I've been at a very rocky spot in my relationship with Christ lately, and it seems no matter how many times I get back on my feet, I'm on the floor again the next day. Or even the next hour.
It kinda started with my boyfriend abandoning me. I was miserable and bitter, trying to convince myself that love wasn't worth wanting or hoping for. With the help of a couple friends (and of course my Savior) that battle was won and I'm now content with my singleness, but willing to wait on God and see what He has planned for my love-life.
But then it came down to my friends. I'm currently seeking a job, not in school, and home alone all day. Sure I have MSN messenger, but the thing's kinda useless when I want some real human contact. I get lonely and miserably depressed. To the point where I almost want to die. And it's not that I don't try reaching out to others - trying to see if someone's not busy so we can spend time together. But it seldom works. My friends are busy and/or don't return my calls. I thought I'd given this part of my life to God as well, but I'm still miserable. Still lonely and sick of hoping that someone will respond to me.
It was said in Corinthians 13 that love always trusts and always hopes, but I'm having a hard time with both of those. Why should I hope only to be disappointed... again?
Why do I try?
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Kat Warrior - Posts: 53
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Kat Warrior wrote:I'm currently seeking a job, not in school, and home alone all day. Sure I have MSN messenger, but the thing's kinda useless when I want some real human contact. I get lonely and miserably depressed. To the point where I almost want to die. And it's not that I don't try reaching out to others - trying to see if someone's not busy so we can spend time together. But it seldom works. My friends are busy and/or don't return my calls. I thought I'd given this part of my life to God as well, but I'm still miserable. Still lonely and sick of hoping that someone will respond to me.
I know this situation very well-- I've been in it for about two years now.
I'll pray for you. I know how much it hurts. I have a boyfriend, but sometimes you need more than that, you know?
fightin' in the eighties
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ShiroiHikari - Posts: 7564
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I think that we all, to some degree, face times in our life where we struggle with loneliness. It's the pits, because we all want human contact, we want someone to be there for us when we need them. But, I think there's a time when we become too dependent on that. We think that unless we have other humans to depend on, it's just not worth it to even be here. So, I'm going to say the thing that sounds cliche and stupid, but is still absolutely true and thus must be said: God wants us to depend on him. He wants us to reach a place in our lives where we can say, "Even if all I have is you, Jesus, I'll be fine. As long as I've got you." But then there's the problem that we're humans, and it's our nature to seek out other humans for companionship. So God made provisions for us, by giving us his "body" here. I don't know much about you, I don't know if you attend a church or not. But I would really suggest that you try to dig deep into his body and get really rooted in a church. Then, after you've done that (or if you already have), make friends with other people there and tell them your problem, tell them that you desperately need them. If you find a good church, people will be there for you when you need them. That's the whole point of a church family, to watch out for eachother and take care of one another's needs. So, I'll be praying for you, Kat! 
If you ever need someone to talk to (all though, as you've pointed out, virtual conversations just aren't the same) feel free to send me a pm.
If you ever need someone to talk to (all though, as you've pointed out, virtual conversations just aren't the same) feel free to send me a pm.Be Thou my Vision, O Lord of my heart;
Naught be all else to me, save that Thou art
Thou my best Thought, by day or by night,
Waking or sleeping, Thy presence my light.
Be Thou my Wisdom, and Thou my true Word;
I ever with Thee and Thou with me, Lord;
Thou my great Father, I Thy true son;
Thou in me dwelling, and I with Thee one.
Be Thou my battle Shield, Sword for the fight;
Be Thou my Dignity, Thou my Delight;
Thou my soul’s Shelter, Thou my high Tower:
Raise Thou me heavenward, O Power of my power.
Riches I heed not, nor man’s empty praise,
Thou mine Inheritance, now and always:
Thou and Thou only, first in my heart,
High King of Heaven, my Treasure Thou art.
High King of Heaven, my victory won,
May I reach Heaven’s joys, O bright Heaven’s Sun!
Heart of my own heart, whatever befall,
Still be my Vision, O Ruler of all.
Naught be all else to me, save that Thou art
Thou my best Thought, by day or by night,
Waking or sleeping, Thy presence my light.
Be Thou my Wisdom, and Thou my true Word;
I ever with Thee and Thou with me, Lord;
Thou my great Father, I Thy true son;
Thou in me dwelling, and I with Thee one.
Be Thou my battle Shield, Sword for the fight;
Be Thou my Dignity, Thou my Delight;
Thou my soul’s Shelter, Thou my high Tower:
Raise Thou me heavenward, O Power of my power.
Riches I heed not, nor man’s empty praise,
Thou mine Inheritance, now and always:
Thou and Thou only, first in my heart,
High King of Heaven, my Treasure Thou art.
