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PostPosted: **Fri Jul 23, 2004 9:23 am**

My sister is 13. She's wild, rebellious, and bad tempered. She also has a boyfriend. The boyfriend is what I'm asking for prayer for her about. I myself have never met him, but from what I have seen by watching him, I don't like him. He doesn't seem like a nice person, nor a saved person, but one can't always tell that from the outside. My sister is saved, but doesn't act like it either. (Also grounds for prayer.) She hasn't told my parents about this boyfriend because they don't want her to date yet and she knows she'll get in trouble. The only reason I know is because she said in her profile on her AIM account that she loves him.

I don't know quite how to feel about it, but I know I don't like it. At all. But all I can do is pray and ask you guys to pray for her too.

PostPosted: **Fri Jul 23, 2004 12:42 pm**

ill pray for you.. yoru sister and her boyfriend

PostPosted: **Fri Jul 23, 2004 3:22 pm**

I'll pray for them, Spirit Wolf.

PostPosted: **Fri Jul 23, 2004 3:52 pm**

So will I. If she loves him like she says she does, has she thought about where that might end up? Maybe that would cause her to do some heavy pondering over the situation.

PostPosted: **Fri Jul 23, 2004 6:32 pm**

I'll pray for your sis and you.

PostPosted: **Fri Jul 23, 2004 8:16 pm**

Father,
Being younger once myself, I know it is hard to understand that I may not understand the true meaning of love. Father, I pray for Spirit Wolf's sister to understand the love You have for us and how it differs from the attractions we feel.

Father, please guide Spirit Wolf that she may respond and treat her sister as You would and that her sister will once again be responsive to Your call through her sister.

In Your Son's Name,
Amen.

PostPosted: **Sat Jul 24, 2004 5:40 am**

I'll pray for your sis. I have struggled with wanting to have a non-christian boyfriend too. She's going to need all the prayer she can get and a lot of self-control.

PostPosted: **Sat Jul 24, 2004 12:25 pm**

i will pray.

PostPosted: **Sat Jul 24, 2004 3:10 pm**

shooraijin wrote:So will I. If she loves him like she says she does, has she thought about where that might end up? Maybe that would cause her to do some heavy pondering over the situation.

As far as I know, she hasn't. See, me and my sister don't talk all that much, and when we do, we don't talk well. Like, we argue almost constantly.

Thank you, everyone, for your prayers. They're greatly appreciated.

PostPosted: **Sun Jul 25, 2004 7:04 am**

I will pray.

PostPosted: **Sun Jul 25, 2004 9:42 am**

i will keep prying fo your sis..

PostPosted: **Mon Jul 26, 2004 1:11 am**

ROFL. 13.

PostPosted: **Mon Jul 26, 2004 5:09 pm**

I'll pray that they'll both be pointed Christward (is that a word?)

PostPosted: **Thu Jul 29, 2004 10:08 am**

Actually, Volt, I'm not really all that surprised by your advice. Those are my own feelings on the matter myself. I haven't dated myself yet, and I'm the older sister!

I know of a couple that met in high school and they're married with a couple kids. ^_^ My teacher. He's the awesomest.

Thanks, again, everyone.

Another little thing about my sister, her attitude bites. It doesn't matter how much any of us do, it's never enough, it's never right, and it undoubtedly will make her mad when we don't try harder. She's a spoiled little brat, if you ask my opinion, and I know why, but the steps won't be taken to fix the problem. It's very complicated and stupid and could have been prevented a long time ago and saved the entire family a lot of stress! My parents raised me different than they raised my sister, and I say that in all honesty. I don't want to sound like I'm building myself up or anything, but it's just the facts. It very much irks me, because if she was my child, I wouldn't have let her get this bad.

This is a sore spot for me, too, obviously, so I'm going to ask for prayer for myself as well.

PostPosted: **Thu Jul 29, 2004 11:23 am**

i will pray and that sounds like my youger bro so i can realate.

