K. Ayato (post: 1463435) wrote:Good in and of itself. Just remember to set limits and abide by 'em. Awfully hard though, when emotions and desires skyrocket.
aliveinHim wrote:Howbout kissing?
K. Ayato (post: 1463462) wrote:You are 16 years old and a young woman. It is 100% normal to have desires to be with a guy, holding his hand, maybe even stealing a kiss. Stop torturing yourself by convincing yourself that it's wrong and a sin. It's okay to see a nice-looking guy, smile, even think to yourself "He's cute!".
If you want to keep those desires in check, fine. Still, I think you need to cut yourself some slack and enjoy being a young woman.
aliveinHim (post: 1463515) wrote:@K. Ayato, thanks. You're really sweet. And now, you're happily married .
@Okami, It's ok if you're not Barbie-esque. God made you beautiful just the way you are. It's taken a lot for me to come to the realization that I'm beautiful (I never realized it but a lot of people tell me I'm pretty and I don't even realize it). I'm a hyper, slightly immature person (because I've grown up in a neighborhood being the oldest girl amongst the sea of small children). I have fun coloring, running around outside bare foot, climbing trees, jumping on the trampoline, and roasting marshmallows with all the kiddies.
Yamamaya (post: 1463520) wrote:Actually Bratz dolls have probably done more damage to young girls than Barbie, because at least Barbie is independant and has had many different jobs. Still a joke with the looks, but Bratz is a LOT worse in that department.
Yuki-Anne (post: 1463624) wrote:As for being happily single, it is possible. I never dated anyone until was 19, and I made myself positively miserable over it.
Amen to that, Yuki-A, and I actually think that being contented when you're single is really important. Sure, one still might have the desires to marry someday or to have a significant other... those desires aren't wrong. But giving those possibilities and plans to God to handle are crucial. I'm excited to hear your experience of being a missionary and how you view that... That you view it realistically, and that's you're striving to follow after Christ instead of chasing after a man. How you don't say for certain, "I'm just going to wait to get married because I KNOW God will have me get married because I want to." I wish people would stop believing that way... like their desires for marriage dictate what's in God's plans for them, when God isn't tied down by what people want!Yuki-Anne (post: 1463624) wrote:As for being happily single, it is possible. I never dated anyone until was 19, and I made myself positively miserable over it.
Incidentally, I haven't been on a date since I was 19, but I refuse to make myself miserable over that. Consider: I am a missionary in Japan. I will be the first person to tell you, this is very cool, and if I had married a while ago, chances are I wouldn't be here. So I'm pretty happy with the way my life has been and with the fact that my prayers for a husband have yet to be answered satisfactorily.
I still have days where I feel bummed, but for the most part, I'm okay. However, I do LOATHE when people say, "It'll all work out in God's time!" It's trite and unhelpful.
Radical Dreamer (post: 1460613) wrote:At first I was like, "maybe I'll make a post in this thread!" and then I saw this post and was like "actually it looks like I already did!" XDD This describes my opinion to a T. XD
Atria35 (post: 1470892) wrote:I have to say, this thread came to my mind recently. In my Shakespeare class, we're reading Measure for Measure, and one of the problems that was brought up is that one of the main characters is told that if she doesn't sleep with the guy in charge, her brother will be executed.
We were all asked whether we would give up our virginity to save our (hypothetical) brother's life. It was interesting to see the responses.
Yuki-Anne (post: 1471284) wrote:Now that IS an interesting question. It reminds me of the lying to Nazis to save Jews conundrum.
Can we explore this?
John 15:13 wrote: Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.
Atria35 (post: 1471299) wrote:They said they would die in place of the other person, but not sleep with someone to save them.
ShiroiHikari (post: 1471362) wrote:...Well this thread has gone in an interesting direction.
My opinion? Life > virginity.
It's like Maledicte said, how many people would say, "Well, sorry bro, I gotta be a virgin, so have fun being dead."
Solid Ronin (post: 1471446) wrote:I'd be totally cool with dying and sparing my sister's virginity to some [Ill person].
shooraijin (post: 1471485) wrote:Just to throw a wrench into an already hyper-hypothetical situation, could you trust him to let your brother go after that? IMO, such a wretch would probably kill him anyway.
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