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PostPosted: Sun May 08, 2005 9:29 pm
by soul alive
i'm nearly in tears. prayers would be much appreciated. as many of you know, my little sister is suffering from anorexia, was in the hospital for several weeks, and was released for home care a couple of weeks ago.

the problem right now is that for some reason she has decided that i am antagonistic toward her. so i'm feeling perky lately... i just got out of college for the summer, and my birthday is tomorrow, my bad, i forgot to be grumpy (sorry for ranting). and she's been glaring at me all the time... and what's about to make me cry is that when she went to bed, she told our parents "i love you, goodnight" and said the same to me, but when i answered back "i love you" i heard her mutter, "no you don't" and shut her door.

now that really hurts, because i do love her, and she is putting thoughts into my head that aren't there, and blaming me for it. i'm at a loss of what to do, because anytime i try to really talk to her, she jumps down my throat. so i can't ask why she's doing what she's doing to me.

*sigh* i know i'm probably being really selfish, but i just don't know what to do. prayers and any advice would be much appreciated. thanks, and i apologize for my whining, i just needed to get it out.

PostPosted: Sun May 08, 2005 9:33 pm
by PrincessZelda
I will pray.

PostPosted: Sun May 08, 2005 9:34 pm
by Steeltemplar
soul alive wrote:i'm nearly in tears. prayers would be much appreciated. as many of you know, my little sister is suffering from anorexia, was in the hospital for several weeks, and was released for home care a couple of weeks ago.

the problem right now is that for some reason she has decided that i am antagonistic toward her. so i'm feeling perky lately... i just got out of college for the summer, and my birthday is tomorrow, my bad, i forgot to be grumpy (sorry for ranting). and she's been glaring at me all the time... and what's about to make me cry is that when she went to bed, she told our parents "i love you, goodnight" and said the same to me, but when i answered back "i love you" i heard her mutter, "no you don't" and shut her door.

now that really hurts, because i do love her, and she is putting thoughts into my head that aren't there, and blaming me for it. i'm at a loss of what to do, because anytime i try to really talk to her, she jumps down my throat. so i can't ask why she's doing what she's doing to me.

*sigh* i know i'm probably being really selfish, but i just don't know what to do. prayers and any advice would be much appreciated. thanks, and i apologize for my whining, i just needed to get it out.

That's a hard situation. I will pray for you.

PostPosted: Sun May 08, 2005 9:41 pm
by soul alive
*sigh* thanks guys, i'm going to go to bed, and hopefully tomorrow will be better, and hopefully God will give me a way to get to her.

PostPosted: Sun May 08, 2005 9:43 pm
by Arnobius
it does hurt to be misunderstood. I'll pray for you...

PostPosted: Sun May 08, 2005 9:43 pm
by Stephen
Hopefully she was just mad, and did not mean it. I will be praying about this situation though.

PostPosted: Sun May 08, 2005 9:52 pm
by soul alive
again, thanks.

she seems to have a problem with putting thoughts into other peoples' minds for them... when i visited her in the hospital, her therapist was there, and he talked to her about not doing that. i'm really hoping she's just mad too, but i don't know what i did other than ask that my birthday meal be pizza, which she refuses to eat, and just now, type loudly enough to keep her from going to sleep.

PostPosted: Sun May 08, 2005 11:12 pm
by ShiroiHikari
:\ that, for lack of better term, sucks. I wish I knew what to say.

PostPosted: Mon May 09, 2005 1:40 am
by termyt
Probably not the most popular thing to say, but you are being a little selfish. But feeling hurt is natural and certainly not wrong (and she's being very, very selfish). You can't expect your sister to act a certain way or even just appreciate you. I think if you just continue to love her, regardless of how she behaves, she will come around in the end.

PostPosted: Mon May 09, 2005 1:51 am
by bigsleepj
Praying for you to get through this problem. I hope it sorts itself out quickly.

PostPosted: Mon May 09, 2005 5:51 am
by girlninja
*Hugs *Hugs *Hugs

*shakes head* your not being selfish, and if you are then it's a human thing to do so...your hurt and tired. *hugs my sis was in anorexia too because she thought she was fat when she weighed less then me! And i was like in 6th grade i think....

Your sister is prolly hurt because she's destroying her body...in as which her body is of course not responding kindly to so it's throwing all the chemicals in her body outta whack...especially since she hasn't been eating and such..

And she's prolly targeting you becuz she might not want to blame herself for her actions and when you try to talk to her...it hits a nerve for her becuz she doesn't want to face it

Of course this is me just guessing what is going through her head, you know her best

Just hang in there sis, stay strong becuz you already are...and i know what its like to go through rocky, cliff like jagged sharp times just hang in there and know God is not leaving your side and prolly carrying you right now....

know also you got some uber friends here ^_^

PostPosted: Mon May 09, 2005 12:09 pm
by anime4christ
I'll pray, this is a bad situation that selfishness has nothing to do with (at least in my opinion)

PostPosted: Mon May 09, 2005 1:55 pm
by soul alive
thanks for replying everyone. really, there isn't much i can do, other than pray and show her that i do love her, no matter what she seems to think.