Here's the deal.
I attend a tiny non-denominational Bible church where everybody knows everybody. I know this phrase is over used, but every member of that church is like a family to me-- especially all the members under the age of 18.
Well, one of the families closest to me is the-- we'll just call them the Jones for sake of anonymity. I'm close friend with the Jones' second daughter, who's now attending college about a half hour away, and I and my sisters are also very close to the Jones' son [who shall be dubbed] Clark, age 15. I've known Clark since he was born, and, as I said above, he is just short of being a younger brother to me.
Clark is a real sweet heart. His father is a missionary to children (through CEF), and Clark himself desires to enter the missions field. He has a very sensative conscience and has struggled with alot (Including a bone infection that could have killed if it weren't for the grace of God) in his short life. He's home schooled, and I think he believes that all girls are as kind and have as noble intentions has the girls in our church. I bet you see the problem coming already. . .
Recently a young lady, also 15 years old, has started casually attending our church. In the first several weeks of attendance, she started date and broke up with one of the young men her age who we have been trying to introduce to Christ. The break up left him thoroughly bitter and he swore never to come back. It was a real loss, but that's just the half of it.
Now, now a month removed from the "relationship", this girl has got her little DEVIL EYES set on Clark. I learned yesterday that, while he was at church with him, she lured him back to one of the rooms and kissed him.
I'm struggling with the intense desire to crazy glue this girl's lips to her toes!!
She's not a christian, so this relationship may seem perfectly normal to her, but it just breaks my heart to see her trying to cheapen Clark with this juvenile "romance" crud that she's pulling on him.
So here's where I need you guys: Please pray that I won't let any part of this bitterness take hold of my heart. It's so tempting to hate this girl, and to be mad with Clark. Pray that I'll have wisdom to know what to do with this information.
Argh, life stinks sometimes.
Feelings of. . . protective wrath!!
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Feelings of. . . protective wrath!!
Every year in Uganda, innumerable children simply. . . disappear. These children all stolen under the cover of darkness from their homes and impressed into the guerilla armies of the LRA [Lord's Resistance Army]. In the deserts of Uganda, they are forced to witness the mindless slaughter of other children until they themselves can do nothing but kill. Kill. These children, generally ranging from ages 5-12, are brainwashed into murdering in the name of the resistance and into stealing other children from their beds to suffer the same fate.
Because of this genocide of innocence, hundred and hundreds of children live every night sleeping in public places miles from their homes, because they know that if the do not-- they will disappear. They will become just another number in this genocide to which the international community has chosen to turn a blind eye. They will become, in affect, invisible-- Invisible Children.
But there are those who are trying to fight against this slaughter of Uganda's children. They fight to protect these "invisible children." Please, help them help a country full of children who know nothing by fear. Help save the innocence. For more information concerning how you can help and how you can get an incredible video about this horrific reality, visit the Invisible Children home page.
Because of this genocide of innocence, hundred and hundreds of children live every night sleeping in public places miles from their homes, because they know that if the do not-- they will disappear. They will become just another number in this genocide to which the international community has chosen to turn a blind eye. They will become, in affect, invisible-- Invisible Children.
But there are those who are trying to fight against this slaughter of Uganda's children. They fight to protect these "invisible children." Please, help them help a country full of children who know nothing by fear. Help save the innocence. For more information concerning how you can help and how you can get an incredible video about this horrific reality, visit the Invisible Children home page.
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Mangafanatic - Posts: 4918
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Sure thing. I'll be praying for you and for her salvation.
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone
And so hold on when there is nothing left in you
Except the Will which says to them: 'Hold on!' ...you'll be a Man, my son!
Rudyard Kipling
Satan, bite the dust!
"You are not who your mistakes say you are; you are not the sum of your failures!"---Rev. Billy Miller
Proverbs 18:24
To serve your turn long after they are gone
And so hold on when there is nothing left in you
Except the Will which says to them: 'Hold on!' ...you'll be a Man, my son!
Rudyard Kipling
Satan, bite the dust!
"You are not who your mistakes say you are; you are not the sum of your failures!"---Rev. Billy Miller
Proverbs 18:24
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Ssjjvash - Posts: 1073
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Sure thing, sis. That stuffs dangerous. And, about the Crazy Glue, I sometimes feel that way about couples myself. 
So, you're not alone. I'll be praying.
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K. Ayato - Posts: 3881
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Hey Mangafanatic:
I'm sorry, I don't want to take away from the seriousness of your situation, but I personally laughed when I read the part about gluing the girls lips to her toes....that was great. Your a good Big sister, don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
I'll pray for you and Clark and even this other young lady. I pray that God gives you the understanding and the knowledge you will need to address the situation.
