A close friend

[Destroyer2000]

Last night, two of my best friends, one of which is probably the best friend I've ever had, admitted to me they were not virgin. I can't accurately describe what I felt like - it was quite a shock. I would never have thought that of either of them. He told me he believed it was okay so long as you truly, truly loved the person and would never leave them, and he said as soon as realized he didn't truly love his girlfriend he stopped. However, he's 15, and even though I am only a year older, my wisdom stretches far beyond his, it seems. Not to be conceited, but...I know good and well that teenagers don't understand true love; I don't claim to. I know it stretches far more than what most people comprehend. Love isn't sex. Sex is lust. Love is love.

I'm worried about his different beliefs than what he has believed up until now. The girl he goes out with goes to church, but isn't...as pure, to say. She doesn't act Christian, and the church she goes to is insane. From everything I've heard, I wonder if what they preach is what we believe. But it isn't my place to judge...
I ask that you pray for these two that they will get straight in what they should believe and not do something so incredibly stupid.

Honestly, I can't imagine telling my future spouse that I couldn't wait for her...

[Syreth]

Well, it's good to hear that you have resolved to be obedient. I'll pray that your friends would obey God as well -- and for your friend's girlfriend. That's awesome that you can be an example to them.

[fudgecake]

wow...not a virgin. i'd be shocked too...
jeeze. i'm going to pray for them too. i no a couple of ppl at my skool that aren't virgins and plus there younger than me. luckily there not my friends. people i guess don't no what love means. i mean TRUELY.

[agasfas]

I can totally understand how you feel because almost all my friends aren't virgins either. The more I try to think about it, the more it kind of digs under my skin ya know.... but the sad truth is that we all make mistakes. WHen the people asked Jesus which sin is worse in the eyes of God, Jesus bascily replied that all sin is sin... one isn't less sinful then the other (aside from blasphemy against the spirit). I think people tend to rate sin to which is more wrong when in fact it's all the same.

People do tend to mix up lust, love and sex around especially at such an young age and that can be quite annoying to me. though I wouldn't hold the fact he messed up aginst him, because we all do. But it also depends on his future actions too; rather or not he still believes sex is okay even for temporary "puppy love." Hopefully, he'll learn from his past mistakes and learn to look towards and trust God for the answers rather then tempatation, and learn to wait.

I'll be sure to keep them in my prayers. And much like Syreth said, continue to be a good example