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[akorecki1]

Once again i have no idea where to post this thread anyway I wanted some advice on school. I am going to school for the second semester and wanted to know if you have any advice on choosing good friends and how not to get beat up that is my moms biggest concerns she thinks I need to de-weird myself. But that is impossible. so I would like any of you advice you have on high schooled and anything I should know about high school because i am home schooled. Also what kind of things do they talk about. Thanks for the help! *sigh* i was going to type something else but i forgot oh well if i remember I will say it oh yea how do i spread The Word to high schoolers that don't want to hear it. How do i become cool so people will listen to me when i try to invite them to church.:pinned:

[Atria35]

Well, that's something people have been trying to do since before time. Seriously, the best idea to get friends is to not push religion on them- if it comes up in conversation, naturally, then mention it. Once you're friends, then ask them if they'd like to come sometime, but don't force it.

Choosing good friends... Well, all my friends are strange and unusual, so I get them on whether they accept me as I am, whether we have similar interests (religion is usually not one of them), whether we can get along and make eachother laugh. Stuff like that.

[akorecki1]

Thank you!

[Xeno]

For me joining an extracurricular activity that had a wide variety of personality types got me through high school, at least until my senior year (but that's a different story). Depending on how large your school is and how diverse the band is you migh join that. My primary high school had a 200~ member band and had personalities ranging from jocks to freaks to geeks to creepers. But we had a sense of unity since we were all band members. So if someone outside the band messed with one of the creepers, they'd have to deal with a load of the jocks.

[TheMewster]

Nice, Xeno, nice. See if they have a Christian club or an anime club. Some schools have Christian clubs.

[Atria35]

Nice, Xeno, nice. See if they have a Christian club or an anime club. Some schools have Christian clubs.

Private schools do. Public ones are not allowed to endorse any religion.

So agreeing with Xeno, because clubs are a great way to meet people. Don't be afraid to talk and get to know them, and talk to everyone.

[Ally-Ann]

I know just how you feel. I've been homeschooled for four years in a row, and this is my first year of public school since 4th grade. I'm not sure what the schools are like where you live, but I love my school. I have just a few friends, two of them are... well... let's just say that can be a little-- no scratch that, they're VERY, ehm, vulgar, but I hang around them because they're still very nice, and actually have great potential to become Christians if they give it a try. I don't get all up in their face and say "YOU'RE NOT A CHRISTIAN YOU'RE GOING TO HELL BLARGH". They ask questions once in a while about church and about Christianity and I answer them based on the Bible and my beliefs. I mean, sure, you are going to Hell if you're not a Christian; that's just the plain, hard truth. But if you try to force someone to become a Christian, they'll just get annoyed or angry and you'll repel them. You need to be caring about it and actually explain why they should give God a try, rather than just screaming in their face that they better become Christians or else. And if you invite them to church, be casual about it.

But in terms of actually making or choosing friends, if someone's nice to me and actually talks to me first and I enjoy being around them ('cause I'm really quiet. It usually takes a really, really outgoing person to get me talking in five minutes or less.), I consider them my friend. I'm not sure exactly what your personality is like when people meet you in person, but I know for a fact that you'll make friends. If I can make friends in public school after being homeshooled for four years, then so can you.

[Hiryu]

Good friends can be hard to come by. You need to look at what your friends do, and not necessarily what they say. Being a part of something like a club would be a good way to find some potential friends because you already have something in common. Also, it may not be now, but sooner or later you will probably see who you should hang around with in your classes just because you've been around them long enough to see what they're like. Above all, "to thine ownself be true." Don't be who other people want you to be.

Bullying can still happen regardless of what you do or don't do. Don't fight fire with fire, because you'll only cause an uncontrollable fire. You shouldn't care about what these people say to you. Most of the time, they're only trying to start something that doesn't need to continue. You're the person who can make it stop by not participating.

When it comes to physical bullying, you should be able to rely on the teachers/principals to help. If not, you should atleast be able to rely on your friends. Being in a public place gives you the advantage, because it would give you a chance to yell "STOP" or "HELP". Bullies don't want attention. Being in a private place ensures that what they do won't be seen.

As much as this may not make sense, you should pray for these people. There are people who bully because they themself are being bullied.

Spreading the good word to people is fine, but some people don't want to hear it. As others have said, don't push the issue. Only God can make the seed that you've planted grow. If they're interested, they will probably come ask you for more information.

[akorecki1]

Good friends can be hard to come by. You need to look at what your friends do, and not necessarily what they say. Being a part of something like a club would be a good way to find some potential friends because you already have something in common. Also, it may not be now, but sooner or later you will probably see who you should hang around with in your classes just because you've been around them long enough to see what they're like. Above all, "to thine ownself be true." Don't be who other people want you to be.

Bullying can still happen regardless of what you do or don't do. Don't fight fire with fire, because you'll only cause an uncontrollable fire. You shouldn't care about what these people say to you. Most of the time, they're only trying to start something that doesn't need to continue. You're the person who can make it stop by not participating.

When it comes to physical bullying, you should be able to rely on the teachers/principals to help. If not, you should atleast be able to rely on your friends. Being in a public place gives you the advantage, because it would give you a chance to yell "STOP" or "HELP". Bullies don't want attention. Being in a private place ensures that what they do won't be seen.

As much as this may not make sense, you should pray for these people. There are people who bully because they themself are being bullied.

Spreading the good word to people is fine, but some people don't want to hear it. As others have said, don't push the issue. Only God can make the seed that you've planted grow. If they're interested, they will probably come ask you for more information.

Here you can't rely on teachers they don't care about it they won't do anything.