I will pray that Clark's eyes will be opened and at the wrost that he matures and becomes stronger from this experience...
And that this other young lady will mature as well and figure out that Church is not guys central, but a place to worship and build a relationship with God, which is probably the only relationship she should be concentrating on right now.
But I hope things work out for the best, and know that perhaps the only way for Clark to grow up and become more mature as far as the opposite sex, is to learn from experience. I know it's hard, escpecially if your that protective, but sometimes ya have to let them learn on their own.
God Bless,
Archan
I'm sorry, I don't want to take away from the seriousness of your situation, but I personally laughed when I read the part about gluing the girls lips to her toes....that was great. Your a good Big sister, don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
I'll pray for you and Clark and even this other young lady. I pray that God gives you the understanding and the knowledge you will need to address the situation.
I will pray that Clark's eyes will be opened and at the wrost that he matures and becomes stronger from this experience...
And that this other young lady will mature as well and figure out that Church is not guys central, but a place to worship and build a relationship with God, which is probably the only relationship she should be concentrating on right now.
But I hope things work out for the best, and know that perhaps the only way for Clark to grow up and become more mature as far as the opposite sex, is to learn from experience. I know it's hard, escpecially if your that protective, but sometimes ya have to let them learn on their own.
God Bless,
Archan
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Archan - Posts: 472
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Well, your friend "Clark" can't always be sheltered from the real world, and sometimes lust can make people do really stupid things. We can't always be there to protect others.
If you see this guy as a brother why not try talking to him about the situation and what you fear may/will happen?
I'll pray that God gives your friend good judgement.
If you see this guy as a brother why not try talking to him about the situation and what you fear may/will happen?
I'll pray that God gives your friend good judgement.
"A merry heart doeth good like a medicine.." Prov 17:22
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agasfas - Posts: 2341
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you should just crazy glue her lips and....*looks around* prayer thread... ok, scratch that thought.
hope things work out lol, i know what it's like to be protective of brother and brother-like friends and to hate when they are in danger of getting hurt. makes us take up arms eh? *gets out gun* er...wait, prayer thread...sorry. 
(i miss the cute little sweat drop smiley =/ )
But yeah, prayers and best of luck being at peace w/ the issue..maybe good will yet come.
hope things work out
lol, i know what it's like to be protective of brother and brother-like friends and to hate when they are in danger of getting hurt. makes us take up arms eh? *gets out gun* er...wait, prayer thread...sorry. (i miss the cute little sweat drop smiley =/ )
But yeah, prayers and best of luck being at peace w/ the issue..maybe good will yet come.
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I wondered if this might happen.
Within twenty four hours, Clark spilled everything to his parents. Good boy. *pats Clark* He's grounded for. . . a LONG time, but I'm sure he doesn't feel guilty anymore.
This morning my little sister who's almost exactly his age called him to talk and before she could get out a full sentence he started crying and told her that he was sorry for lying to her (yeah, my little sister saw this coming and had him promise to her that he wouldn't kiss this girl that he kissed) and hurting her. Poor kid.
Thank you everyone for praying over this. I feel much better now, and I'm glad that Clark remained sensative to the Holy Spirit. Thanks again everyone!
Within twenty four hours, Clark spilled everything to his parents. Good boy. *pats Clark* He's grounded for. . . a LONG time, but I'm sure he doesn't feel guilty anymore.
This morning my little sister who's almost exactly his age called him to talk and before she could get out a full sentence he started crying and told her that he was sorry for lying to her (yeah, my little sister saw this coming and had him promise to her that he wouldn't kiss this girl that he kissed) and hurting her. Poor kid.
Thank you everyone for praying over this. I feel much better now, and I'm glad that Clark remained sensative to the Holy Spirit. Thanks again everyone!
Every year in Uganda, innumerable children simply. . . disappear. These children all stolen under the cover of darkness from their homes and impressed into the guerilla armies of the LRA [Lord's Resistance Army]. In the deserts of Uganda, they are forced to witness the mindless slaughter of other children until they themselves can do nothing but kill. Kill. These children, generally ranging from ages 5-12, are brainwashed into murdering in the name of the resistance and into stealing other children from their beds to suffer the same fate.
Because of this genocide of innocence, hundred and hundreds of children live every night sleeping in public places miles from their homes, because they know that if the do not-- they will disappear. They will become just another number in this genocide to which the international community has chosen to turn a blind eye. They will become, in affect, invisible-- Invisible Children.
But there are those who are trying to fight against this slaughter of Uganda's children. They fight to protect these "invisible children." Please, help them help a country full of children who know nothing by fear. Help save the innocence. For more information concerning how you can help and how you can get an incredible video about this horrific reality, visit the Invisible Children home page.
