm

Yeah I get really stressed out a lot about the heavy workload I'm constantly under, and I cry a lot, ha ha. People don't get it (why I cry when I get frustrated) but it actually makes me feel better. And if I'm feeling really bad, I usually just take a break for half an hour (I know, it stinks losing time when you have a lot to do, but you're not getting anything done anyways, right?) and do something fun, like watch a tv program or play a video game or something. And pray for sure. Besides that, I just do my best to slough my way through it. And remember what Shigure from Fruits Basket says about huge workloads-- just do what's at your feet a little at a time, and you'll be done before you know it!

I know you don't even know me, but if you need to tell someone about your problems, feel free to pm me. I'm sure I'll be able to sympathize :P.
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Postby Mr. SmartyPants » Mon Apr 18, 2005 4:16 pm

i feel anxious sometimes at school... like something inside me wants to finish or accomplish something... but i dont remember what... its weird
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Postby Bunny » Mon Apr 18, 2005 4:23 pm

Mave, I am right there with you! Wow. It's getting near exams time for me and I have two AP courses and a chemistry class that I am sick to death over. Believe me when I say I feel your pain.
Lately there's just been this battle in my mind where I'm trying SO hard to make myself do my work but it's not working for me. It's like I come home and I stare at my homework and the more I try to motivate myself to do it, the more I absolutely hate and resent school. And I know I'm smarter than that and I truly want my grades to reflect it but there's this other part of me that despises being forced to do things. I get to the point where I just get so frustrated that I start cleaning things to keep my mind off it and try to vent.
I've been really irritable too and I NEVER am. I'm usually very laid back and light-hearted and all that good stuff but now my mom comes home and asks me how my day was and I just bite my lip and stare straight ahead. I think some of that can be attributed to the simple fact that I keep waking up at all hours of the night and can't get back to sleep until much later. One night I woke up and just started crying for no apparent reason other than I was just so upset that I couldn't even sleep.

So here's what I did. I made a goal that I would pray, read my Bible, and go out with my friends more often. Those three things always help me to feel better. Sometimes, it's all you can do to just scream at the top of your lungs and take the plunge. I feel so much better after just getting out of the house and doing something I enjoy. I've had time to think things through and recognize what I have to do and why I have to do it and I'm okay with it now. Well, "okay" may not be the best word for it. More like I've stared it in the face said something like, "You know what? Forget this. I know I can do this and I will and I don't care how many people think I can't." *hugs for Mave* I'll pray for you and I really hope things get better because I know how badly it sucks.
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Postby emersongreen » Mon Apr 18, 2005 4:49 pm

well....i have alot of anxiety over lots of things, but what seems to work for me is just to trust God to handle them.......like for instance, my grnadfather was diagnosed with a very serious case of cancer in february, and personally, i was almost sure that he was going to die, because he is in his mid 80's and even young people don't survive cancer very often, but i kept worrying about it to the point that i probably spent more time worrying than doing anything else.....but then i read the verse that i posted below, and it comforted me, and i stopped thinking about it soo much, and HALLELUAH GOD IS GOOD, HE HEALED MY 80 YEAR OLD GRANDFATHER OF A VERY SEVERE CASE OF CANCER, WHICH MANY PEOPLE HALF HIS AGE DO NOT SURVIVE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Wherefore, if God so clothe the grass of the field, which to day is, and to morrow is cast into the oven, [shall he] not much more [clothe] you, O ye of little faith?
Therefore take no thought, saying, What shall we eat? or, What shall we drink? or, Wherewithal shall we be clothed?
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basically what it is saying is that even though in our flesh we are programmed to worry, if we just make up our minds that by worring we are not doing any good, but in fact we are worsening the situation by eroding our own faith......i hope my little testimony here will help you to just "give it all to him"

idk whether your situation is as serious as mine was but i really do hope this helps.....i will be praying for you!
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Postby Photosoph » Mon Apr 18, 2005 4:59 pm

