CloudStrife911 (post: 1476554) wrote:Thanks everyone. I don't mean to be a downer, but I already know most of what was said. I've got alot of good friends on campus. I spend at least 75% of the day hanging out with them. I am attending a Bible college, so it's kinda difficult to not be seeking after God. I guess that's why I came to ask everyone here. I'm just so tired of the "dating" stuff. I just want to move past this part in my life. I guess that the real problem is not the normal definition of loneliness.
I feel ya there. Just remember that just because you're at Bible college doesn't mean everyone has the same intentions of following God with all their heart. My campus has had big issues in the past with pregnancy, violence, and drugs. People get focused on the wrong things, or come here for something other than ministry and get distracted from what really matters. People forget it's not necessarily about the grades, but about the information they are learning. Plus, there's typically more temptation for -
insert sin here- present in a Christian bubble. But I digress.
Being on a Bible college campus basically screams "M-R-S.
DEGREEEEEE~!" Freaking...
I am tired of hearing of all the financial perks to being married. When I came in as a Freshman, my financial advisor was advising me to get married "sooner than later" because of the monetary bonuses that come with it. And well, now I've taken up celibacy, so that's not exactly an option.
It's extremely easy to get caught up in the loneliness of not having a boyfriend when my roommate as well as many close friends are dating. (Of the nine of us on this side of my floor, for the majority of the year seven were dating, where as now six are. I was content in my single living and the other single was
NOT, which made it sort of discomforting. The one who recently broke up with her boyfriend is also content to be single again, so that's a relief...)
I would have to agree that God and community are the two best ways to combat the feelings of loneliness that arise. I enjoy when couples include me in their activities, so as not to be socially ostracized for being single. However, being introverted I'm okay with entertaining myself and staying within the boundaries of my floor, where I'm often found hanging around the friends that are here. (Not every couple spends every waking moment together.) You need to find what gives you the most comfort in your Christian walk with encouragers all around you to keep you pursuing Christ and your goals. (Note that comfort here does not mean everything is peachy, but rather that it is a mindset of continual commitment, which means one must keep going, even in the midst of hardship!)
Hope this helps!