i dont know where to post this, so ill post it here...

[chibiphonebooth]

what do you do when you find out that you think your friend is turning completely lesbian...?


i dont want this to happen to her... >_< shes had some hard times in her life, and this isnt good.




help..maybe? please?

[Yumie]

Well, I think that would depend a lot on whether or not your friend professes to know Christ. If she does, then I would point out to her that Christ loves us no matter what we do, but that being lesbian is not his will for any of his children. And of course you know her personally and so you will probably be better able to tell what would be wise to say to her and what would not.

Then, if she is not a christian, just do your best to be an excellent witness to her in everything you do and say so that she will see Christ and her need for him through your actions.

And before and through all of the above- PRAY. Pray for guidance. Pray that God will convict her and that she will seek his will for her life, and know that there is no love on earth that can possibly even remotely compare to his.

[chibiphonebooth]

yes. well the thing is, ive known that shes been bi for a while... and ive prayed. that God would show her what she is doing.


she was a christian for a short while...but... she strayed. ... i dont know why, because she was very happy with God in her life. (of waht i saw, but then again, i dont know what is in her heart)

occationally i will ask her if she is still a christian. she says yes..but i think that she is just saying it for my sake.

[Yumie]

Well, just continue to pray, it may not be a short term thing, and we don't know what God will do in her life; he may be working things right now that you can't even see or understand. Just keep being her friend, she needs someone to be there to help her find the way if she ever decides to look for it.

[Mr. SmartyPants]

if she is christian, then there is a part of her that does believe, so yeah, ill be prayin!

[chibiphonebooth]

thanx guys...you rock. ^_^

[Ashley]

I'm glad this has been resolved for you, Chibiphonebooth. We are here to encourage and strengthen one another in our struggles. I'm going to go ahead and move this to the prayer forum, and I hope one of the guardians will nab it.

However, at the slightest HINT of distaste or disrespect for this matter--i.e. any posts that don't even attempt to help with the problem, only shoot off ignorant or rude things--will get this thread locked and strikes awarded.

[Rogie]

I'll pray for your friend and you in witnessing to her. I'll also post it in the Prayer List for easy praying reference!

[Mr_Ross]

So she was bi and not she wants to become lesbian....

Well, that's usually a problem someone deals with for their entire life. I'm not really sure why she left the religion, but if many know about her sexuality then some "Christians" who do not have the love of Christ in them could have harassed or insulted her. The best thing I think you could do right now is to keep praying for her and, if possible, try to see if you can find a good, loving church to go to with her. Let her know that God loves her more than anyone else and that she's not evil, and if she was truly saved, that she is not going to hell. She's probably been in a lot of pain throughout her life and I am sure she has even felt sometimes that God doesn't love her..... Please, let her know that God doesn't hate her and that he's not going to send her to hell... You don't have to encourage her being lesbian in any way, shape or form to make her feel accepted. Just let her know that she's loved..

I'll be praying, God Bless you and your friend.

[chibiphonebooth]

wow, thank you so much you guys...

yes, she has had alot of pain in her life. and her brother, who is an atheist, challenged everything she said when she was a christian. i think thats one thing that brought her down. she doubted the religion cause of all these foolish ideas her brother put in her head.

[CephasWhite]

Well, if you can, tell your sister that whatever her brother says about those foolish things are not true. Her brother...and herself...needs to know more about Christianity and the truthfulness behind it.

Exactly what Mr_Ross said, tell her that God loves her no matter who she is, she just has to realize the side effects of being a lesbian and the things that could terrorize her forever...you know...AIDS and those things like that.

Also tell her to go see your pastor, or counsellor, and things should get better for her.

Another thing is to pray with her.

Saying that, I'm praying for you too.

Prayers ^/\^ and God bless,
CephasVII