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I was given a puppy on Christmas day on 2007 and he had just died today at 11:05. I did cry and all but, I just feel like I am over it. I just no longer harbor the pain like I used to before. I mean, yeah, I am upset that my dog died and I did have a dog before him that I had grieved for days but, for some reason, I'm just not as sad as I thought I was. Is there something wrong with me? I feel as if I don't care anymore about him, but I do care and I just feel as if animals don't matter to me anymore, but I don't want to feel this way! I've been an animal lover ever since I can remember, especially for dogs, but I've gotten over him quite quickly and I just don't care anymore so much about animals.

What's wrong with me?
(P.S,: I'm not crying at all, why is that? I don't like the feeling of being nonchalant about death)

People grieve in different ways at different times. For me, it usually hits me a few days or weeks later. When a pet dies, sometimes I almost feel a little relieved - not because I don't miss them/loved them - but because it's harder for me to watch them going down hill than know that they're with the Lord.

Sometimes grief can be anti-climatic, but it doesn't mean you didn't love your dog. You might cry or you might not - it's just the way people are. I think it's easier when you're a kid because you automatically react by balling your eyes out.

Anyway, in my prayers.

USSRGirl (post: 1235287) wrote:People grieve in different ways at different times. For me, it usually hits me a few days or weeks later. When a pet dies, sometimes I almost feel a little relieved - not because I don't miss them/loved them - but because it's harder for me to watch them going down hill than know that they're with the Lord.

Sometimes grief can be anti-climatic, but it doesn't mean you didn't love your dog. You might cry or you might not - it's just the way people are. I think it's easier when you're a kid because you automatically react by balling your eyes out.

Anyway, in my prayers.

I know but...I do feel relieved but its almost feels as if to the point that I don't care for him. Maybe I just have to wait... but, I don't want to feel as if I don't care about him. I do, but...I don't know. I just feel kinda numb or as if it never happend.

Thank you for praying for me...

You are growing up. The first pet I lost, I was heartbroken and miserable over, and I can still remember the grief-stricken shrieks of my sister, a couple years old than me. A cat I lost last year I simply grieved quietly over. I loved them both just as much, I just reacted differently as an eight-year-old than as a forty-six-year-old. Back then, it was all at once, immediate and horrible. Now it's a quiet loss, a missing spot in my life that can never quite be filled.

It can really take a while to set in sometimes, too. Don't be surprised if you find yourself crying later.

I will keep you in my prayers, and I'll bet every other animal's friend on the forum will probably do the same.

Oh, that's too bad. But your lack of tears is not evidence of taking your dog's death lightly. I've lost... Many small fishies and a tiny turtle (sooooooo cuuuuute). They all died, and the turtle's death broke my heart. But I don't cry anymore as this was a few years ago and the grief has left me since. You have probably reached a healing point around the same time I did. There's nothing to worry about. Given time I'm sure this guilty feeling will leave you and the pleasure in having had your dog will be the dominant emotion you feel when you think of it.

praying you sort your feelings out!
GOD BLESS YOU!!!

Sometimes it just takes a while for it to sink in.
I know that it took a while when my grandma died---I didn't cry at all the day I found out or at her funeral --but a couple of weeks later it hit me that she was gone and I wept. I guess I was just in shock at first...
Maybe your loss hasn't sunk in yet.

I will pray for you. I know how I'd feel if anything ever happened to my dog.