I don't know how much I can help, but I agree; find someone who's kind and understanding, and who you can trust, and talk about it. Sometimes that's your Mum, sometimes it's someone else. Music that helps you relax can help, and sometimes saying a bible verse over and over again can help too. Here's ones that I use:
"The Lord hasn't given me a spirit of fear, but of love and of power and of a sound mind", "He will keep in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on him", "fear not, for I am with you says the Lord". Even if you can make those words into a song and keep singing them it may help.
I can't be right there to help you, but I really do care. It's horrible to feel so anxious. It may be PMS, or it may be chemicals, or it could be stress. But just keep hanging on; trust me, it won't last forever. And if you start worrying about anything in particular, ex: deadlines, work, etc; just remember it will be all right. It will. I don't know about you, but so often, even though it's hardly ever huge anxiety, when I worry about something that's about to happen, usually by the time I'm there and it's happening, it turns out okay. These are just trivial examples: but one time I was so worried because I had so much homework and I hadn't done something for Social Studies class -but by the time I got there the teacher didn't even ask for our homework. Another time I had accidentally asked two different people to come to our house on the same day -and both were people coming to tutor me, so I was extremely worried about what was going to happen. Well, by the time it was happening I felt so scared and powerless that I'd just kind of resigned myself into a depressed state as the first person arrived. Well, we spent an hour or so together, but the second person didn't show up; and by the time this person had left the other person still hadn't shown up. It turned out she was running late, or was going to come another day -I can't remember. But I'd felt so bad about it before, yet it all turned out okay.
Again, I can't tell you exactly what you need to hear, but I do think relaxing music, telling yourself it's okay until you believe it, praying (especially praying), reading promises like the scriptures above and keeping them in mind, and talking to someone about it is especially helpful. I'll be praying for you, Mave. God bless.

Maybe if you keep a regular diary, maybe looking back at things at the past that turned out all right could help, or asking or finding people about things in their life that they were so worried about but turned out okay could help. Another thought.
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Postby soul alive » Mon Apr 18, 2005 5:41 pm

you sound like you need a hug, :hug: .

i feel your pain. my architecture final has been driving me insane. i got a design worked out for it, but only after coming close to having a nervous breakdown... my TA told me to scrap my original design, so i went with something different, and my prof said to scrap that and go back to my original design *pulls hair* i barely made it out of the building when class ended, and i cried all the way back to my dorm, where i jumped up and down on my scrapped model, and then laid down and cried for a good 10 minutes.

different people have different anxiety/frustration relievers - me, i cry (because i'm afraid that if i don't cry i'll do something else that could end up being much worse - like hurting someone).

with anxiety, reading Psalms or Lamentations helps quite a bit. as well as listening to my "happy music," any Newsboys CD. and whining/ranting to myself and God, until i am calm enough to think, talk, and otherwise behave rationally and can have intelligent conversation with God. ^^;;

Mave wrote:It's ironic that things suddenly intensified today when I decided to get back to my prayer life last night. I was debating whether I should tell someone about my problems but I keep feeling guilty, since everyone has their own problems and I don't want to trouble them.
sounds like you're under a bit of a spiritual attack, satan trying to get you down and keep you there. always try to tell someone your problems, or journal about them, just keeping them to yourself will only make them worse, because you just go over and over and over them in your mind until they become much worse than they actually are, or last much longer than they should.



i pull the 'stare at it and it'll get done' approach to homework frequently. while i do know that i work better under pressure, sometimes i just don't leave myself enough time to do what i need to. so i just go do something that only takes a couple hours - watch a movie, go shopping, go for a walk, etc. to get my need for distraction out of the way, and then go to work. giving myself incentives also works well - i can watch 'N' much of a movie if i get 'N' done on my project. but try not to make doing work or homework a punishment, that way you will almost never be able to get it done in a time that does not create anxieties galore.

good luck with your problems. will be praying.
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Postby Mangafanatic » Mon Apr 18, 2005 7:58 pm

Mave wrote: If I had to work until I drop dead, so be it.



Number 1) DEFINITELY DON'T DO THAT!! I would be very sad if you worked yourself into oblivion. Seriously.

