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John_Smith wrote:Furthermore, the most important thing you need to ask yourself this: Is this the guy that God wants you to be with? If the answer to this is no, then you need to stop the idea entirely, as difficult as it may be.

PandaPop wrote:2 Corinthians 6:14- "Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? And what accord has Christ with Belial? Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever?

Lynna wrote:but this verse is actually used out of context very frequently to support this argument, despite the fact that there is no evidence Paul was talking about marriage when he said that.

Atria35 wrote:It's pretty obvious that you're very into having him convert, and my first piece of advice is to take a step back and think about whether you are putting pressure on him to say that he is a believer solely to ease that off and so that he can be with you. If he is doing it just to make you happy, that's no good.

PandaPop wrote:Yoked- a device for joining together a pair of draft animals, especially oxen, usually consisting of a crosspiece with two bow-shaped pieces, each enclosing the head of an animal.
Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers
Marriage is a joining together of two people and then they become ONE.
The context of the verse is very clearly about our relationships with people (marriage being a relationship, one of the strongest we can form on this earth) but it is not just for marriage it is for many relationships, If you read it in context (at least 20 verses before and after) it is clear. If you do not take this verse as literally talking about our human relationships, then it makes utterly no sense whatsoever.

Dennis Bratcher wrote:To this, Paul simply answers that they cannot be mixed, that God's people must be marked by a different kind of lifestyle than others, and that lifestyle cannot be mixed with a pagan lifestyle. Using the OT principle of preserving boundaries between things that should not be mixed, Paul simply says that being Christian means that the Corinthians can no longer practice the activities of pagan worship or pagan ethics, since those are things that should not be mixed with the worship of God. In other words, what they did ethically mattered a great deal if they were claiming to be Christians.

Practically, this could apply to a lot of areas of life, but not as a rigid law. It is a matter of ethics that must come from the freedom in Christ that Paul makes clear. But that freedom does not mean, Paul contends, that we are not compelled by love of both God and neighbor. So, it might, indeed, have some practical ethical application in the case of a Christian dating or marrying a non-Christian. Again, it is not a matter of law. But it is a matter of allowing God to be God, and recognizing that when we are his people, his sons and daughters (2 Cor 6:18), that means we are in a relationship of love that constrains our freedom for the sake of that love (1 Cor 13).

The result is a lifestyle that is "cleansed" from such contamination with pagan practices as visiting temple prostitutes (2 Cor 7:1), because someone who truly loves God as a son or daughter would not contaminate themselves with such practices. In others words, Paul is simply answering that it does, indeed, make a difference what the body does since that cannot be separated from who we are as sons and daughters of God.

Of course, the next question will be, "But what does that mean today?" We want a single answer to this question, a list of rules to follow. And we too often either fall in love with the list of rules we make (legalism), or we revert back to the Corinthian view and think that there really are no rules (postmodern relativism). Yet what Paul calls us to in Corinthians is a lifestyle that is governed by love (cf. 1 Cor 13). That is really what separates us from the "unclean" things around us. And Paul notes in another writing that it is often up to us to decide how we should practice that love as Christians (cf. Phil 2:12-23: "work out your own salvation with fear and trembling; for it is God who is at work in you, enabling you both to will and to work for his good pleasure."). That simply places a great deal of emphasis on Christian ethics, not as law, but as the outworking of the "royal law of love" as John Wesley was so fond of quoting (James 2:8; see James and the Law). And that principle is precisely what Paul is using in the letters to the church at Corinth (for example, 1 Cor 13).

PandaPop wrote:The context of the verse is very clearly about our relationships with people (marriage being a relationship, one of the strongest we can form on this earth) but it is not just for marriage it is for many relationships, If you read it in context (at least 20 verses before and after) it is clear. If you do not take this verse as literally talking about our human relationships, then it makes utterly no sense whatsoever.

John_Smith wrote:So I wrote this and stared at it for fifteen minutes and finally decided to just post it:

I think arguing about this verse is a distraction. In either case, it’s warning about being affected negatively by a nonbeliever. Keep this is mind.

Conventional wisdom says this won't work. And to be honest, I was surprised when I saw the confident answer you had to my post. In most cases, I would say, alright, then what are you waiting for? But you should also consider K. Ayato's post. I don't want to question what you call signs, however there have been many to have said similar things, only to be wrong. Missionary dating can be one step away from just letting your relationship with God slip. You spend this time getting to know a person, and in that time you convince yourself that he's the one for you. Once then, how easy is it to go down a road you aren't supposed to be?

Don't get me wrong, I want to say that it will work out, and he'll soon convert. But the truth is most of these situations don't end well. I'm being cynical because I think you considering these things are the only way how it could possibly work. Whatever you do, do with God. You have my prayers.

Also, if you haven't already done this, you should find a friend, as in a non-computer friend to talk to about this. Christian preferred. Or your pastor.

John_Smith wrote:So I wrote this and stared at it for fifteen minutes and finally decided to just post it:

I think arguing about this verse is a distraction. In either case, it’s warning about being affected negatively by a nonbeliever. Keep this is mind.

Conventional wisdom says this won't work. And to be honest, I was surprised when I saw the confident answer you had to my post. In most cases, I would say, alright, then what are you waiting for? But you should also consider K. Ayato's post. I don't want to question what you call signs, however there have been many to have said similar things, only to be wrong. Missionary dating can be one step away from just letting your relationship with God slip. You spend this time getting to know a person, and in that time you convince yourself that he's the one for you. Once then, how easy is it to go down a road you aren't supposed to be?

Don't get me wrong, I want to say that it will work out, and he'll soon convert. But the truth is most of these situations don't end well. I'm being cynical because I think you considering these things are the only way how it could possibly work. Whatever you do, do with God. You have my prayers.

Also, if you haven't already done this, you should find a friend, as in a non-computer friend to talk to about this. Christian preferred. Or your pastor.

Xeno wrote:Inter-faith marriages are capable of working.

Princess Kairi wrote:I've talked to different people like this, but not quite this much. I've talked with my pastor's wife more than my pastor about it because I'm more comfortable talking to her about it, but I've been thinking that I should talk to my pastor. I'll probably do that tomorrow or Sunday.

randomuser2349 wrote:I'd say if you're not religiously identical or at least similar, you should not be marrying them. That will cause so many issues later in life.

K. Ayato wrote:Try Kutless .