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Hey guys,

I need some prayer....although i can't go into all of it right now. I just found out my old boss/friend/.....more... he's hunting me down.

I basically quit without telling him because of alot of past psychological abuse..i had to escape (this was during my hospital stay).....well i just found out from my friend who is also a former student that he's hunting me down...and hired a Private investigator to do so.

I'm staying with my boyfriend, whom he doesn't know the last name to or the address...but i'm terrified. He could kill me easily. Very easily.

please pray for protection. I may need to get a restraining order but...i don't know if i can mentally do that. i can't be in the same room as him.

I'm terrified guys to the point where i'm shaking and i'm just so scared. I know God is in control. i know even if I do die that i will be with Jesus.

Thankyou

Kelly

i'll pray for you. have you calle the cops?

no because there isn't proof that he will kill me....i'm not sure of what he will do....

i just.....he has control over my mind...he did for over 3 years.....i.....i'm not even sure if i could say a negative thing to his face even now....God help me....its like my mind isn't my own....

Oh my God!! This is awful! Listen, here's what you need to do. Have someone (your boyfriend or someone physically competent to protect you) be your companion 24/7. ABSOLUTELY 24/7. Tell the police about it and get a restraining order on this guy and the investigator if you can. If you don't have a weapon like a gun, get one, or have your companion get one. You may as well tell your boyfriend to get one too, as he is risking his own safety in this as well (Great guy.). This is a murder case waiting to happen.

Sweetie, go to the police. Even if they cannot do anything YET, it will ensure that there is an official record of your complaint... and have any and everyone close to you begin praying the blood of Jesus over your life, your home and your family... If he is obsessed enough to begin stalking you... there are spiritual forces at work. Create a hedge of protection around you and those forces won't be able to penetrate and harm you. I am praying for you... I have followed your story since joining CAA and I have been there. I really have... so I know how debilitating it can be to try and live for God when all your circumstances try to latch onto you and drag you down...

God bless,
Jessica

Hmm...my mom had the same control over me...I've had a lot of the same feelings since I broke ties with her...I understand what that's like and I agree that you did the right thing by getting away from him.
I will keep praying for you and for your safety. Surround yourself with encouraging people and don't go off alone.
Are you sure you can't call the police? Isn't this considered stalking?
Since you can't be in the same room with him, is there someone who can advocate for you in getting a restraining order?

Sorry about all the questions --just trying to figure out how to pray for you and if there is any way I can help or find resources for you.

Hang in there, friend. *hugs* I know it's scary, but remember that you are in God's hands.

Kunoichi (post: 1228858) wrote:no because there isn't proof that he will kill me....i'm not sure of what he will do....

i just.....he has control over my mind...he did for over 3 years.....i.....i'm not even sure if i could say a negative thing to his face even now....God help me....its like my mind isn't my own....

You can still call the police if he is stalking you or trying to find you. that is harassment. Heck, you could even sue him for all the emotional trauma he's done to you. XD

but i would totally call the police, cause what the others have said above me, then they get a record on the guy.

You should notify the police, then perhaps the Intelligence community such as the FBI can get involved. I'll be praying for you.

i don't know if i can go to the police...i don't want him to find out how i am complaining against him.... i don't want him to find out my address.

i'm more able to fight him then my boyfriend is because i have trained under my boss but my boss can easily kill me with what he knows. I am going to get a concealed weapons license as is my boyfriend.

I'm....i'm more than scared...i know God is greater but i'm so scared....

I am going to have my boyfriend with me 24/7. I'm working on being able to work at the same place as my boyfriend. I...I just didn't think he would go this far...

I'm sending back the keys and everything tonight...overnight with no return address.....I just....i feel sick to my stomach and i can't stop shaking....I'm just praying god will give me courage

For a restraining order...I would have to proof of history stalking but i don't...the only way i could would be to have a state psychiastrist show that i have psychological trauma and abuse and they would take the stand for me...that is if they can find my boss to serve him. I just know that i can't be in the same room as him or speak to him....

Alright. Getting a gun seems like the best way of ensuring your safety. At night set up alarms like easily falling objects near the doors and windows. And smoke alarms, of course. Maybe even get a dog (if possible) for the outside and inside. This is the best way of protecting yourself. I've seen the many ways people have been killed, and the best alarm against an unknown person entering the house is a dog.

