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I can't take it anymore.

PostPosted: Fri Jul 15, 2005 7:57 am
by Shao Feng-Li
MY dad's crazy. What can I say? My parents marriege is crumbling. MY dad acusses mom of being a liar and treats her really bad. He's so screwed up. All last night they argued. My dad just wouodnt drop it. i dont want to stay up til 2 in the morning listening to them like that. What if they get divorced? what are we gonna do then? I'm terrified. I shook all night. I cant believe my hair isnt white. Twice i went out of my room, trying to talk to them during their fight. trying to make them stop. I'd just loose it and screem words at them. "STOP IT!!!" Just STOP it BOTH of YOU!" I cant hate my dad. Ic ant blame it all on him even though he's to blame. I dont even care how crapy this post is. I just want my life back. I hust wish both of them would go away and leave us alone. I shoudont think that way, but i dont know what to do!

I dont need counseling from the pastor, i need a dad.

PostPosted: Fri Jul 15, 2005 10:00 am
by Gypsy
I'm very sorry that this is happening to you. I also think you're showing more strength then you know you have, as well. It's ok to realize when someone is at fault and still not dump all the blame on them. It's also more than ok that you won't hate your dad.

I wish that I had some advice to offer, or something to say that would bring you peace. Just know that I'll be praying, and that others here at CAA will be praying as well.

PostPosted: Fri Jul 15, 2005 10:03 am
by kazekami
I'll pray for you and your familly.

PostPosted: Fri Jul 15, 2005 10:08 am
by ChristianKitsune
I shall pray as well...you can always look to your Heavenly daddy He will never leave you or forsake you, Shao..

PostPosted: Fri Jul 15, 2005 10:11 am
by Kenchii
Shao Feng-Li wrote:MY dad's crazy. What can I say? My parents marriege is crumbling. MY dad acusses mom of being a liar and treats her really bad. He's so screwed up. All last night they argued. My dad just wouodnt drop it. i dont want to stay up til 2 in the morning listening to them like that. What if they get divorced? what are we gonna do then? I'm terrified. I shook all night. I cant believe my hair isnt white. Twice i went out of my room, trying to talk to them during their fight. trying to make them stop. I'd just loose it and screem words at them. "STOP IT!!!" Just STOP it BOTH of YOU!" I cant hate my dad. Ic ant blame it all on him even though he's to blame. I dont even care how crapy this post is. I just want my life back. I hust wish both of them would go away and leave us alone. I shoudont think that way, but i dont know what to do!

I dont need counseling from the pastor, i need a dad.


I understand what ur going through, because I'm almost in the same situation as you. my father fights all the time. Definally pray for you.

PostPosted: Fri Jul 15, 2005 10:16 am
by mastersquirrel
Lord touch Shao, help her through this time. Give her strength and peace Lord. Touch her mother and father. Help them to see what this is doing the the relationship and to Shao. Lord we thank you for these things in Christ's name we pray, Amen.

Know that the Lord is with you and he will help you through this time.

PostPosted: Fri Jul 15, 2005 10:24 am
by teen4truth
Ill tottaly pray for you. remember, being in a bad mood about wont help you. Unfortunetly in this situation you, even though you are the kid, have to be the mature one. Im sure if you keep in a good mood and show loving acts to your parents, then it will affect them in some positive way. Just remember, Satan is all over thier relationship. Im sure every time they fight it gives him pleasure...dont let yourself be a tool for him to use. God is the only one who can sow that relationship back to gether forever, and if you let him, he can do it through you.

Ill pray for you everyday until you tell us that it is better. Feel free to send me a PM if you want to. :hug:

teen4truth

PostPosted: Fri Jul 15, 2005 11:58 am
by Shao Feng-Li
I was rather upset when I amde the first post. I love my daddy very much. I know he's trying to work things out. I think par tof it is thqa told things are being brought up. Please pray for my mom. For strengh. She needs it mreo than I do.

PostPosted: Fri Jul 15, 2005 12:02 pm
by agasfas
Sorry these things are happening and you feel the way you do. Truth is, sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. My parents have been divorced for a long time so I can relate. But now, after a few years of bitterness, my mom re-married but my real dad and mom are now friends. My dad used to be immature and selfish, thus it wouldn't have worked out. My dad and mom would fight each and everyday about everything. It took him quite a few years for them two to start the healing process. Now although they aren't together, they are nice more like friends now.

