prayer and advice

[kat-su-chan]

I'm kind of feeling as though I am in a tough situation lately.
My feelings always get the best of me.
There is a boy who is attending the same school as I am next year. We've been chatting quite a bit lately, over msn because he's living a few hours away from me. The problem is, I've definately developed a crush on him. I don't even know if he likes me or not, and I am definately not about to ask or let on that I like him. Even so...
This is bad for a few reasons;
1. it's causing me to spend more time talking to him and on the computer than focusing on my study
2. he's not a christian, and I have made a commitment not to even go there so I shouldn't even feel this way
3. he's causing me to fall sexually, as I am sometimes having some trouble keeping pure thoughts O.o

I know that God has someone for me, someone he has chosen who is going to be everything more than I could want.
I don't really know what to do...
Part of me hopes these feelings subside and subside quickly. But other parts of me want to still like him!
I mean he's hilarious, he's very kind, very sweet and from what I can tell a good guy (and he's asian, oh what a weak point for me ><;;). Other parts of me are like this needs to stop right now!!
I believe that God puts people in our lives to set spiritual examples. So I don't want my affection for him to come in the way of that example or give a wrong impression. So I'm kind of concerned that me getting my emotions in there could mess up this kid's (likely) only connection to God.

I don't know. Some advice, and prayer that God's going to work this out would be really appreciated.
And that I would stop thinking about it 24/7

[LadyRushia]

I know one thing, and that is the story of my D-team leader, who met her husband in college. She was not a Christian at the time, and had made many bad choices in the past. To make a very long story short, he witnessed to her and she eventually gave herself to Christ.

My point is that sometimes God wants a Christian and a non-Christian to be in a relationship so that He can use the believer to bring the non-believer to Christ. Don't completely blow this guy off without asking God about it first.

[Danderson]

Kudos to u for being careful, especially when strong feelings start showing up......
.....I would say contiue talking to God on the matter...I'm not really an expert with this stuff, though I've learned a few things from certain situations that I hope not to repeat again.......
But, ya....I'll pray for u.......

[AJV]

I agree with LadyRushina, though I say don't let him pull you down.
Just carefull and pray to God about the whole deal, He'll tell what to do as long as you're open to His Word.
God Bless.

[kat-su-chan]

this is true, but I don't know. I'm not really one for missional dating (never works for me...) I mean. It's not even a matter of dating. I don't even think I could tell him I like him. At least not until sept when we're going to school together and I still felt the same. Or something...ahaaa (blushes and hides under a rock)

[Doubleshadow]

If it is a crush, then your infatuated, which is- no insult meant- a selfish emotion. You recognize yourself that these unthinking emotions are causing you trouble as it is in the direction of your thoughts, the correct appropriation of your time, and your commitment to rules you set down for yourself based on your own integrity.
You need to squelch these romantic emotions before they result in someone getting hurt. If you really do care, you know you need to be a caring friend first, and that's hard to do when you want something from him, especially some easily damaged like affection. Try seeing him as another child of God (though he doesn't know it) and potential brother in Christ first, but above all, pray about it.

[Blitzkrieg1701]

Since I'm the last person in the world to offer actual advice on a subject like this, I'll just be praying for God to grant you wisdom

[kat-su-chan]

So as an update I'm feeling kind of bummed lately. I've had the ---- what you said song by eamon stuck in my head for a few days and it's been bothering me. I realised this morning, just with thinking about some of the lyrics of the song that I really was being adulterous, that it was talking about me.
Scripturally, Matthew 28 But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart is basically the perfect description of this my self conviction.
I haven't had this big of a crush on someone in a really long time, and I've definately fallen into lustful thinking. I had a feeling this would happen. ugh.
I just want to be pure.