Again, you're in my prayers day and night. I'm also praying that this dispicable human being is jailed.

i have three dogs and eight ppl who live in this household. I'm more afraid he will attack me at my work than home since he doesn't know where i live.

i'm going to get a gun....i just....i still have nightmares and i didn't think that he would do this...or maybe i'm just overreacting..

But the Police, FBI, along with there more serious counterparts within the intelligence community can help you get out of this.
Especially if he's trying to kill you.
Godspeed.

Kunoichi (post: 1228869) wrote:i don't know if i can go to the police...i don't want him to find out how i am complaining against him.... i don't want him to find out my address.

i'm more able to fight him then my boyfriend is because i have trained under my boss but my boss can easily kill me with what he knows. I am going to get a concealed weapons license as is my boyfriend.

I'm....i'm more than scared...i know God is greater but i'm so scared....

I am going to have my boyfriend with me 24/7. I'm working on being able to work at the same place as my boyfriend. I...I just didn't think he would go this far...

I'm sending back the keys and everything tonight...overnight with no return address.....I just....i feel sick to my stomach and i can't stop shaking....I'm just praying god will give me courage

For a restraining order...I would have to proof of history stalking but i don't...the only way i could would be to have a state psychiastrist show that i have psychological trauma and abuse and they would take the stand for me...that is if they can find my boss to serve him. I just know that i can't be in the same room as him or speak to him....

The police are not going to go tell him where to find you. You are right that they can't do anything but investigate right now, but they CAN talk to your friend, they can talk to other people, they can get started right now.

If they won't take a statement from you, then ask them about abuse shelters and programs they can suggest. Also, call your pastor. Dead serious about this. Most clergy have knowledge of abuse hotlines, legal help, all sorts of help that various organizations can give you. I'm sure plenty of people would help, but you have to give them an opportunity to do so.

Definetly praying! MAY GOD PROTECT YOU KUNOICHI.

EricTheFred (post: 1228878) wrote:The police are not going to go tell him where to find you. You are right that they can't do anything but investigate right now, but they CAN talk to your friend, they can talk to other people, they can get started right now.

If they won't take a statement from you, then ask them about abuse shelters and programs they can suggest. Also, call your pastor. Dead serious about this. Most clergy have knowledge of abuse hotlines, legal help, all sorts of help that various organizations can give you. I'm sure plenty of people would help, but you have to give them an opportunity to do so.

i haven't told my family about this yet.......but....i don't think i can...they don't know i slept with him. I ashamed to tell them.

I don't have a pastor either. I have a friend who is a former pastor but his kids go to the school and i'm afraid to tell him this.

Prays for Kunoichi-chan ***I don't know quite what to say about this situation...it sounds almost too crazy to be true... but nevertheless I shall pray***

Kunoichi (post: 1228894) wrote:i haven't told my family about this yet.......but....i don't think i can...they don't know i slept with him. I ashamed to tell them.

I don't have a pastor either. I have a friend who is a former pastor but his kids go to the school and i'm afraid to tell him this.

i think you should tell your parents anyway. even if you might be slightly ashamed, its best to have everyone know that your safety is in jeopardy. I'm pretty sure they would be more concerned for your safety than angry with you or whatever. :/

EricTheFred (post: 1228878) wrote:The police are not going to go tell him where to find you. You are right that they can't do anything but investigate right now, but they CAN talk to your friend, they can talk to other people, they can get started right now.

If they won't take a statement from you, then ask them about abuse shelters and programs they can suggest. Also, call your pastor. Dead serious about this. Most clergy have knowledge of abuse hotlines, legal help, all sorts of help that various organizations can give you. I'm sure plenty of people would help, but you have to give them an opportunity to do so.

Agreed GO TO THE POLICE.

Kunoichi all that doesn't matter anymore. Are you seriously willing to risk your life just because of one sin? Come on, that's silly! They are your family!

Right now, what's important is your safety and mindset. You don't need this stress, and going to the police would be the BEST option right now.

Think this through rationally... if your family knew he was trying to find you, wouldn't they do their best to help you?

ChristianKitsune (post: 1228928) wrote:Agreed GO TO THE POLICE.

Kunoichi all that doesn't matter anymore. Are you seriously willing to risk your life just because of one sin? Come on, that's silly! They are your family!