PostPosted: **Thu Aug 12, 2004 6:26 pm**

I hate to bring up an old thread, but I think the situation permits it. I'll admit it guys, I'm really afraid for my sister right now.

The cops went over to her boyfriend's house. Now they're at my house. I have no idea what's going on and I"m close to tears, which hardly ever happens, and I'm afraid. I'm literally shaking. My parents are furious.

When I know more about the situation, I might share, just please please please pray. I'm so afraid for my sister right now.

PostPosted: **Thu Aug 12, 2004 6:46 pm**

I'll be praying. I hope and pray everything is okay. Please keep us updated, Spirit_Wolf.

PostPosted: **Fri Aug 13, 2004 6:00 am**

I don't want to share the specifics of what happened, now that I know what happened, but everything wasfine as far as the police were concerned. She's in no trouble with them. It's my parents she's in trouble with. They're revoking tons of her priviledges until further notice and she lost her new cell phone. (They're taking it back to the store.)

The only decision I'm not agreeing with with what they did, not that it's really my place to agree or disagree, is they're not letting her go back to one of our Youth Groups. (She and I go to two churches. The one they're not letting her go to is the one we only go to Youth Group for.) For awhile, they weren't sure they were going to let me go back, which made me feel worse than when everything was going on, but I'm allowed to go back.

I just ask for continuing prayer for my sister. It scares me because she's starting to act like one of our old friends did, and now that friend can't live in Maryland because of all the crap she's done. (On that note, pray for her too. She was my best, best friend at one point in time.)

Thank you.

PostPosted: **Fri Aug 13, 2004 10:23 am**

Spirit Wolf, you know i'm always there for you. I'll pray for you and your sister and all that's going on. Stay strong
much love always

PostPosted: **Fri Aug 13, 2004 12:41 pm**

Things aren't going so well. My sister threatened to run away today. I called my mom home from work because of it. My sister says she hates me, hopes I burn in Hell, and that she hopes my life is miserable and I should stay out of hers. She cussed me out quite harshly too. I have to say, she's the first person to ever do that. That's sad.

I was actually afraid to stay home just the two of us today. That's another reason I called my mom home....I'm really glad I have to work all day tomorrow.

PostPosted: **Fri Aug 13, 2004 2:19 pm**

Wow, that sounds quite tough. I'm sure sorry to hear that all of that happened, but I will continue to pray. I'll pray that your sister's heart will be softened to God and His purposes for her.

PostPosted: **Fri Aug 13, 2004 4:21 pm**

YIKES! THAT WOULD HURT! Relatioships can be darngerous. I will pray for your sister.

PostPosted: **Fri Aug 13, 2004 8:35 pm**

I know you haven't heard from me in months and its a very long story. But I'll be praying. If you sister threatens to run away again, or continues to I may be able to try and talk with her. I mean, a little over a month ago I ran away. I'll be praying.

PostPosted: **Sat Aug 14, 2004 6:57 pm**

Ohhh, Spirit_Wolf I feel for you. I have been praying and I will continue. Your sis is probably angry and hurt right now and she's lashing out in all directions to protect herself from further hurt.

PostPosted: **Sat Aug 21, 2004 8:06 pm**

indeed I shall. But hey, try to do something about it. Relationships can really mess up people. and I mean... BADLY.... you'll be lucky just to beable to escape it with a few scratches. Try to jump in, and question your sister about this guy

PostPosted: **Sat Aug 21, 2004 8:29 pm**

Volt wrote:ROFL. 13. I'm not trying to be mean. But at age 13 all girls and boys go Wanna-be love crazy.

I mean Girls at that age will say they love anything. Show 'em a Frozen Ham and they'll have a crush on it. The love your sister speaks of is nothing but temporary. I know you don't like my answer, and it's not something that you expected. You're just here to get a simple "I'll Pray" but I'm here to tell it to you like it is.

