banana_chan wrote: the therapist asked her that question and she stomped out of his office and now shes taking anger management classes. but im sure in time she'll learn that she has to move on and just remember that her mother does love her even in death.
I'd say get a new therapist. A child losing their mom is not someone you can approach so early and basically tell them, get over it. This will take years of healing. I mean, the first year or two alone, she will have deep thoughts of regret, depression and anger. Anger management? What a crock! She needs some loving arms around her and to know someone is nearby to listen.
Sorry, banana_chan, but I had a very dear and close friend die on Mother's Day, no less, from breast cancer, leaving her 3 beautiful daughters behind. This was maybe 5 years ago. They were in the age range of 12, 14 and 18 at the time. I even wrote the mother's eulogy. I can tell you, that they would come over and just hang out. That's what they needed at the time. They are all doing fine now.
I'm sure they are not very celebratory around Mother's Day, who would be? But, they are very involved in breast cancer awareness and two are in college now.
Time heals, and friends only have to be there for them. That's all they want and need, someone who'll listen.
Sorry, if I went on and on; but, that little girl doesn't need to be put through the ringer once more with anger management - she needs to know the kind of love Christ gives us, He is just always here for us - always. Maybe you should let her know that, in a roundabout way. The Lord will give you the moment and I'll pray you get the moments.
May God bless her and comfort her in this time.