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Last night I discovered that one of my (ex)friends does not want any contact with me because I apparently did something that in front of this person and [this person]'s friends to lose that person's trust. I've tried to ponder my actions during our brief friendship and during the times I was in the company of this person.

I realize I have a tendency to be weird, kurt, and sometimes ruthlessly sardonic. I must also confess that I lashed out at [this person] when I discovered that [this person] doesn't trust me. I felt like I was the victim but I also realized that I can be a jerk sometimes.

Please pray that there will be a reconcilliation because I don't understand what I did to lose this person's trust (but really want to find out so I can correct it) and because I don't want this enmity to poison my relationship between our mutual friends.

Did this person tell you what you did to lose their trust?
That may be the key to figuring this confusion out. You can try asking them politely about it.

I agree with Goldy (although, I have a feeling this person won't say anything). Try to talk to them, and if they won't even give you something to go off on, then it may just be then. I've heard similar stories involving this person, so it may not be all you >_>

It's good that you acknowledge that about yourself Everyone has growing room to work on

I'll pray that things work out

goldenspines (post: 1322543) wrote:Did this person tell you what you did to lose their trust?
That may be the key to figuring this confusion out. You can try asking them politely about it.

Read the "lashed out" bit. I'm afraid I already screwed this part up.

Ingemar (post: 1322561) wrote:Read the "lashed out" bit. I'm afraid I already screwed this part up.

Well, once you get your head back together and become fairly calm about the situation (which is seems you may have already), I suggest apologizing to them for your lashing out; at least before you get to the issue of them not trusting you. Even if you were the victim in this case, I think that type of behavior would still be uncalled for.
Everyone makes mistakes. Get yourself right with God and apologize to this person (since it's clear you know that lashing out didn't help the situation) and let Him worry about how he/she reacts to it.

What has been screwed up can be fixed ^^

You'll do good to just get everything out Leave everything in an offline message if you have to Do what Goldy says and apologize for lashing out Lashing out never helps anything It just makes things worst After you apologize, ask her what you did to lose her trust If there is a reason, then she should tell you what's up. If she doesn't have anything to say, then.. I'm not sure what to say.. It probably means there isn't really good of a reason I'm sorry to say >_>

Thanks, everyone.

I'm going to leave this burnt bridge unfixed. This person has been spreading lies about me. Although, I am informed it is not just this one person. Several people have been corroborating a story that is very damaging to my character and reputation.

Unfortunately, it is my word versus the word of several people--I don't know when and where they are getting this story, but since I have no meaningful way of defending myself my only resort is to persevere. It's the Biblical thing to do.

I'll be praying for you. It hurts when people spread gossip and lies. Just remember that there's always other friends to be made, and that all of us on CAA are here for you.