Faith, Friends and Much more

[Nikolai Melodie]

Oh boy... It seems like the only times I ever sign on anymore are when I have problems...
Anyway, recently an almost year long fight secluded with my friends over a boy. I was right in the middle of it...and its all supposed to be fine and happy now right? Wrong... turns out that the guy, Alex, who is really very nice is a very strong Christian. I on the other hand was just a Shintoist...
I did go to church with him many times in the past. It was nice, but I guess I never saw it as much more then a social outing or anything... then recently he started asking me about accepting God and stuff, and I wasn't really sure about what to do...Christianity made sense, and most of the time a lot more then Shinto because they're was a lot more...'ground' covered by the actual faith...

But we got into a small argument, and in the end he sent me this...

Kel. I really want you to be happy. I'm sharing God with you because he is the only being that can make everlasting happiness. I just don't want to see you look for happiness in places where instead of happiness you'll find Hell. That's what I want for Ana to. All I wanted to be was her friend. The things I said about Ana were mean, and wrong and ungodly of me. Now I realize that, and I apologize. You're a great person, and I don't want to see Satan destroy that. I really do want to be your friend and Ana's. See you soon.

Your Friend, Alex

After that I felt pretty bad, and now I just don't know what to do because I'm very confused as far as faith goes... I guess I really need some advice or some good prayers or something. I need something to throw me in the right direction...

[Rogie]

While it may sound simple, perhaps the best step to make at this point is to ask your Christian friend to explain things to you more and to answer the questions you have. If you do ask him questions, try to be patient with him, and allow him to have time to think over what he wants to say. It's sometimes hard and rather daunting answering questions about faith, especially when he likely feels a great responsibility and accountability when responding to you. I'm sure he wants to help you understand things more, and more than anything, he wants to be your friend.

I think, deep down, you already know what you need to do, you already know what's missing, and what can fill that gap. Sounds like you're searching for confirmation right now, and if you give your friend another chance, he can hopefully lead you to that and give you the answers you need. Just give it time and some patience. It's always a slow process, but any time you start growing, it takes a long while.

In the meantime, I'll be praying for you and that God will help you and your friend in talking to one another and patching things up. I'll pray for the third friend (Ana), as well.

Let us know how things turn out.

[dragonshimmer]

I'll be praying as well, and Rogie offers some good advice. Sounds like you just need to search your heart and listen with your heart as well

[freerock1]

Thank you for your honesty. I would also agree with Rogie's advice. I will be praying for you.