Because of this genocide of innocence, hundred and hundreds of children live every night sleeping in public places miles from their homes, because they know that if the do not-- they will disappear. They will become just another number in this genocide to which the international community has chosen to turn a blind eye. They will become, in affect, invisible-- Invisible Children.
But there are those who are trying to fight against this slaughter of Uganda's children. They fight to protect these "invisible children." Please, help them help a country full of children who know nothing by fear. Help save the innocence. For more information concerning how you can help and how you can get an incredible video about this horrific reality, visit the Invisible Children home page.
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(Note: Not speaking to you, but using your comment.) Not to mention the girl with "DEVIL EYES"]YHWH[/B] has commanded prophets to marry prostitutes, though fully admitting they would exhibit infidelity. This is an extreme example, but a useful one for my following comments. How do you know that this will not in fact teach Clarke to resist temptation and not give trust too readily, perhaps in a worse situation. How do you know that such a thing wouldn't in fact end up giving the testimony to save her in the end? If anything is worth praying for, it is that YHWH's will be done, for His Wisdom - Yeshua Christ - is infinately greater.Mr. SmartyPants wrote:perhaps ye should talk to clark about the subject
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An excellent note GotN. Since the event I refer to above happened Sunday and I've had no face to face interaction with either of them, I haven't had had an opportunity to any talking about this subject. "Devil eyes" has been a subject of prayer by a great many people, most notably her uncle and aunt who attend our church.
I don't really think it's my place to talk to her right now, because I don't know her much at all. Secondly, I think she's been talked to at length by the aforementioned uncle and aunt. I will be keeping an eye on the two of them as well as trying to befriend the young lady.
I don't really think it's my place to talk to her right now, because I don't know her much at all. Secondly, I think she's been talked to at length by the aforementioned uncle and aunt. I will be keeping an eye on the two of them as well as trying to befriend the young lady.
Every year in Uganda, innumerable children simply. . . disappear. These children all stolen under the cover of darkness from their homes and impressed into the guerilla armies of the LRA [Lord's Resistance Army]. In the deserts of Uganda, they are forced to witness the mindless slaughter of other children until they themselves can do nothing but kill. Kill. These children, generally ranging from ages 5-12, are brainwashed into murdering in the name of the resistance and into stealing other children from their beds to suffer the same fate.
Because of this genocide of innocence, hundred and hundreds of children live every night sleeping in public places miles from their homes, because they know that if the do not-- they will disappear. They will become just another number in this genocide to which the international community has chosen to turn a blind eye. They will become, in affect, invisible-- Invisible Children.
But there are those who are trying to fight against this slaughter of Uganda's children. They fight to protect these "invisible children." Please, help them help a country full of children who know nothing by fear. Help save the innocence. For more information concerning how you can help and how you can get an incredible video about this horrific reality, visit the Invisible Children home page.
Because of this genocide of innocence, hundred and hundreds of children live every night sleeping in public places miles from their homes, because they know that if the do not-- they will disappear. They will become just another number in this genocide to which the international community has chosen to turn a blind eye. They will become, in affect, invisible-- Invisible Children.
But there are those who are trying to fight against this slaughter of Uganda's children. They fight to protect these "invisible children." Please, help them help a country full of children who know nothing by fear. Help save the innocence. For more information concerning how you can help and how you can get an incredible video about this horrific reality, visit the Invisible Children home page.
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Mangafanatic - Posts: 4918
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Devil Eyes is most likely seeking Him as well, although she may not realize it's Him she seeks. I doubt she feels your church is just a good place to meet boys. I could be wrong.
Perhaps a nice little chat with her and Clark about her intentions with the young man of steel is in order. Take some crazy glue with you, though, so you'll be ready no matter the outcome. If you don't feel it's your place to do that, then talk to someone whose place it is.
Well, there I go again. You didn't ask for advise, but I gave it anyway. Feel free to disregard.
Father,
Thank You for Osaka's heart - a heart full of concern for Your children. Father, lead her in how to best use that concern in a way that benefits all concerned. I pray Devil Eyes finds what she's looking for and Clark finds what he needs.
Amen.
Perhaps a nice little chat with her and Clark about her intentions with the young man of steel is in order. Take some crazy glue with you, though, so you'll be ready no matter the outcome. If you don't feel it's your place to do that, then talk to someone whose place it is.
Well, there I go again. You didn't ask for advise, but I gave it anyway. Feel free to disregard.
Father,
Thank You for Osaka's heart - a heart full of concern for Your children. Father, lead her in how to best use that concern in a way that benefits all concerned. I pray Devil Eyes finds what she's looking for and Clark finds what he needs.
Amen.
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