I think the reason I stress is certainly because I feel I can't trust God with my curcuimstances. If I don't really rest in the fact that God orchestrates EVERYTHING for the good of those who love him and are called according to his purpose, of course I'm going to get myself riled into a frenzy. If there's no God controlling everything, then, gosh darn it, I'd better make sure I buttt my way through and get what I need/want.

But when I really completely realize that God is the master of my curcuimstances, only then can I ever relax and release my anxieties. A week or so ago, I was WAY behind on something, and my first response was to do this " :bang: "And completely freak out. With that said, I understand this feeling you have, Mave. If I simply dwell on the thought of me trying to master my curcuimstances, I do make myself sick. And, honestly, me mastering my curcuimstances should be a sickening idea-- because it's not something a human being can do. It's only through a completely surrender to God that I find any peace.

I'll be praying for you, Mave.
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Postby Warrior 4 Jesus » Mon Apr 18, 2005 8:13 pm

Talk to God through prayer, read the Bible and go see a counsellor, that's what I do. I get really anxious sometimes and it stems from my moderate depression. But that's probably of no help to you.
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Postby Kaori » Mon Apr 18, 2005 8:20 pm

Mave, I definitely sometimes have similar feelings, although it has never affected me physically as much as what you described; the worst physical symptom I have ever experienced is loss of appetite. I wish I could tell you some strategy for coping with anxiety that has worked for me, but the fact is that I simply do not handle stress well. The only advice I can give is what others have already said--to pray.
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Postby That Dude » Mon Apr 18, 2005 9:03 pm

I think that you should listen to what SoulAlive had to say about the thing with the prayer. He'll try and knock you when your down and make it so you think that your prayers aren't getting through or God won't listen to you. But it's all lies. Just keep on perservering (sp?) through it. God won't let anything happen that isn't in your best interest as long as your following after him with your all.

And don't be afriad to talk to people about what's been going on with it. It helps more than lots of other things. Especially when your conversing with a more mature christian about the things that have been going on. Please try and talk to a close christian friend about this...I can pretty much assure you that it'll help. Feel free to PM me or especially somebody like Rev_Doc or TNC about it. I'll be willing to listen and give whatever Godly advice that I can, so will others.

Hope this helps a little bit. Just keep on trucking :grin:
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Postby Fsiphskilm » Mon Apr 18, 2005 11:47 pm

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Postby Kaligraphic » Mon Apr 18, 2005 11:56 pm

#3) Do NOT drop in on Volt unannounced. Trust me.
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Postby termyt » Tue Apr 19, 2005 5:59 am

"And which of you by worrying can add a single hour to his lifespan?" - in the middle of Luke 12:22-32

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Postby kaji » Tue Apr 19, 2005 6:37 am

Hey Mave,

Though you may not believe it, I can completely relate to how you feel. Anxiety has been part of my life for a long time. It comes and goes, and even at times that seam completely uncalled for. Most of my friends and family think of me as an easy going and relaxed person, few know that daily I struggle with an overwhelming angst.

This can surface in such simple ways as checking out at the grocery store and meeting new people, to more pressing situations such as interviews, school, work, life and competitions of most sorts.

All of these can bring on a powerful feeling of anxiety, my heat beat picks up, my speech stutters, I start perpetrating, my stomach hurts, and my skin tingles. Suddenly my few projects seam like mounds of work, strangers seam like menacing foes, and any competition, a mile high brick wall. But the absolute worst part is that I always realize when it is happening, and I can’t stop it. Rationally, my mind would be clear, but body would fall apart or just flat out stall.

Well, needless to say I have come a long way from where I once was. My wonderful wife has been a HUGE encouragement to me, but I would have never been able to get to where I am today if it wasn’t for God. Only when I could really give to Him those fears and anxieties (no matter how small) that dragged me down, could I keep going.

