General Lust Prayer Thread (WARNING: Mature Content)

[NekoChan_C]

Hey, let me throw a prayer request in. Don't know why this didn't occur to me until just now. A friend of mine is so way into pornography that he wouldn't even call it an addiction. If you asked, he'd say "I just love porn." He makes no attempt to hide the hentai, just puts it right there on his anime shelf (although his interest expands beyond hentai). I don't know precisely for how long he's been into it, but he's pretty far gone. Fortunately, as we all know, no one is too far gone for God to bring back. Just pray that He will do so for my friend. Thanks very much, brothers and sisters.

Spoony,

I've been praying for him since I learned about his issue (over a year ago) ... funny thing is that sometimes, the more you pray, the harder the demons causing the oppression try to hold on... It may get worse before it gets better, but never give up the prayer!

bye for now,
Neko

[Nightshade X]

ummm... I have kind of avoided this thread up til now because I wasn't sure it would be prudent to post in, but I was heartened by the encouragement that has been offered to everyone who has posted. I have struggled with lust since I was a very young child (I was sexualized early by exposure to novels and movies that were far beyond my years) and have been a slave to both masturbation and porn, as well as illicit sex itself. It has really only been in the last few months that my mindset has changed on what is good and acceptable, and to truly understand the horrific damage that both can inflict on relationships and on your own self image.
I still struggle with the temptations to not only give into lust, but I am guilty of intentionally causing lust in others. I have been a stumbling block in the worst way and coming to understand what I was doing has humbled me in a very real way.
Sexuality is a wonderful gift, straight from God Himself, but just as the "Beloved" in the Song of Solomon says "Do not sir up or awaken love until it pleases".
For those who are struggling with lust and are looking to marry, I give you a word of encouragement:
Be honest about your problem, with your intended as well as with yourself. Not only will justifying it and denying it will only bring about a cauterization of conscience so that you begin to lose that conviction about it as a sin, it will DRIVE A WEDGE BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR MATE.
Yep, it's that bad.
God is always there to offer forgiveness and freedom, but it is of our choice to take it. He won't force it on us.
I'm praying for every one of you guys on here, and I ask that you pray for me as well.
I want to marry my beloved, and he deserves to have all of my desire, not just the portion of it that I havent sold off cheaply.
Neko-chan

You know... there are times when I'm just amazed by what comes out of peoples' heads. Normally, I say that as a negative statement, but... I have to say, this is truly encouraging. It kinda makes me think about who God is... not the Great Authoritarian Killjoy that people often think of Him as being, but the One who loved deeply enough to send His own Son to pay for our lives with His own while we were still His enemies.

Here's how I think of it: even now, even as His children, we freshly experience His love in such powerful ways when we look at our lives... when we see the damage that has been caused by the hands of others, or by our own fallen will... When we see the devastation that has taken place and then look upon the heart of God, and see that His love toward us hasn't changed at all because He looks beyond our mistakes and our bondages to see the people we were meant to be and encourages us to keep trying. To be honest, I want to completely break down and cry out to Him at the top of my lungs whenever the thought fully grasps me... and it makes me want to fight on, no matter how many times I fall flat on my face day after day, so that I can reach my ultimate desire... that the one I marry will NEVER, as long as we both live, have to deal with my failure to keep myself pure... and that she will have every shred of me that she was meant to have.

I pray we all learn to take the freedom and forgiveness that God offers us each time we utterly fail and allow Him to change who we are so that we can become who He sees. The offer is constantly on the table, so... why not take Him up on it?

So... to any and all of us who have spent their lives engaged in this fight and have found ourselves face down in the dirt after failing yet again, I offer this to you: stand to your feet and fight on like the proud sons and daughters of the Most High that you are.

Never say die.

[NekoChan_C]

To be honest, I want to completely break down and cry out to Him at the top of my lungs whenever the thought fully grasps me... and it makes me want to fight on, no matter how many times I fall flat on my face day after day, so that I can reach my ultimate desire... that the one I marry will NEVER, as long as we both live, have to deal with my failure to keep myself pure... and that she will have every shred of me that she was meant to have.

Your wife will love and honor you all the more because of your passion for purity and commitment to God and to her... It is a gift that is immeasurably priceless.

I'm praying for you!

