CAA: Christian Anime Alliance

how is every body doing? I am doing ok. except I am really starting to get really **** OFF WITH MY MOTHER! don't get me wrong I love my mother, but for the past month or so, all she does is send negative comments toward me. after a while, it starts to take affect in many different ways. for one, I fined my self getting mad over nothing. Second, It has sent me into a slump, were I really don't care about anything. third, it is really taking away from my motivation. I am starting to snap at my mother just about every day. she will not get off my back! she is blaming me for everything!

don't even tell me to get over it! when you are constantly bombarded with negative comments, and people telling you are not "good" enough. it really brings you down. its even worse when when not one person gives you an positive feedback. I only know one person who really tells me good job, and keep up the good work. and its from a really unlikely sours. a young 14 year old girl, from CAA. its funny that a I get more respect form 14 year old girl, more so then my own mother. I just want to thank you Christian Girl.

every time I try to talk to my mother about it, she always starts putting me down again. and I will ether snap at her, or I walk away. I always end up walking away. I am afraid that if this continues, I will forget to walk away and just lay down all the stops and snap at my own mother.

so what I am asking is not only for Prayer, but for advice as well.

thanks for taking the time to read this, thank you and God bless

I know how that is-- sometimes I get bugged to death when my mom constantly is getting on to me and my siblings for little things (I don't think it's as bad for me though as it sounds like it is for you though.) I will pray for you that you and your mom will work on understanding eachother better. Especially that she will start listening to your concerns about the affect this situation is having on your behavior. Just try to hang in there and have patience no matter how crazy the situation is, and know you have my prayers! If you have any more problems and need someone to talk to, just send a pm my way any time.

I'll pray for you, because I know how it feels, as much as I love my mommy too. ^^

As for advice...it seems you walk away too much. I think you should stay and keep your stand and if she really seems to be pushing you on edge, take deep breaths and try to calm down. Maybe if she sees you trying to work it out, she will too.

Sounds like we need to pray for both of you.

Things like this can be really hard. Hang in there, man. You do have worth, even if that doesn't come over from your family.

Most parents really do love their children, even if they don't know how to show it.

We'll definitely pray for you.

It's very difficult to give you specific advice without knowing your situation at home. However, has your mother been like this long? Perhaps there is some external stress on her (finances, abusive co-workers, other problems at work) and she is just lashing out at the first person she sees.

It's difficult communication time: You may need to very calmly ask her why she is being so critical. This might seem rediculous, but short of counseling, it's about the only way to go. This might go better if she is in a good mood first. Say "Hey, Mom, yesterday you got mad at me for <fill in episode here>. You seemed really upset about it, but this kind of thing used to not make you mad. Is there something we need to talk about? You've been really stressed out lately." Listen closely to everything she says, because she may drop hints here, even if she snaps at you. Do not enter an argument. If she says "get your room cleaned up" or "cut your hair", you might say "I understand you want me to clean up my room, but is that really all you want me to do?"

OK, I'm not a counselor so I'll get off the soap box now and just pray for you both. PM me at will.

aaw..im sorry(hugs) ill pray but im afraid i cant give you any advice

thanks everyone, for your prayers and for your advise, *hugs animemute back*

i will pray

I'll be prayign for you, I was having problems with my mother as well not too long ago. I really like you and I hate to see you unhappy.

*pins button on Sparten*

Welcome to the official "I have a really critical mother who means well but now I'm buggin'" club.

Okay, all joking aside, I know how you feel. My mom can be critical at times. Oi. The best advice I can give you is just pray. Before you're about to explode you just have to ask God for strength that you won't say something you'll later regret. (which in my case means being grounded ) As others have said, she's probably going through a stressful time.

I feel for ya. It's not fun being criticised. And I'll pray as well.

I pray for you Sparten, I hope things go well between you and your mother.

Have a nice talk with each other and explain how you about her doing this. Maybe that will help.