Even now, I can still feel that fear and anxiety some times creeping in. But I know, and trust that God will protect me from my fears and I take a step anyway. My work some times still seams impossible, but with a prayer I start with one piece and work my way through. (some times seeing the task as one lump can seam daunting, but broken up into one piece after the other, its not so bad). ^_^

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Postby Mave » Tue Apr 19, 2005 7:18 am

I must admit (selfish as it sounds) that I feel a whole lot better with your sharings. Even if we don't go through the exact same circumstances, the experience with stress is pretty similar. I'm just AMAZED at how you ppl can handle it. Must be God's Hand in it.

I try to recite something in Job to myself, "The Lord gave and the Lord has taken away; may the name of the Lord be praised." I've decided to respond to every single person who responded here since I really do appreciate your posts. Pls pardon the long post.

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Kokoro, crying or rather bawling, has always been a pretty good option for me coz I eventually get tired of crying. XD;; I don’t play games and I don’t feel like I have friends to share about this at the moment. But yes, I do have a blog, which I will use. Oh Kokoro, I’ve seen your threads in the prayer section but I never really thought I could understand how you feel but now I think I do. *hugs* T___T


Yumie, that’s really nice of you to offer a listening ear, I’ll keep that in mind when at that second, I’m about to lose it (haha) >:D But your suggestion about a break is exactly what my boyfriend told me. ^_^


MSP, dude, that happens to me and that is an awful feeling. Never mind you can’t get things done but if you DON’T know what it is. Someone, just shoot me. >_<;;;;


Bunny, what’s AP? You sound like me right now (and I’m sorry to hear that!), the only difference is you have classes to deal with while I have work to deal with. I used to be under a lot of pressure in high school as well since everyone was obsessed with doing well in class. My stress level dropped after leaving high school, that was among the best years of my life ahh…..*must focus on the nice things in life*


Emerson, PRAISE GOD indeed! Say Hi to your grandfather for us. ^__^ It’s good to hear good things as well, thanks for sharing. That verse is one of my fav. verses as well.


Photosohp, I can’t talk about it to my parents since they’re halfway the other side of the world and they …..worry even more than I do. If I told them my complications over here in the U.S., I honestly think they’ll kill themselves with anxiety. Usually, I just skip the details when I talk to them. I like what you stated, “It won’t last forever.â€
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Postby That Dude » Tue Apr 19, 2005 8:52 am

I think that staying away from Volt will also keep your stress level lower :grin: Thanks for the compliment on the art...You should check out my other page on here, You draw "Foreign Exchange!" I'd be honored if drew a page or two. Well yeah I try ank keep you in my prayers...I don't personally go through anxiety to much but lot's of people I know and have grown up with have been really depressed for long periods of time. It goes hand in hand with anxiety and many of my friends and family have had to deal with bad depression so I kind of know how it feels just 'cuz I'm constantly surrounded by it. Dang...I forgot where I was going with this...Oh well. Have a great day!
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Postby Fsiphskilm » Tue Apr 19, 2005 11:18 am

What the
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Postby Kaligraphic » Tue Apr 19, 2005 12:49 pm

What's the worst that could happen? You could come home one day to find Volt singing naked in your room. *shudders*
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Postby Bunny » Tue Apr 19, 2005 1:33 pm

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Bunny, what’]

AP courses are college-level classes that you take in high school for college credit. My current courses are US history and English. (I would have never taken the history if I didn't have to. x.x;;)

Today was an early dismissal day so me and a couple of my friends decided to go bag something to eat from Sonic. (That place has the best smoothies!! Sunshine smoothies put me in my happy place every time. *drool*) Well, I got there...and my car started leaking anti-freeze. So I got out of the car to take a look and this guy came over to check it out. He was really nice but he told me it wouldn't be safe to drive. Well, my dad works in a city about an hour and a half away so my car is currently chilling behind the Sonic until he gets off at about 7. *sigh* Isn't life lovely?

