I was hit on by a fellow guy =O
PostPosted: Sat Apr 05, 2008 11:42 am
Mayhaps this belongs in Prayer Requests and not here. I dunno. D= Also, forgive my lack of clarity and sounding clear. D=
So, I met this guy on CAA recently. A few days after we met, he hit on me, saying that I am a beautiful person on the inside, which was all that counted to him. I tactfully explained that I was not interested in romance, regardless of whether he was a male or a female. Since then, the two of us have talked with each other about our respective weaknesses; he believes his attraction to guys is one of his. This may be true; however, it honestly seems to me like he might merely be confusing platonic brotherly love with romantic love. He says that sex is the last thing he wants, describing his feelings for me as "romance without sex". I cannot claim to be an expert on romance (no experience =O), but the things which he claims distinguish romantic love from mere friendship, seemed to me to perfectly define true platonic love (aside, perhaps, from the mention of kissing). I've discussed this with someone else, and this theory doesn't seem implausible to either of us. I've known other people who've had similar confusion, which suggests that this could be a fairly common affliction. D=
Anyway, the guy apologized for hitting on me, and he says he really wants to overcome his attraction to guys. But I just can't help this guy on my own -- he needs you guys and God on his side, too! He needs knowledge and support that I don't have! So, uh. . . give me your knowledge? And I'll show him this thread? XD Also, I hope you guys can talk to him more directly, because that'd probably help him, too. =3
Note: Although the thread title might suggest otherwise (I couldn't think of a better one. . . D= ), this thread really isn't about me, but about the other guy who hit on me. I want to help him. . . . =O
(Edit: I have been given permission to reveal the identity of the other person involved; it is CAA member Roxas2210. Now that you have his CAA screen name, it will be easier for helpful folks with helpful things to say to have a direct conversation with him. XD; I really hope he can be helped. <3 )
So, I met this guy on CAA recently. A few days after we met, he hit on me, saying that I am a beautiful person on the inside, which was all that counted to him. I tactfully explained that I was not interested in romance, regardless of whether he was a male or a female. Since then, the two of us have talked with each other about our respective weaknesses; he believes his attraction to guys is one of his. This may be true; however, it honestly seems to me like he might merely be confusing platonic brotherly love with romantic love. He says that sex is the last thing he wants, describing his feelings for me as "romance without sex". I cannot claim to be an expert on romance (no experience =O), but the things which he claims distinguish romantic love from mere friendship, seemed to me to perfectly define true platonic love (aside, perhaps, from the mention of kissing). I've discussed this with someone else, and this theory doesn't seem implausible to either of us. I've known other people who've had similar confusion, which suggests that this could be a fairly common affliction. D=
Anyway, the guy apologized for hitting on me, and he says he really wants to overcome his attraction to guys. But I just can't help this guy on my own -- he needs you guys and God on his side, too! He needs knowledge and support that I don't have! So, uh. . . give me your knowledge? And I'll show him this thread? XD Also, I hope you guys can talk to him more directly, because that'd probably help him, too. =3
Note: Although the thread title might suggest otherwise (I couldn't think of a better one. . . D= ), this thread really isn't about me, but about the other guy who hit on me. I want to help him. . . . =O
(Edit: I have been given permission to reveal the identity of the other person involved; it is CAA member Roxas2210. Now that you have his CAA screen name, it will be easier for helpful folks with helpful things to say to have a direct conversation with him. XD; I really hope he can be helped. <3 )