Right now, what's important is your safety and mindset. You don't need this stress, and going to the police would be the BEST option right now.

Think this through rationally... if your family knew he was trying to find you, wouldn't they do their best to help you?

QFT. If a sister of mine ever told me about this, in all humanity, I would never consider shaming her as opposed to helping her. I wouldn't shy from helping them because they committed such a common sin.

......i don't know how to go to the police...what do i do or say???

I don't want my boss to know I issued a complaint...I don't know. I need strength and i have none...

U definetly have my prayers on this.....I definetly ditto calling the police....

I know ur scared, but I want to share something I heard recently while reading the book, "Do Hard Things"....It goes somewhat like this,

"Courage is not the absence of Fear....But, instead, Courage is not letting that fear control ur actions....."

Remember whose side ur on.....Put ur trust in Him and keep askin Him for this courage.....

Kun, go to the police and tell them you strongly believe your boss is after you. If they ask for details, just give them a brief recap of how he was treating you. No need to go into too much detail. Just the facts.

Also, get support from your family. What you've done in the past isn't top priority material at this moment.

Kunoichi (post: 1228938) wrote:......i don't know how to go to the police...what do i do or say???

I don't want my boss to know I issued a complaint...I don't know. I need strength and i have none...

I don't know why you don't want your boss to know. Perhaps that is your own thing to keep to yourself. BUT, the police are under no obligation to disclose your location to him. If anything, it should keep him away should he find out that you're taking action.

Perhaps (and maybe you should ask the police about this) consider telling your boss you have a weapon you're willing to use IF he finds you. Knowing you have a gun should discourage him from following you.

Hi Kunoichi,
Please don't get locked into fear-it's the opposite of faith!
It immobilizes you cannot act.
You need a restraining order to document these things.
Cover yourself in the Blood of Jesus and he can not and will not hurt you in Jesus Name.

Isaiah 41:10

So do not fear, for I am with you;
do not be dismayed, for I am your God.
I will strengthen you and help you;
I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.

Don't worry God's with you and He loves you,He'll send his angels least you dash your foot against a stone.

Praying that everything will be ok.

God Bless.

Tell the police what you've been telling us. Yes, it's not enough to get them to jail him or put a restraining order on him, but it's worth it to have the police know. The more calls they get about this guy the higher the chances of getting a restraining order.

Yeah, definitively go to the police and tell your family. The police won't ask you from some prepared speech. You think some creep might be after you. That'll be enough to get things started on the phone with them.

You've told everyone here at CAA. You'll find more help at home.

I'll be praying.
Yeh, I agree with the others. Call the cops. This sounds serious. If you can, please do it as soon as possible.

If he has hired a private investigator and your friend knows about this. Then a restraing order should not be impossible at all to achive. It underlines commitment to trace your location and seeing that you have past ties to him, then you can tell them what and why you are scared. It pretty much is grounds enough for a restraining order.

As hard as it is, having your family and the police know will give a you way to fight back against him. If he thinks he can walk up to you, or anything else, show him you aren't letting him. If he's nuts enough to get close, get a restraining order. You cut him out of your life, he isn't getting back in. Do what it takes to make it happen.
Praying for you, hon.

DS

Hey guys...thankyou

I called my mom and let her know. She said to send him back the stuff through her (like files on my comp, keys to the studio) (she lives in ATL, GA so it will be easier so he can't track myu location in FL). She also said that she thinks he is trying to get me back to work (he holds a psychological hold on me that i'm trying to break). If he doesn't back off then to get a restraining order.

I also am going to get a weapon. I will end up going to a psychologist to document the trauma so i can use it for a restraining order if needed.

thankyou for the prayers and the advice guys. I know God is control....i'm just scared.

You see i used to sleep with my boss....i thought i was in love with him. I wasn't. I know now it wasn't love as much as obligation. i felt like i owed it him. When i dated my boyfriend, i was tired of feeling guilty of cheating on him so i told my boss i wanted to stop. He threatened/ (later playing it off as kidding) that he was going to rape me. Saying if he wanted to, he would have done it long ago.

.........*shakes head* so i'm not sure he's capable of. He as me so psychologically messed up when it comes to trusting myself that it is hard. I'm in the process of learning to trust my own judgement because i'm so used to following him for everything.