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Hey, guys. i need prayer. Right now in life, i'm confused. I had been with my gf for 9 months. it started out great. Then we started fighting. I'm not pity-partying, and yes, i started neglecting her for other stuff and i've been a bad boyfriend. But for the past month or so, we've been at each others' throats nearly constantly. So today i decided it was best we break up. Understandably, she got upset, and most of her friends are mad at me. I accept that. She's taking it really hard, and she's the first gf i'd ever had. so this is all new to me. I feel like The constant stress of the relationship and the drama were becoming taxing and frankly, i'm still just a kid. i feel like i need to take a break from all this relationship stuff. Well, i just got a text from her when i got home and it said "i still love you.." and that really threw me back. i feel like i've really been the bad guy and i need advice for those of you who have undergone similar experiences. Right now i feel really weird. like, kinda sad, a little mad at myself, and well, just confused. so any prayer/advice is most appreciated. thanks, guys.

In my prayer.

i totally understand! except like... i broke up with my bf and he was all but i still love you! and i just wanted a break because he was the first bf i ever had and i thought we jumped into things too quickly so i told him i wasnt ready for all this "love" stuff.... and i was so confused because when i broke up i felt sad, hurt, and yet relieved and happy...

so i'll pray for you! i promise!

i totally understand! except like... i broke up with my bf and he was all but i still love you! and i just wanted a break because he was the first bf i ever had and i thought we jumped into things too quickly so i told him i wasnt ready for all this "love" stuff.... and i was so confused because when i broke up i felt sad, hurt, and yet relieved and happy...

so i'll pray for you! i promise!

YES! You nailed it! That's exactly how i feel. Even though i feel sad, i still feel kinda, releived, ya know? like, even though it's gonna hurt for a while, things'll get better. I just wish i could find a way to let her know that i wasn't the one for her and God has someone waaay better. but she's just really upset. I wish it wasn't so hard on her, but I still feel like this was the right thing to do. but i'm still confused. thanks, guys, y'all are amazing!

heero yuy 95 wrote:YES! You nailed it! That's exactly how i feel. Even though i feel sad, i still feel kinda, releived, ya know? like, even though it's gonna hurt for a while, things'll get better. I just wish i could find a way to let her know that i wasn't the one for her and God has someone waaay better. but she's just really upset. I wish it wasn't so hard on her, but I still feel like this was the right thing to do. but i'm still confused. thanks, guys, y'all are amazing!

Well, you should tell her just that. Loving someone doesn't mean you are obligated to have a romantic relationship. It means you are doing what is best for that person. So if you don't want to hurt someone continually with a fighting relationship, a little break-up hurt is the more loving thing to do.

I broke up with my first semi-long term GF and I never talked to her about it. I really regret this now (almost 30 years later!). So don't answer her with silence. BUT don't try to carry on any relationship via text messages or e-mail either. Just call her or, preferably, talk to her about why you think it is important to stay apart right now. [That and maybe avoid going out with someone else right away so she doesn't think you left her for someone else.]

Praying that someday you can tell her how you look forward to a future when you can both be friends and look back on this time and say "yeah, we went out for a while and were really into each other, but we also go on each others nerves a lot, so we stopped before it got out of control."

Thanks, guys. y'all have dished out some sgacious advice. It's getting better. We're still friends. but she's taking it pretty hard. I'd say she needs prayer more than i do. So please pray for each other. i know this is insignificant compared to some of the other stuff here, but it'd mean a lot. thanks

heero yuy 95 wrote:YES! You nailed it! That's exactly how i feel. Even though i feel sad, i still feel kinda, releived, ya know? like, even though it's gonna hurt for a while, things'll get better. I just wish i could find a way to let her know that i wasn't the one for her and God has someone waaay better. but she's just really upset. I wish it wasn't so hard on her, but I still feel like this was the right thing to do. but i'm still confused. thanks, guys, y'all are amazing!

well i'm glad i helped you! ^_^ im still praying! just remember its going to take time for her to get over it. but dont worry.. god will work it out for good! ^_^

heero yuy 95 wrote:YES! You nailed it! That's exactly how i feel. Even though i feel sad, i still feel kinda, releived, ya know? like, even though it's gonna hurt for a while, things'll get better. I just wish i could find a way to let her know that i wasn't the one for her and God has someone waaay better. but she's just really upset. I wish it wasn't so hard on her, but I still feel like this was the right thing to do. but i'm still confused. thanks, guys, y'all are amazing!

wow, went through the exact same thing a couple of weeks ago. O_o
also my first bf...
praying
btw: why'd you neglect her for other stuff? ( just asking )