Neko

[NekoChan_C]

I have been digging into my "Prayers That Avail Much" book, which is a wonderful asset for any and all Christians and found this prayer, that I have been praying over myself, my boyfriend and all my friends struggling with this issue here on CAA...

I highly recommend this book and I hope that this prayer helps someone else the way it has helped me!

the website that posted this (I copy/pasted, rather than typing it all out! ^_^;;) has a number of excellent prayers, many from PTAM... if you want to check it out, the link is http://hometown.aol.com/windspiritsue/Page1.html

LOVE YOU GUYS!!!

Neko




DELIVERANCE FROM HABITS

Father, in the name of Jesus and according to Your word, I hereby believe in my heart and say with my mouth that Jesus is the Lord of my life. I also confess that from this day forward I am set free and delivered from the habit(s) of ____________(smoking/nicotine, etc) in the name of Jesus.

Satan, you and all your principalities, powers and master spirits who rule the darkness and spiritual wickedness in high places are bound up and I am loosed from you in the name of Jesus, as it is written in Matthew 18:18,19. No longer can you, satan, harass or operate any of your unclean spirits or habits over me. I will not become the slave of anything that exalts itself over the Word of God or be brought under its power. I hereby confess that I am strengthened and reinforced with mighty power in my innermost being. I am strong in the Lord. I am empowered through my union with the Lord. I draw strength from the Lord-that strength which His boundless might provides. I arm myself with the full armor of God, that armor of a heavily armed soldier which God has supplied to preparation of the gospel of peace…the shield of faith…and the sword of the Spirit, which is the Word of God. With God's armor on, I am able to stand up against All the strategies and deceits and fiery darts of satan in the name of Jesus.

As an act of my will and my faith, I receive complete and total freedom now. I am set free and delivered because I have called upon the name of the Lord, according to that which is written in His Word.

I am able to discipline my body and subdue it. I am strong. I am free. I withstand temptation, because Jesus is the me..the helmut of salvation…loins girded with truth…breastplate of righteousness…feet shod with the Lord of my life. Jesus is my High Priest, and with Jesus and the Father on my side, I have the strength for all things. Greater is He that is in me than he that is in the world.

Thank You, Lord. I praise You that I am whole and redeemed from every evil work. With You and Your Word in me, I control my body. It does not nor can it ever again control me in the name of Jesus. Hallelujah! Amen

[roadoffew]

the lyrics to "in the light" are exactly how I feel now with struggles with this addiction.

I keep trying to find a life
On my own, apart from You
I am the king of excuses
I've got one for every selfish thing I do

What's going on inside of me?
I despise my own behavior
This only serves to confirm my suspicions
That I'm still a man in need of a Savior

(chorus)
I wanna be in the Light
As You are in the Light
I wanna shine like the stars in the heavens
Oh, Lord be my Light and be my salvation
Cause all I want is to be in the Light
All I want is to be in the Light

The disease of self runs through my blood
It's a cancer fatal to my soul
Every attempt on my behalf has failed
To bring this sickness under control

Tell me, what's going on inside of me?
I despise my own behavior
This only serves to confirm my suspicions
That I'm still a man in need of a Savior

(repeat chorus)

Honesty becomes me
[There's nothing left to lose]
The secrets that did run me
[In Your presence are defused]
Pride has no position
[And riches have no worth]
The fame that once did cover me
[Has been sentenced to this Earth]
Has been sentenced to this Earth

Tell me, what's going on inside of me?
I despise my own behavior
This only serves to confirm my suspicions
That I'm still a man in need of a Savior

(repeat chorus 2x)

[There's no other place that I want to be]
[No other place that I can see]
[A place to be that's just right]
[Someday I'm gonna be in the Light]
[You are in the Light]
[That's where I need to be]
[That's right where I need to be]

[Htom Sirveaux]

I should get this off my chest. I had a relapse yesterday. I bought a porn DVD at FYE. But later, after I was . . . erm . . . done with it . . . I threw it away. Then I took it out of the trash. Then I snapped the disc in two and threw the bits away. I hated my failure but remembered not to hate myself for it. After all that, I know now more than ever that I'm done with porn and I swear I'm never going down that road ever again.

