Postby agasfas » Fri Dec 31, 2004 8:31 pm
I'm sorry you feel this way Kris. BUt let me assure you, many of us feel that way sometimes. True, I may not know what exactly is really making you sad deep inside, but there are people always willing to listen and some may be able to relate to you. I used to be really depressed and I would use that depression to make more depression. And please forgive me if I am assuming but I'm guessing your doing the same thing. Sometimes, as hard as it seems we really need to move forward. We will never have closure to anything if we didn't. To continue to dawn over the past is not good. When God forgives you, he totally forgives you. He wants you to put all the wories on his shoulders-- not wanting you do worry about it. Sure the memories may still be there, but they are only memories. What done is done. Continue to move forward.
I can somehow relate to you wanting to help people but feel powerless to do so. For example, in the past I had a friend tell me something personal. I wanted to help so much, but it was out of my power to do so. Also, I'm not the best with my word choice. ALthough sometimes I mean well, it comes out totally different then how I imagine or picture it to. If your heart is in the right place, wanting to help others... then regardless if you are able to do so, your still doing something. Your friends will see that side of you... you mean well.
Let me assure you that there are plenty of people who care for you. Your friends, parents, God, the members at CAA and the list could go on. Sometimes we dread on a particular issue more then we need to. As much as we try, we are not perfect. We sin, sometimes we hurt others unintentionally,sometimes we fight so hard and still slip up. Life is full of constant struggles but if you continue to fight a lot of good can come from it.
Have you tried talking to someone close that you can trust? I've learned when we talk to others a great weight gets let off our shoulders. Sometimes it can really rejuvenates your thoughts and feelings. Voicing your thoughts is kind of like the first step of moving forward. From there it becomes easier to move on-- leaving the bad things that have happened in the past. Life can something drain us and talking about it can really help.
My advice, even if it doesn't seem like much is to smile. Even when you don't feel like it. I know from experience, if we think dark thoughts, more dark thoughts come. If we go through the day mad, depressed then the day will drag and only make room for more bad things to happen. Try thinking of something that makes you happy. A smile may seem like only a small thing, but sometimes the smallest of cracks will expand and become bigger. We just have to let it do so. We must be willing to let that change happen. No matter how far in the hole you may think you are, there is always something to be greatful for. Just remember, there are people who care for you-- me included. I will continue to pray for you. Continue to fight.
"A merry heart doeth good like a medicine.." Prov 17:22
The word 'impossible' isn't in my dictionary... but I don't really have a dictionary you know? - Eikichi Onizuka.
Sorry, but I stop being a teacher at 5 o'clock. - Eikichi Onizuka.