Haunted

[Kurama]

Well....this is really confusing to explain but here goes.

I do Face Painting for a art Leage and theres a girl the like All the stuff I do and Today the group and I were at a festival and we were by the dancers and then cheerleaders came on and the girl was telling me that she drools everytime she sees cheerleaders, and i asked her why and she goes. "I`m Lesbian, Duh?" I froze.Now I don`t know what to think of her. after she told me that I just went. "Oh ok" ,and went back to face painting. Then when we had no one wanting the get thir faces painted, she sits right being me and puts her head on my shoulder, slowly takeing peices of my cotten Candy. I just froze stiff. I used the bathroom as an exuse to leave the table, Now i`m afraid to go to meetings anymore and I`m afraid to tell my Mom. I used to think she was a cool person now she just scares me. T.T I feel the urge that she needs a nice person in her life but I don`t want her to think I`m lesbian too, cause I`m not but she was acting like I am. o.o she even calls me Kat. o.o So i`m not sure what to think of this situation. T.T I`m scared by all this. I want to share the Lord with her but I KNOW I`m not spiritual enough and I`m scared of her already, but at the same time shes really nice and a awesome artest. I`m not sure I belive shes Lesbian because she tells me about her BOY friend all the time, so ya`know. I`m stuck.

So if you guys/gals have the time, please pray for me, I`m really scared by this situation, and i fear its Haunting me.

[ChristianKitsune]

I know how you feel about this.

A good friend of mine, who is a wonderfual anime artist, is also the same way. Although I didn't find out till a year after we met..and she told me while she was staying at my house one day..

It's strage...but I have found that I shouldn't be AFRAID of them....because they are people too..just...confused. I think my friend had a bad past and that is the reason she is the way she is. It' also makes talking about God with her a little hard because she is athiest...

It will take some time, but I say try to be her friend...and don't give up on her. Love her like Jesus would! ^_^

I will pray, Kurama!

[Nate]

The only advice I can offer is if she tries to get close to you again, just say, "I'm very flattered, but I'm not interested in women." More than likely she will respect that, or she should anyway.

[Jingo Jaden]

Well said CK.

I will pray too

[K. Ayato]

I'll be praying, too.

[Armored_Saint]

Hopefully, she's just kidding around.

But I'll pray netherless!

[Destroyer2000]

Is she around your age? At 15,, it can be hard to say your sexuality. Many teens are simply confused and hormone crazed.

[Etoh*the*Greato]

I agree with Destroyer on that one. I would say that in respects to her hitting on you, try as hard as you can to treat it as though a guy you had no interest at all in were trying to do the same. Someone you only wanted as af friend and could only feel that way towards. Don't shirk, try not to shy. It may be difficult, but I can tell you that backing away will not help her perspective. Especially if you're a very vocal Christian. Continue to love her. Homosexuals by and large (at least most of the ones I've met) are not the scary twisted and perverted people a lot of conservative media will make them out to be. They need love (Christ's) just as much as any of the rest of us.

[Rogie]

It may be difficult, but I can tell you that backing away will not help her perspective. Especially if you're a very vocal Christian. Continue to love her. Homosexuals by and large (at least most of the ones I've met) are not the scary twisted and perverted people a lot of conservative media will make them out to be. They need love (Christ's) just as much as any of the rest of us.

A very big Amen to that. Remember that old cliche: Hate the sin, love the sinner. It's something that we as a Christian society need to start remembering more and more these days.

[Kurama]

Ok. Thank you guys. I told My Mom,(Well my brother did) and she told me I can still see here and its normal for them act like it. and right there I realised I hate being flirted with.....It somehow offends me. o.o I have a history of being flirted with a lot, and I don`t like it. It makes me feel uncomfertable and very offended, cause these are people I only met 5 minutes ago then they act like I`m there Girlfriend. -_-; but yeah XD I`ll stop my ramblings! Thanks for the prayers.

[Etoh*the*Greato]

I think more than anything for me in a situation like that, the difficulty would be the akwardness that comes when a close friend professes love for you. Several people have done that to my Fiancee over the course of our courtship. Really pretty forcefully. Needless to say, I was fairly offended by it. >.< The akwardness of knowing she may have feelings for you is a normal part of growing up. It's a regular part of highschool, college, and sometimes even adult life. You just have to find your own groovy way to cope with it.

[Jack Bond]

[quote="Kurama"]Ok. Thank you guys. I told My Mom,(Well my brother did) and she told me I can still see here and its normal for them act like it. and right there I realised I hate being flirted with.....It somehow offends me. o.o I have a history of being flirted with a lot, and I don`t like it. It makes me feel uncomfertable and very offended, cause these are people I only met 5 minutes ago then they act like I`m there Girlfriend. -_-]I know exactly what you mean! Like this one girl sent a whisper in some chat I forget saying "Do u want to be my BF?"
and when I gave the slightest hint that I wasn't saying yes, she said "Go 2 hell" and wouldn't talk to me anymore. That's the worst isn't it?

About the main problem, I'm really sorry for both of you. I'll pray.

[Kurama]

That happens all the time!! This kid on Myspace named Shikamaru wants me to be his Girl Friend and when I told him I was not into that stuff he wouldnt stop asking me questions like "You would never break my heart would you?" and he was giving me the guilty treatment. -_-;

[Saj]

Ill be praying for that girl and joo Kurama

[USSRGirl]

I'll keep you and the other girl in my prayers. Man, that is a really awkward situation. All I can say is to try to continue being friends with her but make it clear that you are a Christian, and don't want any kind of 'relationship.' Maybe she will learn something from your example.

[Kurama]

My Mom told me that too. So I am glad I am able to see her. I thought my Mom wouldnt let me but my Mom wants me to be a example to her so i will try. Thanks for all your prayers!

[Nami]

Awww, Kayla-chan, I totally understand where your coming from. Three girls I know in real life are BI! It totally freaked me out at first, and I didn't find out until I was REALLY good friends with these girls. I found out at one of their's birthday parties..

Oh wow, it was scary, to know I was surrounded by 3 Bi girls.. well.. 4 technically because of one of the girls friends.. Lee. Yes, Lee I believe is her name. So, I was VERY uncomfortable. But, soon I was okay.. it took me A VERY long time, because before that I had never known anyone like that... and it was.. scary 0_0

But yes, I can relate.. But being the Christian I am, I didn't quit being their friend, infact I let them know I Didn't like Bi/Lesbian/gay things.. ahah! They took it really well. And that I was a Christian...

One of them told me something.. that I shall never forget.. she was only Lesbian because her friends wanted her to be. She said "It's not that great." We were sitting at the table, and it was just me and her. And I responded. "What?"

"Being this way, it's.. not what people say it is.." I almost choked. She didn't want to be like that, but because of peer pressure, she was.. I really felt bad for her, and when the others came down, she resumed to be the way she had been before out conversation..

But I will pray for you.. sorry that was WAAAY off topic, but I will certainly pray for you. And the best thing you can do..is be their friend no matter waht, and explain.. that you don't agree with that, if they are truly your friend.. they will understand *hugs Kurama* No worries

[Kurama]

Oh wow we are more alike than I thought, Nami. Thankies nami.