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For the sake of courtesy, I don't want to go into detail here. Suffice it to say that since the summer has started, I have been stuck in a situation that has left me very lonely, hurt, confused, and helpless.

One of my best friends has randomly ditched me, not only ignoring me, but treating me with distrust and suspicion. He is one of the best friends I have ever had, and I don't understand what went wrong or how to fix it. He is also worrying me, as he simply does not act himself. Everytime I've seen him, even when he's not with me, he has been distant, withdrawn, tired, and short-tempered. I know he's suffered depression before and am concerned that this is a relapse. Though I am mad and have been deeply hurt by him, it still kills me to see that something is not right and not be able to help him in some way.

This has been the most lonely, isolated summer of my life. I only want the best for him, and I cannot handle losing my best friend. I need him back, and I think the rest of the world needs him too. The world cannot handle losing someone as rare and genuine as him.

Please pray.

I have tried....it's hard to communicate with someone who doesn't trust you though. He generally brushes me off. That, or he goes off to discuss it with another, newer person...who doesn't like or trust me, no matter what I do. I know I've made some mistakes too, but I've admitted and apologized for them and don't really know what else I can do to make up for it.

It seems that everything I do is wrong and annoying. It's as if he's a completely different person...it really scares me actually.

It's the Devil!

It's strife, anguish, all sorts of emotional issues besides anger, meaning it's of him, I believe he sees you as a threat to his 'kingdom', seeing that you'll be active in the gosspel in the future.

He's lying to your friend through rumors, probably gossip, and he's implanting false thoughts in his mind, making him skeptical and distrustworthy (untrustworthy?).
At least that's what I think.


Only God (and Satan) knows ...

Well, I'll be praying for him anyways.

Say sorry eventhough you don't know what's going on. It'll soften him.

Hmmm... sometimes people push away and we can't do much about it. My only advice is that you continue praying for him and let him know that you are there for him whenever he needs it. Reassure him that you care. Believe it or not, sometimes that does more then people think.

Also about your friend avoiding you.... well, perhaps he is just so conflicted about something or ashamed to talk about it with someone he is really close to. It may just be that he feels that if he talks to someone that doesn't know him as well, that it'll be easier so that he doesn't burden you. So you don't think differently of him.

Or perhaps he's just decided to move on. I've had people do that with me, and I've done it to others myself. I've had a few ex-friends (that weren't really my friend) that would always make fun of me behind my back and said they were my friends. They dragged me down and after awhile I knew I deserved much better. I doubt that's the case, but sometimes people just decide to move on for one reason or another. I hardly talk or see most of the people I hung out with in highschool-even the close ones. People move on and whether you're a good person or not, it happens. It's life. Some meet more nice people, others may meet negative people.

Anyways, whatever the case may be I'll be praying for the situation. I'll also be praying about your loneliness too. I sometimes feel that way myself... We are all here for you and always willing to give a shoulder to lean on. You are never as lonely as you think you are. There are always people who care.

Take care. I really hope things work out between y'all two.

Depression does that to people, I should know it happened to me.
Ryupower, you seriously need to stop jumping to conclusions. Yes, its possible but not everything has to do with the spiritual side of someone, this can be contributed to mental and scientific explanations. Offer encouragement.

I'll be praying for you and your friend, yukinon. Just be there for him.

Actually, Ryu's somewhat right. About the rumors and gossip, anyway. Agasfas has a point too, about being conflicted and ashamed about something.

Arigatou, minna.

Was this something that happened suddenly, or gradually?

Suddenly. Like somebody flipped a freaking lightswitch. Or dropped an atomic bomb. He's like a different person. If I didn't know better, I'd say aliens abducted him or something.

Hmm... if it happened suddenly, it might be because of something that recently happened between the two of you, or because of a rumor about you that he heard or something. It sounds like you guys need to talk it out. Of course, it also sounds like it will be a bit before he might be ready for it.

About having a terrible, isolated, summer, that was me last year. I was a broken and humiliated failure and was completely alone, save the only one that really mattered: God. Remember, no matter how alone you are or how alone you feel, God makes His dwelling place in your heart. He's that close to you, and He's a better friend than any out there. In fact, He's THE friend to have. Goodness, I mean, nothing like this can happen with God, because He always loves you.

"Yes, I have loved you with an everlasting love;
Therefore with lovingkindness I have drawn you.

-Jeremiah 31:3

I'll be praying for your encouragement and for reconciliation between you and your friend.

perhaps something occured in his life that caused a sudden change

If he simply brushes you off, try to approach him with a more assertive manner. Maybe even try to corner him a bit, cause simply waiting out and saying "oh... we'll wait for it to get better" won't do much good. And when I mean corner I mean when there isn't anybody around, and approach him and go "Hey! Man! Whats wrong? What's going on? Answer me please" or something

he'll be in my prayers yukinon