She should not be dating at all. The average teenager looses their virginity at age 14 if not sooner. So I'd do my best to make her see that. Millions of parents can't be wrong, Dating is something that should start at age 18. The couples you see dating in High school have a 100% chance of breaking up. I know 1 couple that took things seriously after highschool and they were Topanga and Corry Mathews from Boy Meets World.

The relationship you sister and her boyfreind have is nothing, and will never be anything. It might seem like cute "precious moments" love but that isn't real. She really really shouldn't be dating. And I know at least 3 good Preacher girls who turned renigade and slept with their boyfreinds. Now they just move from one guy to the next. Never truely having a relationship that lasts. One of them's stuck with an Abusive Boyfreind. She's white living with her black boyfreind in a black neighborhood in a not so freindly part of town. So she's cautious about going for help. The other's hanging with a Boznian gangster somewhere in North St.Louis (Major Bad Part of Town)

I'm telling ya. relationships in Highschool, elementry don't last. College is a whole other story. That's where people get serious and commited.

While your advice is good, and I agree that she shouldn't be dating, some highschool relationships do last. I know several that have lasted, so do not condemn them all. Elementary relationships on the other hand...I've heard of maybe 1 or 2 that did.

Anyway, Spirit_Wolf, how old is your sister's boyfriend? When you say the cops went to his house, do you mean just where he lives, or is he grown? I'll pray for her.

PostPosted: **Sat Aug 21, 2004 9:10 pm**

My relationship with my brother is very important to me, even though he lives in another state and we rarely see each other. I can only imagine the pain you are feeling. I pray our Father grants you peace in this. I also pray your sister wises up a bit before irreparable damage is done to your relationship.

Stay strong, Spirit Wolf. We are behind you.

PostPosted: **Sat Aug 21, 2004 9:56 pm**

wow i will contume praying i can't belive i didn't see the updates on this thread.

PostPosted: **Mon Aug 23, 2004 1:19 pm**

Mr. SmartyPants wrote:indeed I shall. But hey, try to do something about it. Relationships can really mess up people. and I mean... BADLY.... you'll be lucky just to beable to escape it with a few scratches. Try to jump in, and question your sister about this guy

That's just it, there's nothing I can do about it. I can't talk to her. She'll throw it in my face if I even hint at trying.

Anyway, I have an update to add. Things, while getting better outside the family, are disintigrating inside the family. My parents don't trust my sister anymore. Dad is angry because he thinks my mom is trying to turn all the blame on him. He's got a bad temper to begin with, but that's still no excuse. He keeps saying that my sister isn't a member of the family anymore and he doens't love her. Thankfully not where she can hear him, but he says it. Mom just keeps ranting about the fact that she can't trust my sister. (She rants to me, and, quite frankly, I'm getting tired of hearing it.) She keeps saying how this is going to give her a heart attack. Every once in awhile, though usually unrelated to this particular thing, they both talk about leaving. My sister isn't doing anything to regain their trust. She keeps making it worse. She gets angry over the smalles and stupidest things, then bawls her eyes out when they get angry at her for it.

Right now, it seems like a lot of old arguements are popping up amidst all this too.

On a personal level, it's gotten so emotionally stressful, it's making me physically sick. I feel like I can't deal with my family right now. I feel like I'm walking in the dark, with no idea where I'm going or what to do. My temper keeps getting away with me, but luckily I can keep it in check until I get into my room where I can rant my heart out.

On a positive side, things have been getting a smidgen bit better. And, for the weirdest reason, this is doing wonders for my prayer life and my feeling of security in God. ^_^

PostPosted: **Mon Aug 23, 2004 2:11 pm**

Man, you sound just like me accept for the fact I'm younger and my sister is older.

I'll remember to keep you im my prayers.

(P.S. just give it some time and try, no matter what talking to your sister). That last post sounded just like my family was about a year ago,But were doing much better now.