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My family has changed so much. I used to be the good child (I mean I had my problems but over-all I was a very good child) and my parents loved me. But then they switched churches....and now are so strict and think I'm evil because of the things I do (like wear makeup for example). I made a choice that I'm not finishing college, atleast not for now, because I can't decide what I want to be and until I decide I don't want to waste my time taking courses and classes I don't need. Well previously I was a music major. My parents bought me this awesome flute about a year ago (when they still liked me) and since I'm not going to college they took it away. Well, they also took it away cuz since I turned 18 I have to pay for everything myself and I can't afford flute lessons right now. They are constantly getting into fights with me about college and money and I don't understand.
My dad told me I looked like a cheap whore the other day because I was wearing shorts (and they were fingertip length too) I cried because it hurts. It hurts that the two people I loved and I thought loved me now think I'm evil and think I'm out in the world doing bad things (because my dad said to me "I don't know what you do OUT there..who knows" like I do bad stuff) I don't do bad stuff! I go to work...hang out with my boyfriend (playing video games and stuff)..that's it! I try my best to be a good person but they don't see it! They think you're unholy if you wear pants now and if you listen to certain types of music. They think only THEIR church preaches the right thing (and I go to another church so they hate me for that too). I feel like they don't love me anymore. Whatever happened to love everybody?

I miss my old parents. The parents I knew and loved. I feel so rejected by them and lately I've been so stressed and depressed.

I wish they would see that I'm not the one that changed, they did. I wish they would see how much they are hurting me.

I don't know exactly what to ask you to pray for...because I don't think they'll ever see how much they hurt me...but maybe just pray for me. Pray for me that I cheer up and continue doing the things I believe is right and not getting so down. I get depressed pretty easily and when I get depressed I cut.....and overdose on pills. So pray that I stop. Pray that I can just cheer up and maybe be able to talk to my parents about all this.

Thanks guys. God bless.

I have sort the same thing with my father.
Him being psychically, mentally and verbally abusive. For years I hated him and could not forgive him for all the wrongdoing he put me, my brother and mother through. Still very hard to forget at times.

Eventually my parents got divorced.
Which added more hatred toward him.
However the Lord helped me slowly get the strength to forgive him during the last time I spoke to him in 2004.

What I'm trying to say is, the Lord will be with you and love you through thick and thin even when people and family won't at times, unfortunately.........
I'm very sorry to hear that you are going through this trial.
I personally think there is nothing wrong with a woman wearing shorts, skirt or makeup etc as long as they aren't vain or doing it for seduction.

I will be praying for you:). God Bless and may peace be with you:).

fairyprincess90 (post: 1241807) wrote:My family has changed so much. I used to be the good child (I mean I had my problems but over-all I was a very good child) and my parents loved me. But then they switched churches....and now are so strict and think I'm evil because of the things I do (like wear makeup for example). I made a choice that I'm not finishing college, atleast not for now, because I can't decide what I want to be and until I decide I don't want to waste my time taking courses and classes I don't need. Well previously I was a music major. My parents bought me this awesome flute about a year ago (when they still liked me) and since I'm not going to college they took it away. Well, they also took it away cuz since I turned 18 I have to pay for everything myself and I can't afford flute lessons right now. They are constantly getting into fights with me about college and money and I don't understand.

Perhaps your parents have conflicting feelings over your decision to quit college for the present. Maybe they haven't resolved that yet.

fairyprincess90 (post: 1241807) wrote:My dad told me I looked like a cheap whore the other day because I was wearing shorts (and they were fingertip length too) I cried because it hurts. It hurts that the two people I loved and I thought loved me now think I'm evil and think I'm out in the world doing bad things (because my dad said to me "I don't know what you do OUT there..who knows" like I do bad stuff) I don't do bad stuff! I go to work...hang out with my boyfriend (playing video games and stuff)..that's it! I try my best to be a good person but they don't see it! They think you're unholy if you wear pants now and if you listen to certain types of music. They think only THEIR church preaches the right thing (and I go to another church so they hate me for that too). I feel like they don't love me anymore. Whatever happened to love everybody?

Well, maybe you made your decision very hastily and made a huge change that departed from their beliefs and that shocked them. Things like dressing in pants, listening to (I'm assuming rock) music, and going to a different church could easily offend them to the point of being contentious.

BUT, I think your Dad's a jerk for calling you a whore. That's just plain nasty and hateful. It sounds like he could use a healthy dose of Christianity. As far as wearing pants or shorts, or listening to rock music, none of that in and of itself is sin according to the Bible. Your parents can't support that from the Bible, and they certainly can't support their idea that only THEIR church preaches the right thing. So don't worry about that.

fairyprincess90 (post: 1241807) wrote:I miss my old parents. The parents I knew and loved. I feel so rejected by them and lately I've been so stressed and depressed.

I wish they would see that I'm not the one that changed, they did. I wish they would see how much they are hurting me.

I wish I could help you somehow. It sounds like communications between you and your parents are shot. Maybe talk to your pastor (or their pastor) and ask them to explain things to your parents. If anything, your parents will probably listen to their pastor. (He is, after all, the ONLY preacher there is, right?)

fairyprincess90 (post: 1241807) wrote:I don't know exactly what to ask you to pray for...because I don't think they'll ever see how much they hurt me...but maybe just pray for me. Pray for me that I cheer up and continue doing the things I believe is right and not getting so down. I get depressed pretty easily and when I get depressed I cut.....and overdose on pills. So pray that I stop. Pray that I can just cheer up and maybe be able to talk to my parents about all this.

Thanks guys. God bless.

You will definitely be in my prayers.