[Sheenar]

Thanks for sharing, Spoonybard. I am so glad this is a place where people can be gut-honest and be welcomed and loved.
I will be praying for you friend. Remember that you are still a work in progress and God is not through with you yet.
Just don't try to beat this sin with your own strength (I've tried that and fell on my face) --but depend on God's strength. And when you fall, remember that God's grace is sufficient for you and that Jesus is interceding before God on your behalf--because of Him, we don't have to stay down when we fall --and He always provides a way out of temptation.
I hope this is encouraging in some way. I'm afraid I may be rambling because of my extreme tiredness...

[Prince Asbel]

I should get this off my chest. I had a relapse yesterday. I bought a porn DVD at FYE. But later, after I was . . . erm . . . done with it . . . I threw it away. Then I took it out of the trash. Then I snapped the disc in two and threw the bits away. I hated my failure but remembered not to hate myself for it. After all that, I know now more than ever that I'm done with porn and I swear I'm never going down that road ever again.

Read my post on this thread http://christiananime.net/showthread.php?t=48260&highlight=kenny+luck

Even if you're living by yourself, have a friend install it so only they know the passwords. It will definitely help having someone in the real world you can be accountable to. And you're in my prayers.

[NekoChan_C]

Just a reminder, everyone... Conviction is from the Holy Spirit, but condemnation is from the devil... There is no shame in falling, as long as you stand up more determined than ever to focus on God and His will...

I've slipped, too, and it will probably happen again... >.< If it was *easy* to quit, no one would "be" addicted... you know?

Thank God that He forgives us whenever we ask...

[Sheenar]

Just a reminder, everyone... Conviction is from the Holy Spirit, but condemnation is from the devil... There is no shame in falling, as long as you stand up more determined than ever to focus on God and His will...

I've slipped, too, and it will probably happen again... >.< If it was *easy* to quit, no one would "be" addicted... you know?

Thank God that He forgives us whenever we ask...

Did I come across as condemning? Because, if so, I really, really did not mean to. My words just sometimes come out wrong.

[NekoChan_C]

Did I come across as condemning? Because, if so, I really, really did not mean to. My words just sometimes come out wrong.

NO!!! I meant that sometimes we feel condemned by ourselves... or by our thoughts and feelings... I'm sorry it came across that way...

[Warrior 4 Jesus]

I haven't 'physically' lusted for a while but that's only because of God.
Not me. I don't have the strength.
Lust is so powerful, it looks great until you've taken a bite. But then you want more even though you know how bad it is for you.
I'll be praying for you mate.
We all need God, and his strength to fight lust.

[Aleolus]

Just a reminder, everyone... Conviction is from the Holy Spirit, but condemnation is from the devil... There is no shame in falling, as long as you stand up more determined than ever to focus on God and His will...

I've slipped, too, and it will probably happen again... >.< If it was *easy* to quit, no one would "be" addicted... you know?

Thank God that He forgives us whenever we ask...

Actually, there is a requisite for that. God forgives us as we forgive others. I forget the passage where it says that, but I do recall about what it says:
"As ye judge, so shall ye be judged; and as ye forgive others, so shall ye be forgiven."

[Warrior 4 Jesus]

Ye. (lol)

[Suzysaver]

While it's kinda sad that so many people struggle with it i think it's really great that we can talk about it and pray for each other. Honestly it's been a real testimony to me to see you guys sharing and praying for one another. And I would ask for prayer too. I'm in a really just numb place with God right now and have been for a while but i really want to try to change that but somehow something always happens to get in the way of that and nothing ever changes.
I got into porn and yeah 'M' at a youngish age unfortunately but amazingly God slowly brought me out of it,(well the Porn anyways) for which i am soo thankful. But now the problem is with me and my boyfriend. We used to have lines that we wouldn't cross but over time they all pretty much wore down and now lust is a real struggle for both of us. And i feel like i don't even know how much is too much anymore (besides the obvious of not going all the way) and i know that it's worse for him because he struggled/struggles with porn alot more. And i feel really bad because i know i'm not helping that any. So please pray for both of us and i will return the favor.

[Prince Asbel]

You and your boyfriend are certainly in my prayers. Hey, if you want to know where to draw a line, I'd suggest whenever one of you starts feeling aroused. That line is different for most people, so I can't lay one out for you myself. But, since no one but the two of you are going to handle this problem, you've got to be honest with each other about saying at what point you start thinking lust and not love, you know what I mean?

May God bless you with the strength and wisdom you need.

