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This is just the rantings of another love sick puppy so now is the time to turn back if you dont want to listen.

Ive been friends with this girl for a little over four years now and I developed feelings for her at some point; but I dont know when. I feel terible because there was this guy she liked and he liked her too; but I wasn't happy for her because I liked her. I decided to tell her how I felt and she turned me down. I knew she would; but it still hurt. Ive never felt this way about someone before, I don't want to use the "L" word becaue I know its a loaded word; but its the closes Ive ever come to it.

I feel that Ive let her down because Ive betrayed her trust by not being happy for her when she was happy. I feel that Ive been a terrible friend and Im trying to get over the fact that she will never have those kinds of feelings for; but it's still something that I don't know if I can win against. I found the perfect girl; but Im not the perfect guy and I dont know how to deal with it. Please everyone remember me in your prayers, cause Im in a lot of pain right now.

I feel for you. But know there's no such thing as the perfect girl. If she is the right girl, then God will work it out for you two to be together someday in His time. But if she's not, He'll bring the right one into your life. And then you'll look back and see how His blessing was working all along.

Have faith and my prayers are with you!

Heh. *pins a club member badge on you*

I'll definitely be praying.

Heh, I've kinda felt like this, only worse.

There was a girl at my school that alot of guys liked, but I actually took the time to try and now her. She was pretty, fun, and Christian, but she had been dating the same guy for years. A guy everyone knew wasn't good to her. A guy who sat next to me in band class and shared the same band folder (wierd...).

Then one day I come to school and discover she's pregnant. She marries the guy, gets a miscarriage, then becomes pregnant again.

I've find few girls I truly liked. This was one of them, and I missed my chance.

I'll pray God's will is done.

Situations like these are tough, and it's even harder to give advice for them. I'll pray.

[quote="Wise Dragon"]This is just the rantings of another love sick puppy so now is the time to turn back if you dont want to listen.

Ive been friends with this girl for a little over four years now and I developed feelings for her at some point]

Remember that girls/guys can be an idol.
Yeah, G-d's working with me on that right now.

I'll be praying fot you anyways.

Are you jealous?

I'll say a prayer that you'll feel better. I've been there plenty and it hurts like heck. It makes you feel like you've been played. What I've learned is that if you have a girl that your friends with, it's best to leave it at that, or else your asking for nothing but heartache.

Also try to keep your emotions in check. Reality is that relationships don't always work out, and boy doesn't always meet girl, so you have to approach things realistically. If you go into it thinking, "she's the greatest girl in the world, she's my one and only, etc.", and she give you the cold shoulder, it'll really hurt. But if you go into it thinking, "ok I really like her but if it doesn't work out then no big deal", then you'll be much less hurt if it doesn't work out.

The only thing you can do is to learn from it and go on. Yeah it hurts, yeah it's painful, but the only thing you can do is get over it, move on, and hopefully the Lord will send someone else your way. If the relationship is God's will it'll work. If it's not, it won't.

I can understand, i've been through something much similar myself.... It can really hurt. Although we should be happy for our friends, I can understand not being overly ecstatic about her liking someone eles. It's hard to in those types of situations. I wouldn't beat yourself up over it...it sometimes takes time for our feelings to heal and to accept tthings like this.

I'll be sure to keep you in my prayers bud. Stay strong.

Thanks for your prayers everyone, I need it. And I apreciate all of you sharing your experiences and advice. It comforts me knowing you guys are there. Thank you.

Hey, I already prayed for you before I posted this. I know exactly how that is, the one guy that I've really ever felt that way to the extreme toward wound up practically dating my best friend. And then they broke up and he dropped off the face of the earth. It really is the pits. So yeah, you're in my prayers!

well, i havent been around long enough to give much relationship advice but you'll be in my prayers.

Remember that there is a silver lining here: Now that you are no longer focused on this one "perfect" woman, you may find that there is someone else who has been there for some time now. As painful as it is, your mature acceptance of this girl's relationship with another might, of itself, draw someone closer too you. That is, before, you might have had eyes "only for her" and missed an admirer.

I strongly recommend that you pray for her (and his) happiness together. This is good defense against jealousy, etc.

EDIT: Oh, and I will pray for all of you.

I won't presume to give you advice, but I (like sp1) found that forcing myself to pray for her happiness did make jelousy literally melt away. If you think it would help, I can recommend it as a possible aid.

Lifting you up, bro. I've been in similar situations myself. It sounds like you've already laid your cards on the table, so she knows how you feel. If you're already friends, my advice would be to work on pursuing her. And largely that will come by being a good friend, showing her that you really care for her and that you want to do what you can for her. At the same time, keep an open mind; you may meet someone else along the way.