Feeling alone.

[S.M.O.G.]

Without too many details, I feel alone. I don't have that many friends (I'm homeschooled) and the few that I do I only get to see a coulple times a week.

But over this past weekend all the sudden I've been feeling depressed because I don't have a girlfriend. I know I should't have a girlfriend for the sake of having one, and thats not why I want one. I know God has someone out there for me, and a couple time I thought I've meet "The one," But later found out that the message was not from God.

There's more, but like I said, I'm not going into much more detail, but I will if I decide it's necesery. I jut wanted toget this off my chest. All prayrer and advice is very welcome.

[Sheenar]

I struggled with loneliness hard core off and on for years (and I still do occasionally). Yes, we do need fellowship with other believers --it is vital --but we also need alone time with God. I've learned that during times of loneliness, God was teaching me to rely more on Him to keep me going.

Trust in the Lord. As you grow in your walk with Him and run after Him, look beside you and see who's running with you. I know waiting is hard, but it will be worth the wait. Don't give up hope.

[freerock1]

Lifting you up, my brother. For what it's worth, I've not done the best in relationships either... and I'm 28.

Like you, a few times I'd thought maybe I'd met "the one," but that wasn't the case. But looking back, I could see where God had His hand in the situation all along and it wouldn't have been what was best for me.

Are you involved in a church youth group or anything like that? Getting involved in a strong youth group where the Bible is taught and where they just pull you in can really be helpful.

Of course I'd also recommend spending time with God in prayer and the Bible. God will be your Best Friend, even in the times it feels like you don't have many friends.

[ADXC]

Loneliness is something I can relate with. Even at a christian school, there's only one whom I can call my "friend". But we really don't do much and most of the time I am by myself. I do get lonely from time to time, but I kinda think of it as a gift. Why? Because in the future Im afraid if I trade in my solitary, an abundance of problems are just going to plop up. So I cherish the time I get to have with just myself. Most of the people in the world whether you know it or not are jerks which makes it hard to find actual friends.


I do go to my youth group, but sometimes I feel as an outcast because no one really wants to talk to the semi-new person. It's been 7 months and really hardly anyone has talked to me. And I too do not have a girlfriend and I do not think I'll have one for a long time.

So buddy your not alone in being alone. But please remember there are always friends for you here. I know it's not the same as actual, real life, physical friends, but beggars are not choosers. So yeah, we're here for you if you ever need to talk.

But it is key to have a friend in Jesus. He is the MOST important friend you ever have and if you don't believe that then you won't find enjoyment in life. Im serious, Jesus will lead you to true, sincere friends. But without Jesus there is Satan who will lead you to false friends who will lead you astray. So think of this "loneliness" as being sheltered away from terribly sinful people. So keep Jesus first or else...

[Midori]

Yeah, I get pretty lonely from time to time too. We just have to be patient and wait for God's timing. Until then, we make do with the Lord's company, and cherish the friends we have, and try to love those who are not our friends too. Good luck, fellow bachelor. I'm praying for you (and for you too ADXC).

[S.M.O.G.]

Thaks for posting guys. Trying to decide if telling the rest of the story is neccecery.

[S.M.O.G.]

I fecided I dot need to eplain any moreright now, but I need you guys to keep prayng. Please post to. That really helps.

[Phantom_Sorano]

I know how it feels to be alone and alienated; without people who are closed to you. I've been there. Try to remember that you will always have God to hear you out and to be there for you, if that's any consulation. I'll be praying for you.

[Roz]

But it is key to have a friend in Jesus. He is the MOST important friend you ever have...

This.

The trick is, don't look for a girlfriend. When the time is right you'll find each other.

And this. If God has someone for you he will show her to you in His perfect time.

As to the (homeschool) loneliness.....

CHURCH LEAGUE SOFTBALL!!!:dance::jump:

Or if you have a local YMCA they a lot of times have classes on different things that are fun. Or a community collage, you could take a class on something you've always wanted learn or get better at. Or you could find a local karate class.

There's my very sport-loving two cents. ^^

[S.M.O.G.]

My church hasn't had softball for a couple years, and I'm not sur I would anyways. I always sucked at little leauge. No YMCA, Dunno about the community college class, and I can't afford the karate classes.

[MangArtist]

I'm dealing with the same thing, bro. =\
I'll pray for ya. =]

[Wind]

to gain strength from God is the important thing... I lost my baby and my bf all in one month... So just take courage that God loves you and God cares about you to want you to know you're never alone

[heero yuy 95]

I feel you on the loneliness. I think that's a problem we've all dealt with at one point or the other. And yep... there have been times when I see the super-cool good-at-sports good-looking guys at my church with their super-cute gfs, I have looked in their direction with perhaps a hint of envy. But the other members are totally correct when they say don't look for a gf. God will show the one that's right in good time. ^_^

[WhiteMage212]

Instead of using an english curlicum (don't know how to spell well) take a class with some kind of home school program. It helps to take classes outside the house. That's how I gained more friends. If the class works in group to review others home work, then it will help you get to know the people better. I have been homeschooled all my life. And about the girlfriend thing, let God bring her to you, don't try to look for "the one" by your own power. God works things out.

[foolishbunny]

i do too often even Adam felt alone even though he had the whole Garden of Eden I'm not home schooled but there are so few people with the faith

[Garland]

I'm not homeschooled but I was always the "loner" at school. I only have a couple of good friends. I know how this feels. God brought me out of it and I'm sure He has a reason for this loneliness.

Remember Jeremiah 29:11—For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

[Veru]

GOd ive lost every one close to me my famile fight s i whant to live with my dad my freaind killed herslef and i have metle issues so im all alone

[Gelka]

I'll be praying Veru! Just hang in there.

[Lady Kenshin]

I pray for all of you. Loneliness is horrible, as I of all people should know, but I am here to tell you that the sun WILL come out again. God will not abandon you, and He understands that you need more than just His companionship to feel complete. He will bring you those who need you and those whom you will need. Just keep holding on. Things WILL get better.

[Veru]

Thanks see there needs to be people like you guys in the wourld(or our town)
after loesing most my friends iv lost my direction i know this is a test but ive been through so much allready and im still very younge and now that im a little older every thing i do is starting to count well thanks agin

[LadyRushia]

Thanks see there needs to be people like you guys in the wourld(or our town)
after loesing most my friends iv lost my direction i know this is a test but ive been through so much allready and im still very younge and now that im a little older every thing i do is starting to count well thanks agin

Veru, once again, please make your own prayer threads.

Loneliness on the relationship front certainly isn't fun, especially when things remain stagnant. Finding other things to focus on helps; that way, all of that stuff happens at the right time and you don't feel like your soul is being torn apart. Easier said than done, I know, but it's something.

[Sanji07]

I understand what you're going through. Just hang in there-God will send you good friends if you ask Him to. Here's some positive news: you're never really alone. God is always with you, and He's the greatest friend you'll ever have. ^_^

[12praiseGOD]

Definitely praying!