[Suzysaver]

You and your boyfriend are certainly in my prayers. Hey, if you want to know where to draw a line, I'd suggest whenever one of you starts feeling aroused. That line is different for most people, so I can't lay one out for you myself. But, since no one but the two of you are going to handle this problem, you've got to be honest with each other about saying at what point you start thinking lust and not love, you know what I mean?

May God bless you with the strength and wisdom you need.

Thank you...yes i know exactly what you mean. I need to remember that i think it will help. Thank you so much for your prayers

[SnEptUne]

I recently found out there is such thing as chasity belt on the Internet, which is a device to protect oneself and others from temptation. It is a little extreme in my opinion, but is that still used in modern days?

[Aleolus]

I would imagine so, though I expect it's used for far more erotic purposes nowadays than it was in the past.

[NekoChan_C]

I would imagine so, though I expect it's used for far more erotic purposes nowadays than it was in the past.

How very ironic, and completely likely in our day and age... Something that was once meant to preserve chastity and purity, now being sold as an erotic novelty, meant to entice and arouse...

We as a species are very messed up indeed. >.<

[AJV]

Please Pray!

[Aleolus]

For you and me both, friend, you and me both.

[Lone Gamer]

couln't you have your sex drive surgically removed to get rid of the problem?
I googled it and havn't found anything info.

[NekoChan_C]

Well, there is a method of chemical/surgical castration that greatly diminishes or abolishes sex drive, but... I don't think that God wants us to take that route either... He created us as being with sexual drives. But we are commanded to only empluy those feelings within the snctified context of marriage. Otherwise, I would believe that God wants us to give over aour physical lusts the same as we give over other sins; including worry and fear, anger, bitterness and other emotions that tend to be less controlled and we end up in trouble over...

[Prince Asbel]

Lone Gamer, if you mean something along the lines of castration, don't be silly. Come on. That's a permanent solution to a temporary problem.

[Lone Gamer]

Better safe than sorry, I mean if i don't defeat this somehow im going to end up going to Hell.

[Prince Asbel]

Well, no you're not. Committing larger sins is not going to take you out of salvation. You and I may disagree on that, but anyway, let's take your own argument to its logical conclusion.

Would you also cut off your hand to keep yourself from committing certain sins? Sins may be avoided that way. Of course, you don't need to stop there. You could cut off your eyes, your ears, your legs, your eyes, etc. You can live without those things and avoid sin, but it makes no sense.

These parts of our body were created to be used the way they should be, and to suggest castration is to do just as bad as suggesting hacking off all your limbs. You don't impare yourself for you, your wife, or possible procreation. You remedy your problem by other means, just like you do for fixing problems with your hands, feet, ears, eyes, etc.

P.S. Jesus' command to cut off your hands and feet are hyperbole. That's the only way to interpet it in such a way as to keep consistency of the command to evangelize.

[Lone Gamer]

Well i need my hands to do certain stuff, like open a doorknob or write, and i need my legs to walk. Well i don't need my limbs but it makes life easier. People don't need a my "Ya know" it doesn't help you open door knobs or write, and walk. I just need that bad boy to do #1. But with castration i won't have a badboy, just a hole. Im just saying this to people who have problems with lust, just a suggestion.

[Prince Asbel]

Well i don't need my limbs but it makes life easier.

Bingo. Logically, you could do without all those things. The point is just because you can live without something that doesn't mean you don't need it. You need all the parts you have. Like I said with evangelism. If you removed all the things you can survive without, you wouldn't be able to evangelize. It be impossible to do that and near if not totally impossible to procreate without the part we're discussing.

Just forget about this, okay? It's a bad suggestion. Really consider what I've said. I'm sure you'll change your mind.

[Kunoichi]

In my opinion....

sin is sin. There is no "larger" sin or "smaller" sin. Telling a lie is the same as committing murder. *Now i don't mean I think that the consequence on a human level is the same but that in the eyes of God, there is no greater or smaller sin.*

The reason i say this is because murderers can be forgiven just as easy as liars or thieves.

In terms of castration, you could do this and yes it may diminish the sex drive. But that doesn't mean it will stop lust. Lust is lust, and doesn't always have to deal with sexual lust as physical or monetary etc. Though often lust is seen and experience sexually.

I think that lust can only be overcome with God's strength, means of removing temptation (if most happen when you are alone or idle then force yourself to play a game or do something constructive).

This is my opinion and take it as you wish