I guess my main point is, if any is that although they may be fighting now, and perhaps they may get a divorce, it's always possible to remain friends or perahps remain together. Things sometimes have a way of working themselves out.

Anyways, I'll keep you in my prayers. Take care and remain strong.

PostPosted: Fri Jul 15, 2005 12:10 pm
by teen4truth
ya ill pray for your mom:) as a matter of fact, im going to take a sharpie and write 'shao feng-li' on a piece of duct tape and put on my wall so everytime i go in my room i will be reminded to pray for your situation.


teen4truth

PostPosted: Fri Jul 15, 2005 12:24 pm
by true_noir_chloe
I will definitely pray for you, Shao Feng-Li. I know how these things develop and can devour couples. I am so glad you still have love for your parents and realize the fighting has to stop. I see you are hurting very much.

My husband and I went through a similar horrible time in our relationship maybe eight years ago. We were headed for divorce, but God doesn't want that for loving, Christian couples and families. Satan desires to destroy, but Christ desires to rebuild, reconcile and restore.

Only the Spirit within your parents heart will bring them to this realization of forgiveness and love and I will definitely pray the Lord heals them as he healed both me and my husband through our troublesome times.

*hug* <-- I know you could probably use this ^____^

PostPosted: Sat Jul 16, 2005 10:01 am
by Anna Mae
Deuteronomy 31:8
The LORD himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged."

Although sometimes it's hard to see, we are always in God's hands. I will be praying for you and your family, Shao Feng-Li.

PostPosted: Sat Jul 16, 2005 10:10 am
by Yahshua
Psalm 46
For the director of music. Of the Sons of Korah. According to Alamoth. A song. [a]
1 God is our refuge and strength,
an ever-present help in trouble.
2 Therefore we will not fear, though the earth give way
and the mountains fall into the heart of the sea,

3 though its waters roar and foam
and the mountains quake with their surging.
Selah

4 There is a river whose streams make glad the city of God,
the holy place where the Most High dwells.

5 God is within her, she will not fall;
God will help her at break of day.

6 Nations are in uproar, kingdoms fall;
he lifts his voice, the earth melts.

7 The LORD Almighty is with us;
the God of Jacob is our fortress.
Selah

8 Come and see the works of the LORD,
the desolations he has brought on the earth.

9 He makes wars cease to the ends of the earth;
he breaks the bow and shatters the spear,
he burns the shields [b] with fire.

10 "Be still, and know that I am God;
I will be exalted among the nations,
I will be exalted in the earth."

11 The LORD Almighty is with us;
the God of Jacob is our fortress.
Selah

Ah be still and knows that He is God and He will save your family just Fully rely on God Shao.

PostPosted: Sat Jul 16, 2005 10:12 am
by Danyasaur
I'll deffinately be praying for you, cuz' I'm going through almost the exact same thing, and I know what it's like to stay up all night and listen to your parents fight, I don't want anyone to have to know what that feels like. I'll be praying for your mother too. *hugs* God bless you and your family and bring you peace ^_^

PostPosted: Sat Jul 16, 2005 10:42 am
by Azier the Swordsman
I'll definately pray for you.

PostPosted: Sat Jul 16, 2005 10:56 am
by spirit-me-away
I will pray for your whole Family, it can be tuff but every thing will turn out fine.

PostPosted: Sat Jul 16, 2005 1:35 pm
by Syreth
Lord, please come into this family and do an amazing work of healing that no one ever thought possible. Please heal completely. I pray that Your Spirit would not be quenched. I thank you that Shao Feng-Li has a degree of peace in the midst of this and I pray that Your peace would continue to flow into her life and the life of her family.

PostPosted: Sun Jul 17, 2005 4:28 pm
by Shao Feng-Li
Now although they aren't together, they are nice more like friends now.


I'd hate that.

But thanks guys. It means a whole lot more than I could ever say.

PostPosted: Sun Jul 17, 2005 5:50 pm
by Spiritsword
I will pray.

PostPosted: Sun Jul 17, 2005 6:14 pm
by Locke
Praying ^_^

PostPosted: Mon Jul 18, 2005 9:12 am
by Gala
i just pray that God's will will be done and that there will be healing in whatever is making your parents fight. i'm also praying for you.

PostPosted: Mon Jul 18, 2005 10:31 am
by Mr. SmartyPants
I know what it's like. Many times my mother told me "I can't stand your father, I want to divorce him"

But they haven't so far

You'll be in my prayers