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Just plain scared now

PostPosted: Fri Dec 29, 2006 7:30 pm
by Riyo-Chan
about a month ago i posted a thread titled "worried for the first time", which is why this title is what it is. I wrote the my parents were having marital problems, though they did not seem so bad.

Two days after christmas my dad left and only comes home for supper so that they can talk. They dont know if it is going to work out.

I guess this is what they call "your parents are separated"

Im falling apart cuz I am the most emotional in my family and hurt the easiest. I have to go back to college in a week and I do not know how im going to concentrate. I was also planning on moving out as soon as i had a job my mom has been irrational lately when it comes to me and I can't deal with it. Now I feel like if i do, our family will fall apart even more. I dont know what to do and I have no support system for I have no church family right now.

PostPosted: Fri Dec 29, 2006 7:39 pm
by Jingo Jaden
In my prayer.

PostPosted: Fri Dec 29, 2006 8:15 pm
by Radical Dreamer
That's a really tough situation to be in. I'll be praying for you, that God gives you the strength to get through this, if it does in fact happen.

PostPosted: Fri Dec 29, 2006 8:31 pm
by Rogie
I'll be praying, Riyo-chan. Keep us updated.

PostPosted: Fri Dec 29, 2006 9:41 pm
by Kawaiikneko
Man that's a really tough situation. I'll pray for you.

PostPosted: Fri Dec 29, 2006 10:38 pm
by ChristianKitsune
praying!

Jeremiah 29:11
"For I know the plans I have for you.' Declares the Lord. 'Plans to prosper and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.'"

you have some emotional support! US! ^_^ *huggles*

PostPosted: Fri Dec 29, 2006 10:49 pm
by Riyo-Chan
its having more of an effect on me than i thought. It's now 2 in the morning and not only am i not tired, I am feeling very restless and questioning the things i like to do. For example, im trying to get my fanfiction site up and running after many difficulties, and now im wondering if i should just quit. I dont like quitting, but i feel like giving it up. and i want to rearrange everything. long list of stuff for that.

I really want to sleep......and this is big because I can ALWAYS just conk out whenever i want to. I cant

PostPosted: Sat Dec 30, 2006 6:46 am
by SP1
We are praying for you. Perhaps get out of the house and get some physical exercise...sort of re-balance your body after "thinking too much." Take a brisk walk, even if it is cold, and just let the cold wind blow the thoughts from your mind until it's empty. Then stop, look at the world God has created, and fill you mind back up with God's loving spirit.

Avoid frostbite and hypothermia while you are doing this XP.

PostPosted: Sat Dec 30, 2006 9:42 am
by Tenshi no Ai
I'll be praying for you through this all...

PostPosted: Sat Dec 30, 2006 10:18 am
by USSRGirl
Be praying for ya. I've been in your shoes before, just trust God and hang on. PM me if you ever need someone to talk to.

PostPosted: Sun Dec 31, 2006 12:42 am
by Kaligraphic
Every day, as soon as you wake up, think about everything that the Lord has done for you, and thank Him. Really thank Him. From the depths of your heart. Offer him heartfelt thanksgiving and praise at the start of each day.

You'll be amazed at what that little thing does to your outlook all day, and you'll find that what seem to be big problems suddenly don't seem so big. (It's about perspective - once your mind is set on the Lord, your problems just can't measure up. God is bigger. God is stronger. God sent Jesus to die on the cross so that your debt would be paid, and raised him from the dead for you to live. God can heal the brokenhearted when nobody else can. And not only that - if you ask him for help, he doesn't just ignore your request, but he'll help you. Remember what the Lord has done for you. Remember who He is. He'll be your strength. Seek Him, and He'll give you wisdom as far as what to do. Trust Him.

PostPosted: Sun Dec 31, 2006 1:36 am
by Mr. SmartyPants
My parents separated a few months ago, so I fully understand your situation.

You're in my prayers. Kaligraphic offers good advice too.

PostPosted: Sun Dec 31, 2006 11:47 am
by Ryupower
aawww dear, I will pray.
but I have a question: if you're the most emotional, how come you worry the least?

PostPosted: Sun Dec 31, 2006 4:09 pm
by freerock1
Lifting you up to the Father, my sister. I've dealt with parents separating, and one of my best friends is currently going through a separation, so I can definitely sympathize. But as ChristianRonin said, take comfort in knowing that God has a plan for your good.

PostPosted: Mon Jan 01, 2007 12:51 pm
by Riyo-Chan
Ryupower wrote:aawww dear, I will pray.
but I have a question: if you're the most emotional, how come you worry the least?

well, it was more of a case of this was the first time i became really worried about my parents and if they would split. I also dont worry as much about things as i did as a kid, and i mainly get emotional when problems form. I have no idea if that made sense

PostPosted: Tue Jan 02, 2007 6:21 pm
by Riyo-Chan

PostPosted: Tue Jan 02, 2007 6:27 pm
by Riyo-Chan
update: my dad is currently back home, he slept on the couch the first night but now its back to normal. They're going to a counselling course thing.

problems: now my dad does nothing but apoligize for issues that we took no offence too and it is not at all necessary. He is even more critical of himself and it makes me sick to see him like this. During this whole issue, i also saw my father cry for the first time, which scares me cause he never does. I feel like he's going to break apart. I was also planning on moving out soon, for i know i cant deal with all this and be able to do my schoolwork (which i really dont want low marks in college)..... now my mom is asking me to stay, but i dont think i can do it. But if i leave, it will cause more stress at my house.


P.s. i have no idea how that empty post got there

PostPosted: Tue Jan 02, 2007 6:40 pm
by Tenshi no Ai
Glad that some things have worked out, and I'll continue to pray for you and your family through the next set of issues...