High King of Heaven, my victory won,
May I reach Heaven’s joys, O bright Heaven’s Sun!
Heart of my own heart, whatever befall,
Still be my Vision, O Ruler of all.
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Yumie - Posts: 1939
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I know the feeling, I've been going through a similar struggle myself this past year and a half. Like Yumie said, get plugged into a church, it really helps. I recently got involved in a church that 2 of my friends go to, and well, it really helps to know that there are people that care and can help. Really pray and trust in God, know that He does have your best interests at heart and to wake up with a mindset to live for Him everyday. I'll be praying for ya [†]
I felt Your hands move mine aside, as those nails were driven down [[color=Gold]†][/color]
"There is a time for everything. A season for every purpose under heaven." Ecclesiastes 3:1
~Do not have feelings of animosity and resentment towards the depressing times in your life, but turn to God in praise for the days He gives you. Along with the times of joy He blesses you with, also come the times of hardship. For how can one reach for the stars without darkness?~
"Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good." Romans 12:21
"And now abide faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love." 1 Corinthians 13:13
"But he was pierced for our transgressions, he was crushed for our iniquities; the punishment that brought us peace was upon him, and by his wounds we are healed." Isaiah 53:5 (NIV)
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"There is a time for everything. A season for every purpose under heaven." Ecclesiastes 3:1
~Do not have feelings of animosity and resentment towards the depressing times in your life, but turn to God in praise for the days He gives you. Along with the times of joy He blesses you with, also come the times of hardship. For how can one reach for the stars without darkness?~
"Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good." Romans 12:21
"And now abide faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love." 1 Corinthians 13:13
"But he was pierced for our transgressions, he was crushed for our iniquities; the punishment that brought us peace was upon him, and by his wounds we are healed." Isaiah 53:5 (NIV)
Digitally Imported Radio<-~-~Love Techno?~:cool:
Myspace!<--PM me for info if you wanna add me:sweat:
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VashTheStampede - Posts: 572
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Lifting you up.
Theme Scripture: Stand fast therefore in the liberty by which Christ has made us free, and do not be entangled again with a yoke of bondage. (Galatians 5:1)
And a verse for all us single folks: Do we have no right to take along a believing wife, as do also the other apostles, the brothers of the Lord, and Cephas? (1 Corinthians 9:5)
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And a verse for all us single folks: Do we have no right to take along a believing wife, as do also the other apostles, the brothers of the Lord, and Cephas? (1 Corinthians 9:5)
Looking for a GOOD music mix? Check out these stations:
Grey FM Heartland -- a mix of Country and Contemporary Christian music (Listen Now!)
Grey FM Downtown -- a mix of mainstream and Christian pop and rock music (Listen Now!)
More real stuff...
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freerock1 - Posts: 841
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I will pray for you. Dont think they ignore you on purpose your friends and just keep praying and a good verse to read or chapter is Proverbs 16:3 or the whole thing but just keep praying God works in his time not yours so just wait.
The Lord my God Rarely works the same way twice but the out come is always the same.[/SIZE]
C. S. Lewis is such a great writer. I have read his Screwtape Letters, his Great Divorce, and am no working on his Mere Christianity.
C. S. Lewis is such a great writer. I have read his Screwtape Letters, his Great Divorce, and am no working on his Mere Christianity.
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Rambo - Posts: 113
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- Location: Indiana
Thanks, guys. *hugs to all* I'm doing a lot better now.
Just got a job yesterday and had my first day today. I love it! Thank God! I know that I'll be home alone a lot after work (I work from 5 AM to 9 AM), but I'm not really dreading that. =) Now that God has answered my prayer and given me a job I can afford to go places and do things without as much concern for gas money.
I have the paperwork to be part of a mentoring program that my church does (my friend gave it to me since she's in it as well), so I hope to have that filled out soon and bring it to church. And this same friend who I know in-person had been doing a Bible-study with me, but we hadn't had time for that lately since her boyfriend has been visitng from over-seas. He's going back Sunday. Hopefully I'll get to see the two again before that, and after that our study should resume as before.
Thanks agian, everyone. ^_^ I feel really blessed.
Just got a job yesterday and had my first day today. I love it! Thank God! I know that I'll be home alone a lot after work (I work from 5 AM to 9 AM), but I'm not really dreading that. =) Now that God has answered my prayer and given me a job I can afford to go places and do things without as much concern for gas money.
I have the paperwork to be part of a mentoring program that my church does (my friend gave it to me since she's in it as well), so I hope to have that filled out soon and bring it to church. And this same friend who I know in-person had been doing a Bible-study with me, but we hadn't had time for that lately since her boyfriend has been visitng from over-seas. He's going back Sunday. Hopefully I'll get to see the two again before that, and after that our study should resume as before.
