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Okay my "friend" tori is so well not a friend i am up to my wits end worrying about her and if she tells me not to tell anyone i dont about what she has told me.
Well since obviously none of you go to my church (and even if you did i could trust you with this) i can tell you that guy i told yall about Lathan the mean one well he apologized to me and so we get along well now ^_^ ne ways (thanks for the prayers btw) he has a foreign (sp?) exchange student living with him named Issac from South Korea and me and him are well not what you would call friends but he is really nice SO we could become friends in the future ^_^ ne ways since i had to tell Lathan this girls number (the girl is my friend and so i hooked them up but now he is calling me so its weird but ne ways) he called me and here is basically how it went dont have to read all of it just after we hang up the first time i just wanted to speak about it all lol
*While eating - phone rings - checks caller id - sees its Lathan - answers phone*
Heather:Hello?
Lathan: *silence*
Heather:Hello?
Lathan:Hey.
Heather:Lathan?
Lathan:Yeah.
Heather:What do you want?
Lathan:Im bored there is no one to talk to.
Heather: OoOoh
Lathan:Hey hold on my mom is beeping me ill call you back
Heather: ok bye *hangs up*
*While eating - phone rings - checks caller id - sees its Lathan - answers phone*
Heather:Hello?
Lathan:Hey.
Heather:So whats up?
Lathan:Nothing...
Heather:Cool cool same here.
Lathan:Sooo... Are you going to the Homeschool winter formal?
Heather:Uhh i dunno depends *mumbles Id have to get some new shoes*
Lathan: Oh ok because if you are... Issac needs a date.
Heather:Are you trying to set me up?
Lathan:Yes.
Heather:I might i dunno.
Lathan: Oh ok.
Heather:Yep
Lathan:Hey can you give me that other number for Sarah?
Heather:Yeah sure *gives number*
Lathan: Okay well im gonna bug Sarah and ill tell Issac he might have a date.
Heather: ok bye
Lathan:bye
*hangs up*
Okay now that thats over with back to my story well i called Tori and Kinzey and Kinzey never answered so i told Tori ALL about everything and tell her NOT TO TELL ANYONE and so first she goes off and tells tiffany who i dont really like so much i was like well she doesnt go to our church so w/e and then i tell her NOT TO TELL ANYONE again so tonight we go to decipleship and that goes smoothly UNTIL the end of it then we start talking about the public school winter formal and (a differant) Sarah (not lathans hookup) is like talking to me i said i was worried about it she asked y and i was gonna tell her but tori blurts out ISSAC and so i take her into the hall (sarah) and tell her whats up well by the time i get back into the youth room Kevin, David, Jonathan, and Elizibeth all know so now i dont know what to do i cant trust her at all ne more how do i tell her this?
Please pray that i can forgive her and just pray for her in general she has lied to me enough i dont know how we could be friends anymore please give advice.

Situations like these can be confusing and frustrating. I think everyone has had a friend tell someone something that they probably weren't supposed to, so you're not alone and this definately can be worked through. I would recommend doing the Matthew 5 thing and do what you can to make ammends with this girl and forgive. But remember, how you say something is just as important as how you say it. Furthermore, I would say don't get too discouraged if she tries to minimize the whole situation. Just do what you can and give it to the Lord. I'll be praying for you.

Learning how to identify friends who can keep a secret and those who can't is part and puzzle of life. I've had my share of secrets made public and while I was upset at that time, I did get over it eventually. I certainly didn't trust those individuals anymore but that doesn't stop us from remaining as friends (strange as it sounds). I just don't tell them too much anymore.

I'll pray for your feelings to sort out and God's peace to be upon you.

I will pray my friend.

Believe me, Shakespeare knew well what he was talking about when he said in Romeo and Juliet that for the purposes of keeping a secret, the wisest amount to know about it is two (except for it to be kept to the self of course), with three being the most it could be stretched with a gamble.