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If anyone's even been following along with my little guy issue, I'm asking for prayer again :/

(recapping history): This guy likes me a couple years back when he was... well more immature than now^^ and I didn't like him for almost a year... then I did we went out for a couple months, and he broke it off. Ever since then I've been trying so hard to be back with him... over the past year we got to be VERY close friends, he knows I like him but sort of just "..." :/ Our relationship is odd though being so close, it feels like we are a couple, but ones that aren't affectionate with each other. I still wanna be with him and stuff, but as stated in one of my earlier topics, I gave up...

After talking to his bro and stuff about it (he's a close friend of mine), he (and even his mom) came up with an interesting idea: basically try and play hard to get :/ An odd idea of "if you really want something, act like you don't want it". After thinking about it he DID like me the year when I actually didn't like him... but it's an odd thing, and I don't plan on totally ignoring him or anything (cause I WANT to spend time and stuff).

And so, before trying something like this thought asking for prayer would be great^^ It's a really complicated situation and it's up to him of course... but who knows if this "trying by not trying" will work. Nonetheless, I ask for prayer for the whole situation... no idea what God's will is for any of it, but... I can only hope and pray (and ask from others too). I also hope this doesn't backfire and go the other way but I just don't know anymore v_v Not like anything's been helping really up until now... so just yeah, thanks for reading this and thanks for prayers.

I would not recommeind doing the "If you want something, act like you dont" idea. It seems kinda sly and dishonest in some sort of way. I must say, simply say honest and truthful. But don't actively pursue him. (Rather, try it passively). I'll be a prayin!

Mr. SmartyPants wrote:I would not recommeind doing the "If you want something, act like you dont" idea. It seems kinda sly and dishonest in some sort of way.

Well, more meaning that I'm gunna try and not look like I'm desperate or anything like that. Hard enough to try and "give up" the pursuit when I still like him cause it was hard on me before... so now it's sort of like trying, by not trying... in a sense. There is more that goes along with it but then it would just get too complicated^^ (And thanks for prayers!)

I'll be praying for you.

White wrote:I Agree With Smarty There, Your Going To Send Him Mixed Signals, He's Going To Most Likely Think That You Don't Want To Be With Him and He Might Just Leave You Alone, If A Guy Thinks A Girl Doesn't Want To Be With Him, Most of The Time They'll Drop The Relationship There...

Just to clear things up, here's the convo (well, his end at least) of what his bro and mom said about it all:

"me and her guessed its cuz ur to push over
we think he has no respect for u bcuz u let him walk all over u
like the night with the straightener
he was just like dont do it tonight and u were like ok
its cuz u do w/e he says
i dunno its just our guess we think if u play a little hard to get he will come runnin bak pretty quik
well me and mom think since he doesnt even have to try and get u bac he wont bother but if u play hard to get then he will have to try then he will see wut hes missin and ya"

That's the issue... yeah makes him sound kinda like a jerk I guess, but I dunno, maybe others have done the same before on the whole "don't even have to try to win a person over" thing. He KNOWS I'm there and available, so maybe it's why he won't come after me (and like I said, we are REALLY clue friends). I have no clue... the hard thing about chemistry and relationships and the works... and guys are just confusing :/ So that's why the "play hard to get thing" came about and maybe makes sense to others. *shrugs* I still have to be REALLY careful about it^^

I'll be praying for you....

My friend told me this once: there's nothing you can do to get someone to like you except let them know you exist. Whether he likes you or not is up to him, not you. My advice is to just be yourself and don't go out of your way to be something you're not (unless you're being a bad person, which I'm assuming you're not ). Pray God's will be done, which you are already doing. I'll be praying as well.

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