Really, though. I know I've already commented but when junk like this comes creeping in on me, I have the tendency to ignore it and push onwards with all my determination and will but sometimes that's not really the best thing to do. For one thing, ignoring your problems can amplify your weakness to it.
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If you remember back to the book of 1 Kings, there was this great guy named Elijah. Him and God were so tight, God let him control the weather. He single-handedly brought down the prophets of Baal and judged an entire kingdom. He was on fire. Then one day he finds himself walking through a desert and he's tired and worn down and he feels like he's the only one and he finds this tree. He lays down in the shade of that tree and says, "God, just kill me." And God replied by sending an angel with food and water sufficient for a 40 day trip and at the end of it all God sent Elisha to eventually take his place.
If Elijah burned out, you better know you're going to but God will always provide for you and He is always prepared to give you rest. He's not going to put you in something that He won't give you the strength to get through or the grace to carry you around.
You just have to search for that rest and don't quit until you find it. Pursue that peace will all your passion.

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Postby livewire » Tue Apr 19, 2005 3:02 pm

Myself, I suffer from an anxiety disorder...because I don't really know how to deal with the pressures of life...so, for me, they just build and build and build until I can't breathe am alll shakey and having a full on panick attack...
It used to be somewhat debilitating for me....
but, now, i can basically tell when it it is getting bad and I usually take deep breaths and tell myself that nothing is really as bad as it seems.
I also pray to God....giving everything up to Him and remembering that nothing is truly as bad as it seems helps a lot...


I personally also see a therapist twice a week....
which also helps a good deal.
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Postby Kaori » Tue Apr 19, 2005 6:15 pm

[quote="Mave"]Kaori, speaking of loss of appetite, how many of you female members obsess about your weight coz I do and it intensifies under stress. I’m currently 115 lbs and 5 feet tall. My theory: Since I can’t control circumstances in my workplace, I obsessively control things within my control such as my weight and eating habits. XD]
I can't say that I never think about my weight, but it is not something that I particularly struggle with. However, I do know that there are quite a few women at my college that do suffer from eating disorders, poor self-image, and the like; it's certainly not something from which Christians are exempt. For what it is worth, I will be praying for you.
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Postby kazekami » Tue Apr 19, 2005 9:18 pm

I have anxiety disorder and Depression so I can understand your feelings. I have to take medication for it. I can go for a while without the medication and be fine but then after sometime I start having problems. Especially if I have a lot of pressure. Its not as bad as it was. I went to theapy for a while. Plus i worked out what I really wanted to do. Made some real friends. Sometimes things can seem worse then they are and work can seem like the pile is so big that you could never finish it. And sometimes it feels like no one is there. But God is always their. =) I try to always remember that.
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Postby Kaligraphic » Wed Apr 20, 2005 12:19 am

I find that spending time with Jehovah Shalom has calmed me immensely. It used to be the case that stuff would rattle me, even when I didn't think it ought to. Now, I don't really rattle.

Jehovah Shalom is one of the names of God - Jehovah is peace. Know that God has you, and that all things work together for the good of those who love God. Not some, not many, not most. All. I know that I have nothing to fear - because God has declared that from before the foundation of the world.
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Postby ShiroiHikari » Wed Apr 20, 2005 10:49 am

one of the main reasons I don't have a job right now is because I haven't worked for a long time, and I have pretty debilitating anxiety over it. I can't handle job interviews or even just turning in an application. lately, if I get too nervous over something, I get physically sick, even over things as small as playing DDR in the arcade with people around. so trust me, I know all about anxiety.

also, I've been having trouble with small spaces lately. there's this friend of mine that smokes, and so when we go to the Denny's she always wants to sit in the smoking section, which is VERY small and cramped. once we sat there when the whole section was full...there were people sitting behind and on both sides of me, as close as two feet away and I had a panic attack and had to go outside.

unfortunately, I haven't yet figured out how to deal with it. so any prayers/advice would be appreciated. -_-
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Postby Debitt » Wed Apr 20, 2005 11:54 am

Kokoro, crying or rather bawling, has always been a pretty good option for me coz I eventually get tired of crying. XD;; I don’t play games and I don’t feel like I have friends to share about this at the moment. But yes, I do have a blog, which I will use. Oh Kokoro, I’ve seen your threads in the prayer section but I never really thought I could understand how you feel but now I think I do. *hugs* T___T

