Yuki-Anne (post: 1597781) wrote:Maybe it's just me, but I feel like some people really read a lot more into dot's posts than was actually called for. For example, when he said he got his "daily dose" of Jesus, I did not infer that to mean he was doing the bare minimum, but rather that he is taking care to spend at least a little time on a daily basis thinking about and learning about Jesus. Honestly, sometimes that's more than I can say for myself.
I'm not defending the crude joke. Dot, that is something that you should probably stop, because it's not attractive and it doesn't help anybody, much less girls, to respect you. And, as others are saying, when you say something that upsets people, sometimes you just need to say, "I'm sorry," and not try to defend offensive behavior.
That being said, I understand that some of you guys are getting frustrated with dot and all, but that's no reason to resort to insults or insulting behavior, and I feel that some of the posts in this thread qualify as that. The harshness with which some of you are repeatedly posting is making me sad. To judge dot's spiritual state is presumptuous, at best, and I think it would do this thread a lot of good to drop the accusations that he is just doing the minimum to get by or that his relationship with God is in trouble. If anyone who was not a very close friend said that to me, I'd be livid.
Regardless of the content of dot's posts or the opacity with which he attempts to explain himself (which he has admitted he is not so good at), we ought to be treating our brother with courtesy and kindness. It's making me sad that I'm not seeing that.
Xeno (post: 1597822) wrote:Please use the edit button instead of double-posting.
Yuki-Anne (post: 1597781) wrote:That being said, I understand that some of you guys are getting frustrated with dot and all, but that's no reason to resort to insults or insulting behavior, and I feel that some of the posts in this thread qualify as that. The harshness with which some of you are repeatedly posting is making me sad. To judge dot's spiritual state is presumptuous, at best, and I think it would do this thread a lot of good to drop the accusations that he is just doing the minimum to get by or that his relationship with God is in trouble. If anyone who was not a very close friend said that to me, I'd be livid.
Regardless of the content of dot's posts or the opacity with which he attempts to explain himself (which he has admitted he is not so good at), we ought to be treating our brother with courtesy and kindness. It's making me sad that I'm not seeing that.
Yuki-Anne (post: 1597781) wrote:Regardless of the content of dot's posts or the opacity with which he attempts to explain himself (which he has admitted he is not so good at)
Mr. SmartyPants (post: 1598018) wrote:There's a difference between tough love and being rude and presumptuous.
I mean I get your frustrations. I'm not saying he hasn't said things that weren't wise to say, but it gives nobody the right to say disrespectful things and assume things about him. You can be assertive without all of the extras.
armeck (post: 1598007) wrote:At least no one can say he isn't honest.
Davidizer13 (post: 1598039) wrote:Looking back on it, I did cross a line when I tried to speculate on where you were with God, dothack. I don't have the right to say things like that, especially when I barely know you or your character, and I'm sorry I pushed you so hard on that. I stand by everything else I've said, but on that issue, I messed up. Can we start over on that one?
Yamamaya (post: 1598222) wrote:Dot when it comes to communicating with other people, it all comes down to practice and figuring out what is appropiate and what is not. I'll be honest, I make sex jokes when I'm around friends. That doesn't make my jokes right, but my friends are more accepting of those jokes than another group. It's important to er on the side of caution when it comes to such issues.
As for girls, I would say just concern yourself with being friends with girls for now. I know its frustrating, but you have to take things slowly. Obsession will get you nowhere.
dothackzero (post: 1598241) wrote:Actually, I was doing it with that group because they are the type to do it. Though I just don't know where and when to stop. But yeah, I'm just coming out of shyness(Thanks to God), so I'm basically still trying to learn some fairly basic social skills.
That's actually what I'm trying to do right now.
tronethiel7 (post: 1598280) wrote:I would just note that Ephesians 5:3-4 says, "But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality or of any kind of impurity or of greed because these are improper of God's holy people. Nor should there be obscenity, foolish, talk, or coarse joking, which are out of place, but rather thanksgiving.
Rather than know when to do something, sometimes it is better to not do it at all. ^^Paul, concerning coarse joking and obscenity.
dothackzero (post: 1598241) wrote:Actually, I was doing it with that group because they are the type to do it. Though I just don't know where and when to stop. But yeah, I'm just coming out of shyness(Thanks to God), so I'm basically still trying to learn some fairly basic social skills.
Ally-Ann (post: 1598396) wrote:I promised myself not to get involved with these threads, as I don't have any experience with relationships other than between family and friends, but "looks like he'll probably fit in"? What do you mean by that? Are you basing who you should hang out with solely on how they look? If so, that's unethical, but hopefully I'm wrong...
Xeno (post: 1597171) wrote:Okay, I guess I used too many words in my last post. I'll give you the benefit of the doubt because reading is hard, so here is the same post considerably filtered down into it's bare meaning in pictures with just a few words.
You're focusing too much on
and not enough on
so get your
out of your
K. Ayato (post: 1598402) wrote:Don't get caught up on whether or not this guy "looks" like he'll easily fit in with the rest of your group. Just ask. At best, you'll have an extra member. Or he might say it's not his thing. If nothing else, you won't have to keep wondering "what if".
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