Thanks agian, everyone. ^_^ I feel really blessed.
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Kat Warrior - Posts: 53
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I'm glad to hear that, Kat ^^
Be Thou my Vision, O Lord of my heart;
Naught be all else to me, save that Thou art
Thou my best Thought, by day or by night,
Waking or sleeping, Thy presence my light.
Be Thou my Wisdom, and Thou my true Word;
I ever with Thee and Thou with me, Lord;
Thou my great Father, I Thy true son;
Thou in me dwelling, and I with Thee one.
Be Thou my battle Shield, Sword for the fight;
Be Thou my Dignity, Thou my Delight;
Thou my soul’s Shelter, Thou my high Tower:
Raise Thou me heavenward, O Power of my power.
Riches I heed not, nor man’s empty praise,
Thou mine Inheritance, now and always:
Thou and Thou only, first in my heart,
High King of Heaven, my Treasure Thou art.
High King of Heaven, my victory won,
May I reach Heaven’s joys, O bright Heaven’s Sun!
Heart of my own heart, whatever befall,
Still be my Vision, O Ruler of all.
Naught be all else to me, save that Thou art
Thou my best Thought, by day or by night,
Waking or sleeping, Thy presence my light.
Be Thou my Wisdom, and Thou my true Word;
I ever with Thee and Thou with me, Lord;
Thou my great Father, I Thy true son;
Thou in me dwelling, and I with Thee one.
Be Thou my battle Shield, Sword for the fight;
Be Thou my Dignity, Thou my Delight;
Thou my soul’s Shelter, Thou my high Tower:
Raise Thou me heavenward, O Power of my power.
Riches I heed not, nor man’s empty praise,
Thou mine Inheritance, now and always:
Thou and Thou only, first in my heart,
High King of Heaven, my Treasure Thou art.
High King of Heaven, my victory won,
May I reach Heaven’s joys, O bright Heaven’s Sun!
Heart of my own heart, whatever befall,
Still be my Vision, O Ruler of all.
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Yumie - Posts: 1939
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I'll give you the same answer as I did in the other thread:
Well, this is a thing I have too, believe it or not, I never hung out with anyone in school before ( besides the 4 B-day parties I went to/hosted in my life ).
And it's interesting what the pastor said, G-d spoke through him last Sunday,
there's this verse in Genisis 2 that said:
" it is not good for man(kind) to be alone..."
did you know that people who have only acquaintances, buddies, but no actual friends are 15 times more likely to commit suicide, 5 times more likely to suffer emotional illnesses, and 3 times more likely to suffer EMOTIONAL BURNOUTS ( which is what you seem to be having, I had this too lately, and I'm glad SO that G-d answered my question!! ),
and also are more likely to die early in life.
The reason why it's so is because we were created to have fellowship, relationships, friends...for it is not good for us to be alone.'
This TOTALLY explained all my issues, I got a big fat revelation on this whole thing, almost ALL my issues were based on this.
OK, so enough there, if I'm not mistaken this could be your problem, correct me if I'm wrong.
Anyways, yeah, I'm praying...
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and I'm praying for you too, of coarse.
Well, this is a thing I have too, believe it or not, I never hung out with anyone in school before ( besides the 4 B-day parties I went to/hosted in my life ).
And it's interesting what the pastor said, G-d spoke through him last Sunday,
there's this verse in Genisis 2 that said:
" it is not good for man(kind) to be alone..."
did you know that people who have only acquaintances, buddies, but no actual friends are 15 times more likely to commit suicide, 5 times more likely to suffer emotional illnesses, and 3 times more likely to suffer EMOTIONAL BURNOUTS ( which is what you seem to be having, I had this too lately, and I'm glad SO that G-d answered my question!! ),
and also are more likely to die early in life.
The reason why it's so is because we were created to have fellowship, relationships, friends...for it is not good for us to be alone.'
This TOTALLY explained all my issues, I got a big fat revelation on this whole thing, almost ALL my issues were based on this.
OK, so enough there, if I'm not mistaken this could be your problem, correct me if I'm wrong.
Anyways, yeah, I'm praying...
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and I'm praying for you too, of coarse.
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Ryupower - Posts: 1056
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I'm on a bit of the opposite side. One of my friends is seeking a job and she likes to call me, but because of my student teaching, I almost never answer the phone. Don't feel like your friends don't support you. Keep praying. Maybe you can use this as an opportunity to get involved in volunteer work. You need some human interaction - God didn't make people to be by themselves all day. 
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