*glomp* Blogs are a lovely thing. ^_^ Venting into a blog is a good way to get a lot of the bad feelings out, especially if they happen to be bad feelings that you'd feel uncomfortable sharing with others (hence, LJ's "private" post feature is lovely). I'm still praying for you Mave - we all hit points in our schooling or our work where it seems like you're just getting sucked deeper into a black hole and there's no way out, but as I've found there are good stretches and bad stretches. God'll give you time to beathe - sometimes you have to keep pressing on to earn that time, though. :thumb: I know you can do it.
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Postby Fsiphskilm » Wed Apr 20, 2005 7:15 pm

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Postby Kaligraphic » Wed Apr 20, 2005 9:40 pm

Hey! I do NOT shop at Kmart!

I do, however, get complements on the thong. (And the other one. People go "nice sandals, dude.")

And yes, that particular bit is rather played out now. Humor is a great release for anxiety, though - people need to learn to laugh more. One thing that comedians know well is that a nervous audience will respond more forcefully than a relaxed one - but the laughter will be a release of the nervous tension, not just a reaction to the humor.
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Postby Ingemar » Thu Apr 21, 2005 9:35 am

Mave wrote:Dear all,

Dear Mave,

Mave wrote:I'm just wondering whether anyone here has problems with anxieties to the point that it affects them physically or disrupts their daily accomplishments.

Yup.

Mave wrote:I've been under pressure for the last few weeks but today, I had a pretty heavy feeling in my chest to the point of somewhat hurting and had trouble breathing (kinda like mild gasping). When there was a meeting, all I felt like doing was running away from it. I seem to be worrying excessively when I know it isn't worth the worry or isn't really that bad. I easily get irritated and had to work hard today, to avoid saying something mean. When ppl ask me how I'm doing, I can't help but just being nasty and say, "[sarcasm]Yeah I'm SOO OK.[/sarcasm]"

Anxiety manifests itself physically in me, too. When I approach a due date for a critical assignment *ahem*essayduemondayneedtostart*ahem*, I start feeling giddy, and my fingers shake when I just think about it. Afterwards, I contemplate quitting school and becoming a mime.

Mave wrote:I'm now getting REALLY worried because I cannot work. I just can't. I'm just staring at my computer & pile of work and my brain won't concentrate on them. Instead, I keep thinking about my problems over and over again "What if" "Why this" "I can't handle this" "What am I going to do?" "What if" "Why this"......I feel very tensed and cannot relax at all. It's 6.40 p.m. I got NOTHING accomplished today and I hate it. I hate it so much that I feel that I MUST work really late tonight and forget about sleep. If I had to work until I drop dead, so be it.

When I do *shudder* Humanities papers, it (often) takes me an hour to write a page. On top of that, I can safely say every page of an essay, for me, requires three to four hours of planning, because I am 1). Slow 2). Anal-retentive and 3). DEATHLY afraid of failure (I guess that goes together with two). You can imagine how I felt when the rough draft of a paper I once wrote was trashed by my TA because (to say in so few words) it was a total piece of crap. And this was the day before it was due, to make matters worse.

But worrying about things won't solve anything. DOING COUNTS. So what if something starts out as a piece of crap? You have to play through. Life doesn't hand you a Mulligan, if I must speak in golfing terms. But whatever you have to "play through," you must do it NOW.

Mave wrote:It's ironic that things suddenly intensified today when I decided to get back to my prayer life last night. I was debating whether I should tell someone about my problems but I keep feeling guilty, since everyone has their own problems and I don't want to trouble them. Do you think it's PMS? Or I just happen to have a super bad day? Either ways, how do you deal with this? This super tensed-up feeling is quite awful and I don't think it's good for me.

It's better to throw your problem out there, now, than to let it rot inside you, unresolved. Sure, people have worse problems than you, but if you can't deal with your own self, then nothing else matters. So don't worry. If you think complaining about this before God will upset him]Am I the only one having such problems or does most ppl experience it too? Please share your experience so I don't feel that I'm the only one who's hating my life at the moment.[/QUOTE]
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