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Family Issues

PostPosted: Mon Apr 21, 2008 3:17 pm
by Kairi
My cousin and her husband, who have been married for 7 years and have 2 little kids, are going through a really difficult time in their marriage and are seriously considering divorce. The husband wants to try and work everything out, but unfortunately, he's in the Navy and currently deployed in Africa, so he can't even BE there to talk with her much.

My cousin has always been an emotional person (with a short temper), and right now she's being very selfish and acting only on her feelings. She just wants a quick fix because she's tired of her husband, regardless of the fact that they have 2 children who are stuck right in the middle of it all. To add fuel to the flame, my family has reasons to believe that she hasn't exactly been the most faithful wife while her husband has been gone, either. She's become very close with a male neighbor of theirs, who seems oh-so-happy to be there for her during this time. As far as I know, her actual husband hasn't gone that far yet with anyone else, so it's not fair to him at ALL since he has to be away from home so much. He has no choice! Another thing that makes us suspect she's the one who's done wrong is that she hasn't wanted to talk about the issue with anyone in the family, even her own mother. Normally, if it were her husband who had been causing the problem, she'd be griping her head off about it... so this tells us that it's her fault this time.

Anyway, I just had to talk about it here. ._.; I'm really worried that they'll split up eventually, so please keep them in your prayers.

(Also, I'd like to throw in one more prayer request for an online friend of mine. She lives in Thailand, and in one of her recent Livejournal entries, she mentioned that she's starting to believe that God DOES exist. Of course, this is an awesome thing to happen to anyone, but coming from someone who lives in a country where Christians make up only 0.75% of the population? I can't get over my excitement! I've really been praying for her, especially because she was raised as a Buddhist and is constantly surrounded by people of that religion, but I know that anything is possible with God. So please keep her in your prayers.)

PostPosted: Mon Apr 21, 2008 7:05 pm
by agasfas
Sure thing, I'll pray for both your cousin and her husband.
Also, will keep your friend in Thailand in my prayers as well.

PostPosted: Wed Apr 23, 2008 7:40 pm
by Kairi
Thanks, I really appreciate it.

No one in my family wants to get too involved, aside from giving the best advice that we can, since they are adults and have the right to make their own decisions... but it is disappointing. Especially for my aunt, who loves her daughter but also feels sorry for the husband.

Even if my cousin does end up making the wrong decision, we won't "cast any stones" so to speak. We've all sinned before, so... we'll just continue to pray and keep it between her and God. ._.;

PostPosted: Wed Apr 23, 2008 10:12 pm
by Tsukuyomi
Meep, I know how your friend from Thailand feels o.o It's really awkward when your a Christian out of a whole crowd of Buddhist o.o It's hard to decide what to do, and it make you not know what to do o.o;

I'll be praying for all of them. Divorces aren't fun. Especially for the kids. My nephew is still torn between my sister and his dad. He's staying down here with us now, but I'd imagine it being kinda hard for him going back and forth for vacations and such. Even if he is just a little kid u_u/

PostPosted: Sun Apr 27, 2008 10:10 pm
by Kairi
Really? I can imagine how awkward it would be, especially if you're brand new to Christianity and the only person in your family who believes in it. XD; But I will definitely try to encourage her if she ever has any questions about it.

And thank you very much. Sadly, my grandparents are the only married couple in my family who have actually stayed together (and been faithful the entire time). A lot of my cousins are stuck in the situation where they have to go back and forth between their parents. It's really sad, and actually makes me thankful that my father has never had anything to do with my brothers and I, so we don't know how hard being "stuck in the middle" would be. ._.; That's why we're all hoping it'll work out for my cousins. I honestly think they'd end up regretting it if they went through with a divorce.